I would use the measure of love to make a decision.

Love is not self-seeking.

So if it is going to stress either one of you beyond what you can bear, I would not do it.

Why not give all your love to the ones you have.

And just pray for a little girl, because eventhough you might not have one in your arms, and in your prescence, there is one out there who needs a loving family, home and safety such as you would probably provide.

It happens, I know. But if you want a child, and your husband doesn't. And you force and pressure the issue, that is a type of manipulation is it not.

You using him for what you want, beyond what he may be able to give.