Do you think God has chosen your mate?

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grace

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This is my first time reading this thread. It was/is quite long, so I only skimmed through. To get back to the orriginal posting question......"Do you think God has chosen your mate..?" Do you also mean..do we believe there is ONE perfect person for you ordained by God to be our spouse..?

If that is also what you mean...then I say no. I say no because I have known two people in my life who have been widowed. One young in her late 20's and one older in her late 50's. They both went on to meet another person...and are blessed enough to have a 'second' wonderful marriage. Just as fulfilling and Christ centered as the first.

I believe that God truly knows what is best for us because He see's the beginning and the end...He IS the beginning and the end.

I do not want to give any answers that can be construed as "cliche"....because those just get trampled on in these forums (as least from what I have seen). BUT....if one is not focused on self....then it is near impossible to make selfish decisions. :)

Interesting topic...and some interesting answers. :)
 
olivetree32

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grace said:
This is my first time reading this thread. It was/is quite long, so I only skimmed through. To get back to the orriginal posting question......"Do you think God has chosen your mate..?" Do you also mean..do we believe there is ONE perfect person for you ordained by God to be our spouse..?

If that is also what you mean...then I say no. I say no because I have known two people in my life who have been widowed. One young in her late 20's and one older in her late 50's. They both went on to meet another person...and are blessed enough to have a 'second' wonderful marriage. Just as fulfilling and Christ centered as the first.

I believe that God truly knows what is best for us because He see's the beginning and the end...He IS the beginning and the end.

I do not want to give any answers that can be construed as "cliche"....because those just get trampled on in these forums (as least from what I have seen). BUT....if one is not focused on self....then it is near impossible to make selfish decisions. :)

Interesting topic...and some interesting answers. :)
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hi Grace, long time no see. yea i guess my question was, do you think that God has chosen your mate.
yea, i do think there is a person ordained by God, when we are walking with our Lord and waiting on Him, yes for sure. Because i think God wants His best for His children. Sorry about your widowed friends, but does that mean they were not chosen by God before they went home to be with Him? I don't know if they were christians , or where there walk was, but i see your point. However i still belive God has that speacial somone lined up just for you and me.
 
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grace said:
This is my first time reading this thread. It was/is quite long, so I only skimmed through. To get back to the orriginal posting question......"Do you think God has chosen your mate..?" Do you also mean..do we believe there is ONE perfect person for you ordained by God to be our spouse..?

If that is also what you mean...then I say no. I say no because I have known two people in my life who have been widowed. One young in her late 20's and one older in her late 50's. They both went on to meet another person...and are blessed enough to have a 'second' wonderful marriage. Just as fulfilling and Christ centered as the first.

I believe that God truly knows what is best for us because He see's the beginning and the end...He IS the beginning and the end.

I do not want to give any answers that can be construed as "cliche"....because those just get trampled on in these forums (as least from what I have seen). BUT....if one is not focused on self....then it is near impossible to make selfish decisions. :)

Interesting topic...and some interesting answers. :)
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I tend to agree with Grace on this one. Finding a mate that is slightly compatible is hard enough much less finding on that is highly compatible. So I'm thinking, rather than looking for someone who already meets the description your looking for ( ussually when you do find them they're most likely taken), the goal would to be find someone who may not fit the bill now but is willing to do their best to grow into that role.

Life is a compromise, give and take. Who knows... maybe there's a "diamond in the rough" near you who just needs a little more time in order to take shape.

Even Superman can't be super all the time! Maybe you ladies should be looking for Clark Kent instead... *lol*
 
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@the topic... first thought was... :p What mate? :p I dont have one. haha
 
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Amen, it's a shame people try to butcher the Word to fit their desires. I don't think the Bible could be more clear on the matter.
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I think it's more shame to assume that people tend to assume that everything that is contrary to their belief is plainly just for the person's desire. So was it now Hosea's desire to marry the prostitute woman?
 
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jody, that is funny! clark huh, lol!
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Hey now! What's wrong with Clark Kent? *lol*

Well, when you have worked with teens for as long as I have... you use whatever analogies that are effective... *lol*
 
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Is it Biblical for God to chose your spouse?

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lovespeace123 said:
Is it Biblical for God to chose your spouse?

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I imagine it does happen,maybe even more so than we might think. However, I feel that sometimes God may send someone our way but because our standards are set so high already, we may miss out on someone who could possibly become that which we desire over time if we only put our trust in God and the leading of His Holy Spirit.

Please keep in mind, that I completely agree with not pursuing someone that is unsaved or of a different faith. Couples who are unevenly yoked is an unfortunately reality today.
 
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I just don't see the scriptural basis for God electing a spouse. The only thing you possibly see is when Abraham chose a wife for Isaac with his servant, but that is nothing like the 'make a wish for a perfect man/woman' and praying for it. I'm convinced by faith, though not by witnesses or teaching or something I have learned in church, that there are many women/men who believe in that doctrine. But in my heart, I think it is part of the greater 'out-of-placement' of marriage in churches. We are a moderate people who like Joshua should neither look to the left or right, but in the center should run zealously for God. Every GOOD and perfect gift comes down from the Father of the Heavenly Lights. Marriage out-of-context like money is not a good thing.

Sam
 
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twistedlinen said:
You see by just saying obvious does not mean it is the original idea of the writer. We might be saying obvious because that's what people taught us about and therefore as we read it, it is now referring to marriage. The thing is, in that context, i.e 2Cor 6:14, marriage is never mentioned, so it is not wise to say it really referred to marriage. Since I was not the one who presented the interpretation of it, I was asking if you could support your stand.

(It helps a lot to dig a lil bit deeper.)
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twistedlinen,

I have been reading your arguments, using the scriptures, and I have to say that you are truly devoted to finding the church. The points you raise make sense. I also must admit that at some point in my life, I was also confused and asking those same questions and that you are now raising. There are several points, though, I think you probably have not considered.

What was forbidden, at least strictly from scripture, was not the marriage of a harlot to a believer but that of an Israelite to another nation. The scriptures do not say that Gomer was not of one of Israel's descent. We know that Priests were not allowed to marry harlots as per Leviticus 21:7, but again Hosea was not a priest. Therefore, we have no reason to assume that Gomer was not an Israelite.

When reading the book of Hosea 1:1, we can estimate the time and place of Hosea. Since the scripture says "The Lord gave this message to Hosea son of Beeri during the years when Uzziah, Jotham, Ahaz, and Hezekiah were kings of Judah, and Jeroboam son of Jehoash was king of Israel," we can rightly place Hosea during the years 760 to 715 BC. During this time the Kingdom had been divided for a long time, Israel in the North and Judah in the South, and both were mostly doing what were wrong in the eyes of God.

Since we know that the people of God did mostly what were evil in God’s eyes, it is not surprising that Hosea was to marry one of them for God's purpose. I am assuming you already know what was going under those kings mentioned above so I won’t go into it. However, if am mistaken then take a look in 2 kings. Under captivity, they adopted the moral values of the other nations and abandoned that of God. Knowing the state of being of the nation of God (both the northern and southern kingdom), we know that it’s not impossible that the women were practicing harlotry.

Furthermore, Hosea's relationship with Gomer was to illustrate God's relationship with Isreael ("...This will illustrate how Israel has acted like a prostitute by turning against the Lord and worshiping other gods").By Israel, I mean the whole Northern and Southern kingdom. In essence, Hosea would illustrate God where as Gomer would illustrate Israel. The only way for this illustration to work is for Gomer to be of Israel descent.

The question here now should not be about the marriage between a believer and a non-believer, but about an believer with a believer who backslided. Even when we take this into account, we have to go back to Hosea to see how the story unfolded. As you already know, Gomer was redeemed and there is no evidence from the scriptures that prove that she went back to harlotry.
 
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Ouups... I just realized that I said church instead of truth! sorry~
 
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lovespeace123 said:
I just don't see the scriptural basis for God electing a spouse. The only thing you possibly see is when Abraham chose a wife for Isaac with his servant, but that is nothing like the 'make a wish for a perfect man/woman' and praying for it. I'm convinced by faith, though not by witnesses or teaching or something I have learned in church, that there are many women/men who believe in that doctrine. But in my heart, I think it is part of the greater 'out-of-placement' of marriage in churches. We are a moderate people who like Joshua should neither look to the left or right, but in the center should run zealously for God. Every GOOD and perfect gift comes down from the Father of the Heavenly Lights. Marriage out-of-context like money is not a good thing.

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hi sam! well i sure did not think it was a doctrine for God to simply choose your mate. I know that we have free will to date and do as we please., with or withought the blessing of God.here in this verse you see an angel was sent before the servent on his journey.
Gen 24:7The LORD God of heaven, who took me from my father's house and from the land of my family, and who spoke to me and swore to me, saying, 'To your descendants [fn] I give this land,' He will send His angel before you, and you shall take a wife for my son from there.

i mean this is just devine. And since Abraham was a man of God , i think he knew in his heart where to look for a bride for his son. maybe God put that desire there. here is another thing that is cool. Like us, i believe God gives us wisdome and decernment, even in choosing a mate, i think at the right appointed time God would show us as He showed the servent. make since? You see the servent praying and asking questions of the Lord in his choosing, i think that is very cool. i think that is how it can be with us to Brother, first as i agree with you on looking at God and making Christ are center for sure. the unfolding plan of God is so devine.
 
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