OreoSoleil, I dont offer for him to come at all...in fact i dont even call him. I dont see the need to call him. If he wants to see his kids he can give me a call...but he also knows that he cannot come when he wants because I will not sit around and wait for him. I do love him...I am still in love with him but I am not going to force the kids on him you know...when he doesnt call for a few days, I don't either...when he doesnt come over for a week, I dont say anything about it...I actually just told him the last time he came over that I will be going back to school and will need him to help out more with the kids as far as getting them in the bed by a reasonable hour. But I dont ask for much...We dont talk...idk it is just weird that he and I were the best of friends before we ever had children, and now, we are hardly even speak...it's crazy how much things have changed. And its sad...he was my best friend...He loves his kids...and I dont want to come between the three of them...but my emotions are getting in the way...so i dont know...So as it stands now...I do not look any further than tomorrow...and what ever happens happens...I don't want the way I feel get in between the relationship my children have with their father so that means I am just going to have to deal with it. When he comes over, I will go out and give them time to each other...just find other things to do to occupy my time so that they will get to see their dad...My kids happiness comes before my own.