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Originally Posted by EllaD
You post felt so personal to me. I completely understand how you feel. My ex husband left me weeks after our 5th baby was born. In his case, there was someone else and before I could even process that fact, they left the state together. I too struggled so much when he would see the kids or call them. I was still in love with him and it took quite a while for the shock and the feelings to fade enough for me to move on with my life. With God, with so much prayer, and with support I did in time. It didnt happen over night of course, but it did happen. In all honestly, even though I'm at a place now where I consider myself "good" I have my moments, however now they are more that I miss the memories of what once was. Allow yourself time to grieve and time to heal. Its amazing the grace God gives us when we go through trials and hardships. I look back now and wonder how people do it without the Lord.
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Wow... That is terrible. I am sorry that happened to you. How did you deal with him wanting to speak to his children knowing how you still felt about him? Did he come over often to see the kids? Did you allow the kids to go with him on weekends? I just don't know how I should approach this situation...I know that in the end I have to make what ever decision is best from me...I just want to make sure I am not being selfish with my choices. He and I only have two children, a 2 year old and a one month old...but we were together for so long..7 years...So it is a lot for me to swollow...He and I always talked about this and one thing I always said is that I would never come between him and his son...that was before I was pregnant with the second child. Last year we had a really bad falling out where he moved out on his own...But I was still trying to make things work and would call him all of the time until finally we decided to try again. But when we would get into arguments he would say that he is only here for his son...so i would tell him that he didnt have to be here...and that I wouldnt get in the way of the relationship that he has with his son...so now with the way I am feeling...I feel that I would sort of be getting in the way but at the same time...things ended REALLY BAD this time around AND i was pregnant when he decided he JUST WANTED OUT! So I am still heart broken by this...IDK...I am hoping it doesnt take long to move past this...How long did it take before you felt like you were in a better place to deal with him...for the sake of the children?