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Originally Posted by forgvn3as1
My situation was very similar to yours. My ex cheeted on me when I was pregnant with my second child. We seperated for 1.5 years then tried to reconcile. That worked for about a year and he was back to his old ways again. The second time we seperated I decided I would not let him in my house no matter how much I needed him because I had to be strong and it just caused to much confusion with my children. He takes them sometimes on the weekdays but he goes somewhere with them and brings them home later. Everyother weekend he takes them to the house he lives at. It has made things so much easier for me and the children. When he comes to your home it causes the children to think he is home and if you arent going to reconcile you need to make it clear that he is not going to be in the home because he dosent live there. It is not selfish to hold your ground. If you are going to move on then you can not let him in your home anymore. Need a babysitter take them to him or have a friend babysit.
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I don't agree with the whole not letting him in the house thing. That would have confused me more than him being in the house. My parents are not divorced but my older bro and his ex had a child together and she was having some mental issues at the time of the relationship and for awhile during and after the end( she is doing a lot better now). The cops had actually up at our house a few times (her and bro lived in the downstairs app) . The relationship did not end the best but they both put my nephew first. they get along much much better now and my nephew alternates sleeping at my bros apartment and his moms place. My bros ex is in/at the house all the time. And my nephew is fine with it.