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dexter5419

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A little over two weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me. She said that things don't feel the same between her and I. I fully believe in the power of prayer. I pray that God will restore our relationship. I love this woman very deeply. I feel we had a very good Christian relationship going for the time we were together. I also know that she in fact had strong feelings for me. Somehow those feelings faded on her behalf. I was hoping for some advice on what I should do. I know God loves me and wishes to give me the desires of my heart by me delighting in him. I also do not doubt the power of the Holy Spirit for one moment. I've seen God do so many things in my life that have been from him. I've been praying for God to restore this relationship for her and I. Please could you give me feedback on what I should do. I promised God to love this woman like Christ loves the church, and to hold fast to her, care for her, protect her, and treat her like a man of God should treat his wife. I strongly desire this woman to be the mother of my children. As I said, I do not doubt God's power. I believe he can heal our relationship and that he gives us promises for a reason. What should I ask God to do in my life? Thank you, and God bless all of you. If you do believe God is willing to restore a relationship between a male and female that aren't married yet, could you please pray for my situation?
 
tourist

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I have prayed for your situation but please understand that God will not force her to come back to you. That will be her choice. Please take comfort in that if she choses not to come back to you God may appoint another to take her place as He knows your true heart and what you are really searching for.
 
ArtsieSteph

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Dexter, I sadly have no advice to give you but it is evident that you have genuine care for this young lady. I pray both of you will grow in this time, and that if it's His will that you two should get back together that He would comfort you in this time.

All I can suggest is pray, stay in the word, and let her sort things out if she needs to.
 
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An I agree with tourist. God may have a lady better suited for you but you just have to wait on Him. Gods plan may not always be what we want, but it's what He knows we need.
 
Brainfreeze

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My advice would be this quote but I will pray for you brother, been there before.

If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.
 
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kaylagrl

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Did your girlfriend give you a reason for the breakup or what changed for her? Have you had problems before? I dont think you said how long you'd been together.
 
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dexter5419 said:
A little over two weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me. She said that things don't feel the same between her and I. I fully believe in the power of prayer. I pray that God will restore our relationship. I love this woman very deeply. I feel we had a very good Christian relationship going for the time we were together. I also know that she in fact had strong feelings for me. Somehow those feelings faded on her behalf. I was hoping for some advice on what I should do. I know God loves me and wishes to give me the desires of my heart by me delighting in him. I also do not doubt the power of the Holy Spirit for one moment. I've seen God do so many things in my life that have been from him. I've been praying for God to restore this relationship for her and I. Please could you give me feedback on what I should do. I promised God to love this woman like Christ loves the church, and to hold fast to her, care for her, protect her, and treat her like a man of God should treat his wife. I strongly desire this woman to be the mother of my children. As I said, I do not doubt God's power. I believe he can heal our relationship and that he gives us promises for a reason. What should I ask God to do in my life? Thank you, and God bless all of you. If you do believe God is willing to restore a relationship between a male and female that aren't married yet, could you please pray for my situation?
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I love this woman very deeply.
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I promised God to love this woman like Christ loves the church, and to hold fast to her, care for her, protect her, and treat her like a man of God should treat his wife.
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Relationships have tentacles.
Right now you probably feel like your guts have been ripped out.
Been there done that. You have to let the relationship pass through "tests" .this one is being tested. Let the test happen. Refocus on the eternal things. You need a "default mode" that consists of a single eye on heaven and the "earth be damned".
Let her have some rope/space and keep telling yourself that this test WILL PASS.

I also get overblown emotionally with my partner. Space is CRUCIAL. In fact I would almost bet that you smothered her.(I really do not know that)......but it does have that ring to it.

Good it is happening now so you can see if the relationship can take the many many storms that WILL COME.
I found out I made a mistake right after i got married. You will pay,and pay and pay years and years if she is not "the one"
 
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