I'm going to confuse you, and I apologize in advance for that. Some of what has been said on your thread is either unclear -- not wrong, just unclear -- or it is just plain wrong.
The baptism of the Holy Spirit is the receiving of the Holy Spirit when you first believe. That is all it is. There is no "second giving" or "more, bigger, giving" of the Holy Spirit. You receive Him once, when you confess Christ as your Savior and Lord, and God accepts that confession as true and heartfelt. We are told to be "filled," to "hear His voice," and a variety of other things about our relationship with Him, but anyone who tells you there is a separate, different "Holy Spirit baptism" that gives you the gift of tongues, prophesy, healings, etc. is misguided, and just plain wrong.
Over time, as our sanctification progresses, as we become more mature in Christ, we realize the spiritual gifts God gave us at the very moment of belief. They are not given at a later date, we get them immediately. We just aren't prepared to realize and use them immediately.
Those gifts are teaching, helps, faith (all believers must walk by faith, and are given faith in order to believe, but certain believers will be especially gifted with a greater measure of faith for specific purposes in edifying the body of Christ -- Acts 6:5 & Colossians 2:6), exhortation, administration, giving, mercy, evangelism, and pastoring/teaching (an additional measure of teaching ability intended to provide leadership for a local flock/church).
I know that didn't clear up a thing for you, and this post will be attacked by those who believe otherwise. That's not going to change the truth. God bless.