Shoud I ask a girl out?

[Jason0047]

Don't ask her out.

The Scriptures say, do not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship does light have with darkness? Or Christ with Belial? Sure, she may seem nice, but what about your walk with Jesus Christ? Would you not want to find someone who loves Jesus, too?

Anyways, as a believer in Jesus Christ, one of the things I was most happy about when looking back is that God protecting me from being connected to any female relationships who were unbelievers. I can imagine all the disaster and hardship I would face if I was hooked up with an unbeliever. I suppose I was blessed in this regard. Most of the women I liked were Christian. So I would ask God to bring you the right person to take to the prom if that is God's will. If you don't go to the prom, it is not the end of the world. For we have to remember, prom is not a thing that serves God's direct purposes per say. God can use prom for his purposes. But it is not exactly something that you have to do (Just because everyone else is doing it). I didn't go to prom and I do not regret in not going. This world and it's celebrations and it's fleeting pleasures will pass away. They are temporal. Only your walk with Jesus Christ is forever; And if you keep leaning upon the Lord and ask Him to bring you a believing soul mate into your life in His timing (And not your timing), He will do so. I guarantee you that. For the Lord brought someone special into my life. It took many, many years of prayer (with no immediate expectation on my behalf).

 

[Jason0047]

In other words, be patient and wait upon the Lord. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto you.

 

[gb9]

a 16 year old going on a date is not marring a unbeliever. man, lighten up. lighten up big-time.

 

[GrandHoboMaster]

Hi everyone, I'm 16 and there's a girl at school whom I really like.. I was wondering whether or not I should ask her out / to the prom and I would appreciate your opinion on the matter. As far as I know she's not a Christian but she's nicer than most of the Christians I know and she seems open to religion  Thanks in advance for the help!

Well, it is so complicated biblical question. A reason of long disscussion.
There are pleantly examples throughout the scriptures how and for what girls could be called to go out.

Find several and ask yourself - "Should I stay or should I go??"

 

[ji]

Hi everyone, I'm 16 and there's a girl at school whom I really like.. I was wondering whether or not I should ask her out / to the prom and I would appreciate your opinion on the matter. As far as I know she's not a Christian but she's nicer than most of the Christians I know and she seems open to religion  Thanks in advance for the help!

If you are a Christian,then Pray and go for it if its a must(with self-control).
(Prom and dating casually which later leads to immorality is not advised in Holy Bible).Choose wisely,there will be a feeling of loss when we Stand for Godly values,but in course of time it helps in building a Strong Character which is Godly.
The other way when one indulges in things that world does even being a Christian is not going to benefit but it will bring more and more emptiness in one's heart.

From my personal experience,i never had the need to impress or go behind a girl fearing its needed to live in society.And i am glad i didn't go behind such things even if i could.Yes,i felt sad at times during my teenage and thought it was better to have one.But fear of God stopped me always.Now i am glad i did that(didn't go for a girl).

Spiritually,when you share your time with someone of opposite sex or someone who is not familiar or whose personal details you don't know about,it can lead to many dangers.Simply speaking the evil spirits that are accompanying them will get you.There are consequences.

i don't claim to be all perfect,but have my own situations to handle but its all personal...its better that way than to deal another person's garbage too.

If you are not a Christian,then Turn to Jesus First.He will Open your eyes to see everything as it is in course of time.
God Bless.

 

[Jason0047]

a 16 year old going on a date is not marring a unbeliever. man, lighten up. lighten up big-time.

Right, and I suppose God just thought it was fine that the Israelites hang out around the pagan nations so as to be influenced their pagan ways and women which led their hearts away from God. Some of the biggest mistakes can be made while you are young. As a matter of fact, one's younger years are the most vital years of shaping one's spiritual life with the Lord, morals, wisdom, and understanding of the Scriptures, etc.

So don't tell me to lighten up. A child guided in the right way for God is a good thing and not a bad thing. For who's side are you exactly on here? God's side or your own side?

 

[gb9]

I am own God's side, and for the sake of that I do not make up rules that are not in the Bible. being unequally yoked does not mean that someone cannot associate with a non-Christian. to your point about youth: your over the top way too strict interpation of God's word drives young people away from Christ. so yea, I will tell you lighten up and get on God's side, not the side of your rules which you make up.

 

[jduck1986]

Go on the date but don't be tempted!

 

[kingerik]

Right, and I suppose God just thought it was fine that the Israelites hang out around the pagan nations so as to be influenced their pagan ways and women which led their hearts away from God. Some of the biggest mistakes can be made while you are young. As a matter of fact, one's younger years are the most vital years of shaping one's spiritual life with the Lord, morals, wisdom, and understanding of the Scriptures, etc.

So don't tell me to lighten up. A child guided in the right way for God is a good thing and not a bad thing. For who's side are you exactly on here? God's side or your own side?

yeah...but it's prom? I don't believe it's that serious, or if it is then that is up to the Holy spirit to convict OP, not you.

 

[Jason0047]

I am own God's side, and for the sake of that I do not make up rules that are not in the Bible. being unequally yoked does not mean that someone cannot associate with a non-Christian. to your point about youth: your over the top way too strict interpation of God's word drives young people away from Christ. so yea, I will tell you lighten up and get on God's side, not the side of your rules which you make up.

Oh good. Then you will point out to me where the Israelites hung out with the pagans and their pagan ways (With God approving). You will point out where the apostles hung out with false believers and people who denied the Lord's existence with no intent on their part to reach them for God but to just be their close friend. You do that, and then you can say what you just did. In other words, your belief is not in the Bible. Nowhere are believers supposed to make close friends or ties with unbelievers. Sure, that doesn't mean we cannot be nice to them in school, or at work, and or public places. But we are not out to get their number and hang with them like we did in old times past. The only reason Jesus was around sinners was to evangelize them (So that He can live within their heart). That's it. He was not there to be their worldly buddies and let them continue in their sin. For someone who is sick needs a healer or physician.

The Scriptures say, do not have fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather, reprove them. The Scriptures also say, be not deceived, bad company corrupts good morals, too.

 

[Jason0047]

Oh good. Then you will point out to me where the Israelites hung out with the pagans and their pagan ways (With God approving). You will point out where the apostles hung out with false believers and people who denied the Lord's existence with no intent on their part to reach them for God but to just be their close friend. You do that, and then you can say what you just did. In other words, your belief is not in the Bible. Nowhere are believers supposed to make close friends or ties with unbelievers. Sure, that doesn't mean we cannot be nice to them in school, or at work, and or public places. But we are not out to get their number and hang with them like we did in old times past. The only reason Jesus was around sinners was to evangelize them (So that He can live within their heart). That's it. He was not there to be their worldly buddies and let them continue in their sin. For someone who is sick needs a healer or physician.

The Scriptures say, do not have fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather, reprove them. The Scriptures also say, be not deceived, bad company corrupts good morals, too.

In fact, this reminds me of a popular Christian song I heard by Casting Crowns titled "Jesus, friend of sinners."

For one, there are problems with the lyrics. Second, the chorus of the song leaves us with the impression that Jesus is a friend with people who are still actively sinning against Him. That they do not have to repent of their sins. That being a saint is optional. You can be a big time sinner like you used to be and Jesus is still going to be your friend. But is this true?

No.

It doesn't work like that. Jesus started His ministry with the words "repent." Jesus told the woman who was caught in the act of adultery to sin no more.

 

[Jason0047]

yeah...but it's prom? I don't believe it's that serious, or if it is then that is up to the Holy spirit to convict OP, not you.

So you suppose that the Israelites could have comingled with the pagan nations (Who worshiped other gods) to let their daughters go on dates with their sons? Yeah, that's real smart. Unless you do not care about the spiritual well being of your child, then you will not let them go to such an event with an unbeliever. If they want to go to the prom, I have no problem with that. But let him find a Christian woman to take and not an unbeliever. Telling them to take any girl to the prom sends the wrong message to your child that they can hang with unbelievers.

 

[Jason0047]

Go on the date but don't be tempted!

Yeah, that's like saying...

Put that hot steaming pile of food in front of that guy over there who is starving but yet warn him that he better not eat it.

 

[secularhermit]

It be good you ask her that!

it be nice to look at her face when she asked you back: "Why do you want me to go out?".

I´m sure you will get the exact answer, for YOU and for her.

I wish you the best on that day!

 

[Jason0047]

In other words, we live in a world where things like this happen at prom.

'Getting it on' at the prom — condom co. donates free condoms for school proms | Brooklyn Daily Eagle

Prom might have been a little more innocent back in the day, but the times... they be a changin'; And not for the better.

 

[Jason0047]

In fact, it may seem like I may be over-reacting to this, and you feel that the chances are very slim that your child is going to have intimate relations with a member of the opposite sex on that night; But you have to understand it is not about that so much as it is about who you prefer your children hanging out with. Sure, sex can be a problem, too. However, it is about fellowship. Are your children true believers in Jesus? Good. Then they should hang with other believers and not unbelievers. This is your chance to guide them in the good ways of God while they are still young. Unless they are not committed to Christ and do not truly love Him. If that is the case, then you need to talk about that with them (In loving manner).

 

[kingerik]

So you suppose that the Israelites could have comingled with the pagan nations (Who worshiped other gods) to let their daughters go on dates with their sons? Yeah, that's real smart. Unless you do not care about the spiritual well being of your child, then you will not let them go to such an event with an unbeliever. If they want to go to the prom, I have no problem with that. But let him find a Christian woman to take and not an unbeliever. Telling them to take any girl to the prom sends the wrong message to your child that they can hang with unbelievers.

yeah...but it isn't serious as you think. I'm 17, btw...lol, like I said, let it be a matter of conviction rather than personal beliefs. Not even Christians or Christians, so it doesn't really matter anymore. He isn't marrying or even dating her, he's taking her to PROM which isn't anything to throw a fuss about. They aren't going to do anything but talk, dance, socialize and have an excellent time. Also, i am friends and do occasionally hang with atheists and other religions...I know...my young corruptible mind. Seriously though, it isn't that serious, and if it is, God will convict OP about it...lol.

 

[BritishDave]

Hey I appreciate your concern.. but are you suggesting I should abandon all of my non-christian friends?

 

[GuitarPraise]

Hey BritishDave good to have you. Looks like you've stirred some hate and also some potentially questionable advice. I wish people would stay on point and help you out.

I've always been the type that views dating as a pursuit to a wife, any other reason is looking for trouble. To me anyone that is not a christian fails to meet the minimum qualifications. There are good people in prison and there are bad people in church, I wouldn't date them either. If I'm interested in someone that isn't a believer (or they're interested in me) I always invite them to church. But again I wouldn't date someone just because they go to church, it takes time to know if someone is going to live for God. I know the prom is a big thing for some people and I believe it is also the leading cause of teen pregnancy. The truth is as a Christian some times we have to miss out on what other people are doing. Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

I shake my head at people that suggest this is no big deal because it is 16 year olds "just dating". Well "just dating" ungodly women typically leads to just sex. You should read the book of Sampson. He is the prime example of someone that was destined to be one of the greatest people ever and he blows it chasing after ungodly women.

 

[BritishDave]

Yes I certainly have stirred up a lot of hate :'D I'm not necessarily planning on dating her, and certainly not on having sex! However I do see that there could be a lot of temptation towards that. I think that by going to the prom with this girl and getting to know her she is likely to want to come to my church, whereas if I asked now she probably would be comfortable coming..