Shoud I ask a girl out?

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Billyd

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Hey I appreciate your concern.. but are you suggesting I should abandon all of my non-christian friends?
For your OP. You should be worrying about what you plan to do at and after the prom, not who you are taking. My advice is ask the one you honestly feel comfortable asking, and remember that you are a Christian. Treat her with the respect that God expects of you.

Please don't abandon your non Christian friends. They are in need of a Christian example. I caution you to be aware of the fact that they will be just a eager to draw you away from Christ as you should be to draw them to Him. Don't be afraid to walk away when you feel that happening.

You will be in my family's prayers through the Prom season. Please come back after the Prom and let us know how things went.

God bless you and your future.
 
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BritishDave

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Wow thank you I didn't know people on the internet actually cared that much :) I'll be sure to come back after the prom in June (still months away) and update you on what went on. Is there anything I could pray for you about?
 
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BritishDave

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#43
By the way what is this 'OP' everyone's talking about?
 

MarcR

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Avoidance of things that open the door to sin is a good idea at any age.

If you reserve dating for courtship, it will be quite difficult to determine what you are looking for in a spouce; because you will lack the experience needed to recognize godly qualities in a potential spouse.

We are told to be in the world but not of the world. This means that as we walk in the world we need top train ourselves to act on God's values and NOT the world's. One of the most important responsibilities we have as believers is to lead others to Jesus. A person is far more likely to accept an invitation to church from a friend than from a stranger.

If you are motivated to exercise your lust you will probably find opportunity without going to a prom.

If you are motivated to honor God then you will have no trouble keeping your zipper closed.

look for those who exhibit modest godly behavior and enjoy their company regardless of gender.
you mentioned in your OP that the girl deports herself modestly so you are not likely to be seduced.
 
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BritishDave

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"If you are motivated to exercise your lust you will probably find opportunity without going to a prom.

If you are motivated to honor God then you will have no trouble keeping your zipper closed."

Well put my friend
 

1joseph

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Oh good. Then you will point out to me where the Israelites hung out with the pagans and their pagan ways (With God approving). You will point out where the apostles hung out with false believers and people who denied the Lord's existence with no intent on their part to reach them for God but to just be their close friend. You do that, and then you can say what you just did. In other words, your belief is not in the Bible. Nowhere are believers supposed to make close friends or ties with unbelievers. Sure, that doesn't mean we cannot be nice to them in school, or at work, and or public places. But we are not out to get their number and hang with them like we did in old times past. The only reason Jesus was around sinners was to evangelize them (So that He can live within their heart). That's it. He was not there to be their worldly buddies and let them continue in their sin. For someone who is sick needs a healer or physician.

The Scriptures say, do not have fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather, reprove them. The Scriptures also say, be not deceived, bad company corrupts good morals, too.
What if God is using this Christian young man to lead the young girl unto Him?
 
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Hey I appreciate your concern.. but are you suggesting I should abandon all of my non-christian friends?
Please, don´t abandon them!

In fact, most of my non-Christian (Catholics) have endured long-term friendship.

Time will tell, bro.
 

1joseph

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So you suppose that the Israelites could have comingled with the pagan nations (Who worshiped other gods) to let their daughters go on dates with their sons? Yeah, that's real smart. Unless you do not care about the spiritual well being of your child, then you will not let them go to such an event with an unbeliever. If they want to go to the prom, I have no problem with that. But let him find a Christian woman to take and not an unbeliever. Telling them to take any girl to the prom sends the wrong message to your child that they can hang with unbelievers.
BritishDave lives in England. There are no pagan nations nearby.
 
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GuitarPraise

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What if God is using this Christian young man to lead the young girl unto Him?
Because of James 1:13 Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man

If you don't believe a young, unsaved, hormone stricken girl is a temptation I would ask you why can't God ask a girl to lead her to him? In my church we don't send single men to preach to single women and we don't send single women to preach to single men.

BritishDave- You'll notice I didn't suggest what your choice should be, I can't discern that for you. You should always love people and befriend them as you are more likely to bring them to God that way. Just know that as you develop feelings for people (weather just friends or more) it becomes harder to separate yourself from them when they won't separate themselves from the world. Can you have clean honest fun? Sure you can, but you can also put yourself in the way of huge temptation. This is something you will have to learn to balance if you hope to be a successful christian. You will always be able to find people that justify or condemn whatever you want to do. What you have to learn is to hear God, then be willing to submit to his advice.

The book of Sampson is a short book, I would recommend you read it before you do this. Sampson gave his heart to women who never cared about God and never changed. They never truly cared about Sampson either, they tricked him, blinded him and then kept him as a circus act. Just be careful man and God bless!
 

MarcR

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In fact, this reminds me of a popular Christian song I heard by Casting Crowns titled "Jesus, friend of sinners."

For one, there are problems with the lyrics. Second, the chorus of the song leaves us with the impression that Jesus is a friend with people who are still actively sinning against Him. That they do not have to repent of their sins. That being a saint is optional. You can be a big time sinner like you used to be and Jesus is still going to be your friend. But is this true?

No.

It doesn't work like that. Jesus started His ministry with the words "repent." Jesus told the woman who was caught in the act of adultery to sin no more.


Jesus what a friend for sinners Jesus, lover of my soul!
Friends may fail me foes assail me He my savior makes me whole!

Jesus what a strength in weakness! Let me hide myself in Him
Tempted tried and sometimes failing, He my strength, my victory wins!

Jesus what a help in sorrow While the billows o'er me roll
Even when my heart is breaking , He my comfort helps my soul

Jesus what a guide and keeper! While the tempest still is high
Storms about me night o'ertakes me, He my piolot hears my cry

Jesus I do now receive Him More than all in Him I find
He hath granted me forgiveness I am his and He is mine


CORUS:
Hallelujah what a Saviot! Hallelujah what a friend!
Saving, helping, keeping, loving, He is with me to the end!



How does this hymn condone sin?
 
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Dave!

I wish I had been smart as you are at your age...

She has the key and the answers you need to find out.

May the Almighty bless you in everything that is GOOd.
 
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BritishDave

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Thanks everyone!! I' should really go to bed now as it's really late over here... I think what I need most at the moment is prayer for wisdom, so I would really appreciate that. God bless :)
 

1joseph

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Because of James 1:13 Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man

If you don't believe a young, unsaved, hormone stricken girl is a temptation I would ask you why can't God ask a girl to lead her to him? In my church we don't send single men to preach to single women and we don't send single women to preach to single men. QUOTE]

Because God used me to bring my girlfriend (now, my wife of 28 years) to Him. All glory to God!

I was saved, Spirit filled, and baptized. She was Catholic, and had no personal relationship with Christ. She didn't know the prayer of salvation. I explained it to her and she asked me to pray it with her. I did. She had a public baptism in a church a couple of years later, at her request.

My faith in Jesus has always seemed too have been there. Hers has had to form and grow over the years. I've enjoyed watching Him work in our lives, especially hers.

BritishDave,

Let your Godly heart lead you in this, and all things. And fear not, for He is with you...always.:)

Your brother,
Joseph
 
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GuitarPraise

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That's wonderful Joseph, I didn't say it is impossible just unlikely.

Although I do like how my pastor handled one of his early disciples that was getting a little too friendly with a lady. He just walked straight in his house, back to his bedroom, poked his head in and asked "Are you telling her about Jesus?"
 

1joseph

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Thanks everyone!! I' should really go to bed now as it's really late over here... I think what I need most at the moment is prayer for wisdom, so I would really appreciate that. God bless :)
"Heavenly Father, give my brother wisdom and an understanding of your love and ways. And give him a desire to walk close to you. Help him to see himself as you see him---a loved son with unlimited power in Your Spirit. I pray that he will be proud of You and tell others about You and Your Amazing Love for them. In Jesus' name I humbly pray. Amen."
 

1joseph

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That's wonderful Joseph, I didn't say it is impossible just unlikely.

Although I do like how my pastor handled one of his early disciples that was getting a little too friendly with a lady. He just walked straight in his house, back to his bedroom, poked his head in and asked "Are you telling her about Jesus?"
Now that's bold...just as Jesus said to be.

God certainly works in all kinds of ways using all the different parts of His Body (us) as He will.:)
 
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popeye

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Take her out and enjoy yourself.
ask yourself "will this woman be suitable for me,a man of God,as a helpmate,companion,loyal friend" (after of course she gets born again) LOL

Just be led of the Lord,heck,we may tell you wrong
 
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Jesus what a friend for sinners Jesus, lover of my soul!
Friends may fail me foes assail me He my savior makes me whole!

Jesus what a strength in weakness! Let me hide myself in Him
Tempted tried and sometimes failing, He my strength, my victory wins!

Jesus what a help in sorrow While the billows o'er me roll
Even when my heart is breaking , He my comfort helps my soul

Jesus what a guide and keeper! While the tempest still is high
Storms about me night o'ertakes me, He my piolot hears my cry

Jesus I do now receive Him More than all in Him I find
He hath granted me forgiveness I am his and He is mine


CORUS:
Hallelujah what a Saviot! Hallelujah what a friend!
Saving, helping, keeping, loving, He is with me to the end!



How does this hymn condone sin?
The Casting Crowns Lyrics for.... "Jesus, friend of sinners."

Jesus, friend of sinners, we have strayed so far away
We cut down people in your name but the sword was never ours to swing
Jesus, friend of sinners, the truth's become so hard to see
The world is on their way to You but they're tripping over me
Always looking around but never looking up I'm so double minded
A plank eyed saint with dirty hands and a heart divided

Oh Jesus, friend of sinners
Open our eyes to the world at the end of our pointing fingers
Let our hearts be led by mercy
Help us reach with open hearts and open doors
Oh Jesus, friend of sinners, break our hearts for what breaks yours

Yeah...

Jesus, friend of sinners, the one who's writing in the sand
Made the righteous turn away and the stones fall from their hands
Help us to remember we are all the least of these
Let the memory of Your mercy bring Your people to their knees
Nobody knows what we're for only what we're against when we judge the wounded
What if we put down our signs crossed over the lines and loved like You did

Oh Jesus, friend of sinners
Open our eyes to world at the end of our pointing fingers
Let our hearts be led by mercy
Help us reach with open hearts and open doors
Oh Jesus, friend of sinners, break our hearts for what breaks yours

You love every lost cause; you reach for the outcast
For the leper and the lame; they're the reason that You came
Lord I was that lost cause and I was the outcast
But you died for sinners just like me, a grateful leper at Your feet

'Cause You are good, You are good and Your love endures forever
You are good, You are good and Your love endures forever
You are good, You are good and Your love endures forever
You are good, You are good and Your love endures forever

Oh Jesus, friend of sinners
Open our eyes to world at the end of our pointing fingers
Let our hearts be led by mercy
Help us reach with open hearts and open doors
Oh Jesus, friend of sinners, break our hearts for what breaks Yours

And I was the lost cause and I was the outcast
Yeah...
You died for sinners just like me, a grateful leper at Your feet