"You do not put new wine into old wineskins"
you say following the torah is not legalism, but it is legalism. It is saying christians are obligated to follow the torah and they are not obligated. Gentiles receive the Holy Spirit without ever even knowing the Torah, since the early church gentiles were never obligated to follow the Torah. Scripture makes this plainly clear. Christians do not follow the letter of the Law, but rather the Spirit of the Law. Acts 15 records the first holy synod of the church and it was regarding this very subject, why are you unable to see this?
The Spirit of the Law is to love God and love one another:
How do we love?
we do not hate, we love all humans.
we do not kill, we save all humans.
we do not commit adultry, we remain faithful to all humans.
we do not steal, we give to all humans.
we do not lie, we speak truth to all humans.
we do not covet, we are humble to all humans.
We keep the spirit of the Law, not the letter.
This is the NEW Covenant God has made binding it with the blood of his only begotten, Jesus Christ our Lord.
The old container of the wine cannot be used for the new, but he content is still good.
Love is defined for us to do it God's way in Leviticus 19:11-19 and Deuteronomy 6:1-6 both in the Pentateuch or Torah if you will.
"Now these are the commandments, the statutes, and the judgments, which the Lord your God commanded to teach you, that ye might do them in the land whither ye go to possess it: That thou mightest fear the Lord thy God, to keep all his statutes and his commandments, which I command thee, thou, and thy son, and thy son's son, all the days of thy life; and that thy days may be prolonged.Hear therefore, O Israel, and observe to do it; that it may be well with thee, and that ye may increase mightily, as the Lord God of thy fathers hath promised thee, in the land that floweth with milk and honey.Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord:And
thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:"
"Ye shall not steal, neither deal falsely, neither lie one to another.And ye shall not swear by my name falsely, neither shalt thou profane the name of thy God: I am the Lord.Thou shalt not defraud thy neighbour, neither rob him: the wages of him that is hired shall not abide with thee all night until the morning.Thou shalt not curse the deaf, nor put a stumblingblock before the blind, but shalt fear thy God: I am the Lord.Ye shall do no unrighteousness in judgment: thou shalt not respect the person of the poor, nor honor the person of the mighty: but in righteousness shalt thou judge thy neighbour.Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people: neither shalt thou stand against the blood of thy neighbour; I am the Lord.Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy neighbour, and not suffer sin upon him.Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but
thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the Lord.Ye shall keep my statutes. Thou shalt not let thy cattle gender with a diverse kind: thou shalt not sow thy field with mingled seed: neither shall a garment mingled of linen and woollen come upon thee.
That's just a preview of a greater love by the works of faith that trusts that these words work in us God's way. Written on the heart thing ya know.