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peacebestill

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Will God send me a life partner and how will I know?
 

Agricola

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HOw long are you prepared to wait? 10, 20 ,30 or even 40 years? God sent me along at least 3 potential wives, but they exercised their right of free will and did not want anything to do with me. God gave me a little vision of one, and other two I just knew, Holy SPirit showed me, they glowed and were radient, they were beautiful to me, I had conformation from different sources, but they did not even want to socialise with me.

One other woman who would have been a fantastic wife and one I still yearn for as I know how great it would have been with her, came over from America, I knew her from chat room but did not realise she was coming over to UK for 3 years , in end I found out she was moving a couple of miles from me, we were excited to meet, but when she arrived she got cold feet, other men were jealous of me and turned her against me, so we never even met, but she galavanted all over Europe meeting her internet mates. That hurt me alot. Within a few months she back in the USA her dream in tatters and ruined. Was I part of the plan for her journey here, I am sure I was, but when that plan went down the pan, she went back, how much Gods doing in that return, I don't know.

So yes, you will know, only 21 you are young, your life is not yet over, many young people and especially teenagers moan and complain because they have not had a relationship, Christians seem more fickle and shallow than non-christians, at my first church there were about 20 females within a couple of years of my age, I really did like a few, one I though I was getting serious with, but she was just after my money and I deluded myself in thinking she was going to be my girl.

The first person who genuinely liked me and showed genuine affection was an atheist, I married her... yes I know, great move! well it was at the time, I was 26, went well for 3 or 4 years, then it all went horribly wrong and to cut a long story short I divorced her and ended up with house and kids.

Anyway that's my take on relationships, Sometimes things do not work out as it had done on paper.
 

peacebestill

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Thank you for sharing! maan you had a long road! sometimes that can happen. I guess my best bet is to trust in the Lord and be patient.. I am actually (23) btw a little older, (I put the wrong age) in case your wondering. but yeah I been with my Boyfriend for almost 10 months I'm just wanting to live God's way now in my life and I am not sure if he is my "Husband" I would like to think so only time can tell... so yeah. Thanks again, Hopefully you'll find someone soon! :) Stay Blessed.
 
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Will God send me a life partner and how will I know?
Live your life as to glorify Christ, and continue to learn His will by studying the Bible, both old and new testaments. Pray throughout the day in everything you do, not for what you want, but for what Christ wants you to be, with or without a mate. Let God make the choice for your life. What advice do I give in finding a soul mate? Pretty simple. Three words in fact. Love Jesus first. That pretty well sums it up.


If you will love Jesus, you will be amazed at how things will fall into place. That's not to say there won't be any surprises along the way. But it is to say that you will be on track with your Lord, and He knows exactly where to lead you to fulfill the desires of your heart. Not only that, but you will find the desires of your heart aligning with His will as you learn to trust Him, love Him, and follow Him.

Psalm 37:4 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

If you concentrate on what you want first, you may not receive it. If you concentrate on what God wants first you will have the desires of your heart. According to his will is the key. That's a promise.

1 John 5:14-15
14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:
15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask , we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.
 
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When asking for a life time partner, you should make sure that you are clean from sin, because if you are semi dirty, God will give you an semi dirty man. God had Noah to put the animals on the ark with its own kind and God isn't going to put the clean animals with the dirty.
 

peacebestill

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Thank you this helped alot!!:) God bless you!
 

peacebestill

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Thank you! for the enlightenment ;) haha no but thank you God bless you!
 
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kaylagrl

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God can send you a partner,if that is his will for your life.But be careful and don't be discouraged if it doesn't happen right away.I was in my late 30s before I dated.My family and friends picked on me and made jokes about being an "old Maid".I got so depressed and discouraged.I wasn't really looking for a partner but they made me feel something was wrong if I wasn't dating at my age.I met a guy who said he wanted to become a Christian and I fell for it hook,line and sinker because I was hurt and lonely.He cheated on me,took money and left without breaking up with me.His brother emailed me to tell me.Well I felt 10 times worse then,and rejected.My family said they knew all along he was a bad person,why didn't I see it? My mother stood by me,the only one.We were out Christmas time looking at decorations and I said I wasn't putting up a tree or celebrating Christmas,my favorite time of year.She said "you may be dating this time next year".I scoffed at that.By the next Christmas I was dating the man I just married a month ago! How did I know he was the one? Because with all my faults and broken heart,he loved me.When I didnt trust him,he still loved me.He didnt push me,or ask anything of me.He was patient and respected me.I knew he was the one.He's my best friend.
So I said all that to say this...be patient.Dont focus only on falling in love or finding "the one" Live your life to the fullest and the right one will come to you! And you will know.He will say and do the right things and you will know your life is better with him than without him.Dont let Satan discourage you.You deserve the best man God has for you.Dont settle for any less! You will deeply regret it.
 

peacebestill

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Awwwww loved the cute short love story! Thank you so much, yeah I agree it takes time. I'm willing to wait for it too. Before I was like, "everybody has someone and i'm over here like -__-" Lol. but it's all for a reason. I actually want to be READY first and have my life together! I'm done with depending on people. if it is in God's will to have me focus on just him then hey.. I'm all for it! He knows what best for me than anyone else. Thanks again! and congrats :)
 
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kaylagrl

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Thank you! You have a very positive attitude and I'm sure things will work out for you.I've had a problem with some churches that don't have something special for singles ministry.Not fun sitting there alone when everyone else is making goo goo eyes at each other.lol I spent a lot of time with couples feeling like a third wheel.Every church should have a singles ministry.Be open and ready and when you're not looking like a pig for a truffle,that person will just come along and sweep you off your feet.He'll cherish you and you'll be glad you waited.Be blessed!
 

Ella85

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Look into your crystal ball :p
 

JesusLives

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When asking for a life time partner, you should make sure that you are clean from sin, because if you are semi dirty, God will give you an semi dirty man. God had Noah to put the animals on the ark with its own kind and God isn't going to put the clean animals with the dirty.
I agree to disagree with you sir....On this earth it would be a very rare human that you are going to ever find clean from sin. I would say that you could find a human that is relying on God to help them get clean from sin. But no one is ever going to find a clean sin free human for a mate. Because we are all sinners and this world is the current state of sinful humans.....So you might want to reconsider this post.... We can be forgiven sinners, but still sinners none the less.
 
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The moment I know she was the partner, I d let you know it too.
Ha! Ha!
 

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When asking for a life time partner, you should make sure that you are clean from sin, because if you are semi dirty, God will give you an semi dirty man. God had Noah to put the animals on the ark with its own kind and God isn't going to put the clean animals with the dirty.
Who in the world is free from sin as even a born again believer stumbles at times. God accepts us as who we are and if our hearts are willing will provide for the necessary refinements. This advice you have provided is naïve and if followed will result in a lifetime of waiting for Mr. Perfect or Miss Right. If you wait for all of the lights to turn to green and for all of the 'T's' and 'I's" to be crossed before proceeding forward in a relationship you are going to be waiting for a very long time.
 
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I could be also part of the problem or the solution but I see it too late now> I gave it up.

He! He!
 
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Will God send me a life partner and how will I know?
it is actually wise to remain in whatever state of relationship when called by God. Ideally, which certainly ought to be God's provision, a husband for you is being prepared to share with joy your calling in this life. It's a real disappointment to marry someone having no interest in the things of the Lord. So it is you are far better off not being unequally yoked together, each pulling to their own side.

1 Corinthians 7:32-35 (KJV)
[SUP]32 [/SUP] But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
[SUP]33 [/SUP] But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
[SUP]34 [/SUP] There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
[SUP]35 [/SUP] And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.


In general, concerning daily acquaintances, friends, spouse:
2 Corinthians 6:14 (KJV)
[SUP]14 [/SUP] Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?



Marriage is the most important investment you can make between a man and a woman. That union has enormous impact on both.
 

peacebestill

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Thank you! Glory be to God. And thanks for sharing.
 
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dalconn

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When asking for a life time partner, you should make sure that you are clean from sin, because if you are semi dirty, God will give you an semi dirty man. God had Noah to put the animals on the ark with its own kind and God isn't going to put the clean animals with the dirty.



Hosea 1:2
The beginning of the word of the Lord by Hosea. And the Lord said to Hosea, Go, take unto thee a wife ofwhoredoms and children of whoredoms: for the land hath committed great whoredom, departing from the Lord.


I think we do well to just not be unequally yoked...