Matt 19:9b (what did Jesus mean when he said man that marries the div woman commits

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JesusLovesUs

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adultery? I need prayers for the salvation of my marriage.
My husband of 10 years is divorcing me because Jesus said in Matt 19:9b , the man that marries the div woman commits adultery.
I was divorced when we married (first husband left me and was unfaithful) and my current husband was a widower when
we married. He says he will go to hell if he stays married to me. Believe it or not he does not want to divorce , he does not want to divorce and have to remain unmarried and celibate the rest of his life. He has been searching the internet for 5 years now and has come to the conclusion that marriage is indissoluble. (first marriages that is) It is absolutely unbelievable that I am forced to divorce again when I believe divorce is a sin. I'm having a hard time believing that God will not forgive remarriage. Jesus never said we were committing adultery perpetually. he was referring to the Pharisees to not divorce their wives to remarry another. that is adultery.
Thank you for praying.
 
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he's right. after your first husband(whom it is impossible for you to return to now) dies, whenever that is, then you are free to remarry your second husband. and he can marry you, without being guilty of adultery and without making you guilty of adultery. cultural differences don't change what Yahshua said about this. it is as your husband found out. as hard as celibacy is, even for a short or a long time, it is better than the alternative. (it doesn't feel better, but be sure as Yahshua said, it is the only way).
 
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JesusLovesUs said:
adultery? I need prayers for the salvation of my marriage.
My husband of 10 years is divorcing me because Jesus said in Matt 19:9b , the man that marries the div woman commits adultery.
I was divorced when we married (first husband left me and was unfaithful) and my current husband was a widower when
we married. He says he will go to hell if he stays married to me. Believe it or not he does not want to divorce , he does not want to divorce and have to remain unmarried and celibate the rest of his life. He has been searching the internet for 5 years now and has come to the conclusion that marriage is indissoluble. (first marriages that is) It is absolutely unbelievable that I am forced to divorce again when I believe divorce is a sin. I'm having a hard time believing that God will not forgive remarriage. Jesus never said we were committing adultery perpetually. he was referring to the Pharisees to not divorce their wives to remarry another. that is adultery.
Thank you for praying.
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The only reason a couple can get a divorce is when someone in the relationship has sex with someone that is outside of the relationship that is not part of the agreement, it is because whom ever they committed the sin with has became one, and has already divorced their spouse when they had sexual relationship with another, even if that person is a prostitute. But Jesus even also said that even if you look at a woman with lust, you has committed Adultery. And so your ex-husband has put you away when he had sex with another, and so he divorced you; and so as it says, if the unbeliever decide to leave (Divorce), let them leave, because God doesn't bound his children to unbeliever for life. So if your present husband decide to leave you, then he is abandoning you and which God doesn't abandon His children.
 
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Sister, despite the flack that I may take for this - Your Husband is dead wrong!

Firstly - your husband LEFT YOU FOR ADULTERY/Fornication and you Did Not Leave/'depart' from him ....

1Co 7:10,11 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.


The LORD never punishes the innocent. He has never said that an innocent spouse must live alone for the rest of their lives as a punishment for their spouses disobedience of adultery and leaving his wife. Why would God condemn the innocent? He Doesn't!

1Co 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

"1 Corinthians 7:15
But if the unbelieving, depart - Whether husband or wife: if such obstinately depart and utterly refuse all cohabitation, a brother or a sister - a Christian man or woman, is not under bondage to any particular laws, so as to be prevented from remarrying." [Adam Clarke]

"a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. The Ethiopic version reads it, "to such an one"; one that is called by grace a church member, and so a brother or sister in Christ, is not to be subject to an unbeliever in matters of conscience, in things appertaining to the worship of God, and the service and glory of Christ; nor, being in such circumstances, that either Christ must be forsaken, or the unbeliever will depart, are they obliged to yield to such an one, but rather suffer a departure; nor are they bound to remain unmarried, but are free to marry another person, after all proper methods have been tried for a reconciliation, and that appears to be impracticable; desertion in such a case, and attended with such circumstances, is a breach of the marriage contract, and a dissolution of the bond, and the deserted person may lawfully marry again; otherwise a brother, or a sister in such a case, would be in subjection and bondage to such a person" [John Gill]

All of this is intensified if your 1st husband remarried before you did. He'd be twice guilty then.

Before we came to Christ, we were slaves to Satan and now we're slaves to Christ. Christ does not hold our previous 'marriage' to Satan against us ... how would that make sense? Why would God punish the now innocent?


Mat 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, "saving for" [=G3924] the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, "except" [=G1508] it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

If SHE commits adultery/fornication, the husband can put her away, but if SHE that commited fornication/adultery remarries, whoever marries HER commits adultery.

Can't get much clearer than that. It says Nothing about the man that divorses this adulterous wife remarrying ... does it? No - just the Guilty partner.



It should be Obvious what these verses are saying.
 
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JesusLovesUs said:
adultery? I need prayers for the salvation of my marriage.
My husband of 10 years is divorcing me because Jesus said in Matt 19:9b , the man that marries the div woman commits adultery.
I was divorced when we married (first husband left me and was unfaithful) and my current husband was a widower when
we married. He says he will go to hell if he stays married to me. Believe it or not he does not want to divorce , he does not want to divorce and have to remain unmarried and celibate the rest of his life. He has been searching the internet for 5 years now and has come to the conclusion that marriage is indissoluble. (first marriages that is) It is absolutely unbelievable that I am forced to divorce again when I believe divorce is a sin. I'm having a hard time believing that God will not forgive remarriage. Jesus never said we were committing adultery perpetually. he was referring to the Pharisees to not divorce their wives to remarry another. that is adultery.
Thank you for praying.
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Divorce is a bad thing and what's important is who gets hurt in that situation. But divorce is not the unforgivable sin. And don't forget that GOD is divorced also.
 
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kennethcadwell

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He is wrong as you two are not living in sin.
His wife died, and your first marriage ended because of sexual immorality which frees you to remarry.
Sexual immorality and death release that bondage of adultery for one to be remarried. People have gravely mistaken those scriptures out of context, as the Lord makes it clear that divorce is acceptable if sexual immorality or fornication, which ever translation you have. The meaning is the same, if you got divorced because of adultery he committed you are free to remarry another. And his ex being dead frees him as well, so you both are not living in sin.
 
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This is legalism taken to an extreme! God does not want your husband to leave you. You were a victim, not a wanton woman. You seem like you are happily married??

Please see a marriage counselor. Your husband may need some private counseling to resolve this guilt.

Praying for you and for your marriage.
 
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Yes ..see Christ is God..previous post..!
 
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