broken heart versus wounded heart

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sassylady

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I heard a message on a Christian program the other night that really had me puzzled. The speaker was talking about the difference between brokenness of heart and a wounded heart. She said a wounded heart is a selfish heart, one that only thinks about poor me. I was pretty stunned, I would never have said that. I believe you can have a broken heart from a circumstance or relationship, or maybe it really is a wounded heart. But if you are hurt, that doesn't make sense to me. The hurt is real. Of course hanging onto it does not do any good, but I never saw it as a selfishness.
 
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purpose

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hmmmmmmm? interesting ! you got my wheels turning? hmmmmmmmmmm! going to my books.
 
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Ariel82

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I think it refers to a "wounded heart" as one that holds onto a grudge. One that is not willing to forgive others when they feel wronged or slighted. They seek to get revenge or lash out at others when they seek to bind their wounded heart. They allow scars to grow and harden their heart so they don't have to hurt or feel any more. They think only of how THEY have been wronged but do not admit to any wrong doing they might have done to others.

Whereas "brokenness of heart" refers to a state of being where the person has come to an end of themselves and seeks God's help to heal their heart or give them a new one. It is when someone admits to their part in hurting others and hurting themselves and prays for God to show them what needs to be done to mend the breach of trust. Brokenness of heart allows God to teach people to forgive others and be tender to people who may be wounded and needing love, forgiveness and healing.
 
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purpose

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i would think they would be the same also ? Psalms 147:3 He Heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds( curing their pains and their sorrows) Psalms 34:18 The Lord Is close to those who are broken heart and saves such as crushed with sorrow for sin and are humbly anf thouroughly penitent( sorrow for sin). Isaiah 57:15 For thus says the High and lofty One- He who inhabits eternity, whose name is Holy : I dwell in the high and Holy place, but with him also who is of a thoroughly penitent and humble spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble and to revive the heart of the thoroughly penitent( bruised with sorrow for sin) . With these scriptures and many more Perhaps a wounded heart she was meaning wounded by a bruised heart with sin in it.example selfish heart! with my little bit of study and following scriptures is just my thought and interpation . how i read it. Thank you for an interseting point that i searched after this is what i enjoy.!
 
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purpose

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i like Ariel82 post also makes since!
 
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purpose

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sense! sorry ! spell check sometimes! lol
 

Joidevivre

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Looking up both words in the Hebrew sense, broken means "shattered" and wounded means "pierced".

That is how they are used in the Old Testament.
Even when we are told that Jesus was wounded for our transgressions, it means "pierced"....which he was.
 
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Angelmommie

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I think a wounded heart is more emotional, something that with time "heals" and you can move on..example..a relationship, although i do not know why that would be considered selfish unless they meant because you can heal from that and you choose to cling to it? Where a broken heart can never actually be "healed" as with everything broken it can never truly be whole again, even if you "glue"it back together it is still broken never one whole piece again..there are somethings that even God can not make whole..please do not get me wrong He can and does send the most unimaginable comfort when ever the need arises..but sometimes the glue can crack if even for just a moment..it is also not just emotional it is also physical..just my thoughts...
 
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1stworldview147

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Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!
 

OneFaith

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I heard a message on a Christian program the other night that really had me puzzled. The speaker was talking about the difference between brokenness of heart and a wounded heart. She said a wounded heart is a selfish heart, one that only thinks about poor me. I was pretty stunned, I would never have said that. I believe you can have a broken heart from a circumstance or relationship, or maybe it really is a wounded heart. But if you are hurt, that doesn't make sense to me. The hurt is real. Of course hanging onto it does not do any good, but I never saw it as a selfishness.

I always thought of a wounded heart as something temporary- like catching someone saying something behind your back that you asked them not to tell anyone. It hurt, but it didn't end the relationship. And a broken heart as something permanent- like someone close to you died, or you had to amputate a limb.

Never did I think of either being caused by selfishness.