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AmyBabii92

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Hello, I'm a 23 year old female in the UK. I became a Christian in February last year when God became real to me and have been attending church by myself ever since.

I have just come on this chat website, in hopes to find someone to talk to about this problem of mine. See, I am really struggling with who I am as a person and even though I love God with all my heart, I have only ever been attracted to women and not men and feel like I am unworthy of Gods love because of this :(

I want to follow Jesus wholeheartedly, but I cannot come to terms with changing who I am as a person. I have always been this way since I was a kid. Am I possessed with homosexual demons? I know every person have different opinions about homosexuality, but what is the TRUTH? :( Will God not love me either way? My church gives the impression that I need to be 'fixed' but would our God think this way? Do I need to be set free of this, or to just love, as God also commands us to?

Question after question erupting in my mind. Please pray for guidance and clarity for me.

Thanks

Amy
 
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Hello, I'm a 23 year old female in the UK. I became a Christian in February last year when God became real to me and have been attending church by myself ever since.

I have just come on this chat website, in hopes to find someone to talk to about this problem of mine. See, I am really struggling with who I am as a person and even though I love God with all my heart, I have only ever been attracted to women and not men and feel like I am unworthy of Gods love because of this :(

I want to follow Jesus wholeheartedly, but I cannot come to terms with changing who I am as a person. I have always been this way since I was a kid. Am I possessed with homosexual demons? I know every person have different opinions about homosexuality, but what is the TRUTH? :( Will God not love me either way? My church gives the impression that I need to be 'fixed' but would our God think this way? Do I need to be set free of this, or to just love, as God also commands us to?

Question after question erupting in my mind. Please pray for guidance and clarity for me.

Thanks

Amy
It'll be easier to let go of it if you stop attaching it to yourself.

I've been there (you can PM me to talk more about it if you think it would help). It is indeed something to let go of. God condemns it.

I will pray for your understanding and that you have answers to your questions as God wills to reveal. :)
 
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You may struggle with it, its God who can only Change you from the inside, when you give it all to Him He will show you His unmerited goodness in your life. In totality, and the only place you find that is at the foot of the Cross, and realize what He did for you there from a personal level. He knows your struggles understands but He truly shows Himself to you when stand at the foot of the cross. He awaits that and if you find you yourself there its because He has drawn you there indeed....
 
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Impossible to be Christian and a lesbian at the same time.......trust Jesus biblically and ask him to remove that particular sin/nature/desire that you have and rely upon his power...as His strength is made complete in our weaknesses......!
 

jb

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Hello, I'm a 23 year old female in the UK. I became a Christian in February last year when God became real to me and have been attending church by myself ever since.

I have just come on this chat website, in hopes to find someone to talk to about this problem of mine. See, I am really struggling with who I am as a person and even though I love God with all my heart, I have only ever been attracted to women and not men and feel like I am unworthy of Gods love because of this :(

I want to follow Jesus wholeheartedly, but 2) I cannot come to terms with changing who I am as a person. I have always been this way since I was a kid. 1) Am I possessed with homosexual demons? 3) I know every person have different opinions about homosexuality, but what is the TRUTH? :( Will God not love me either way? My church gives the impression that I need to be 'fixed' but would our God think this way? Do I need to be set free of this, or to just love, as God also commands us to?

Question after question erupting in my mind. Please pray for guidance and clarity for me.

Thanks

Amy
1) MOST CERTAINLY NOT!

2) You will find who you are in Jesus! Gal 2v20

3) It was the immorality that was going on in Sodom and Gomorrah and in particular homosexuality that caused Him to destroy them! Gen 18v20, 19v24, (esp Rom 1v26,27)

Do know that God the Father loves you like He loves His Son Jesus and Jesus loves you like the Father loves Him, for God IS LOVE! John 15v9, 17v23, 1John 4v8,16

He will NOT let you be tempted beyond what you can endure, His Grace is sufficient...1Cor 10v13, 2Cor 12v9

James 4v6-8: "But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: "God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble." Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you."

The evil thoughts that come into your mind should be immediately rejected, draw near to God in prayer and in meditation on the Word of God and the mountains that you see now will very quickly become mole hills!

This short study will be helpful to you...

Yahweh Shalom
 
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MyLighthouse

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[video=youtube;s-9X6X5aFKo]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-9X6X5aFKo[/video]

Nothing is impossible with God!
 
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2gether4ever

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If you are a Christian, your identity is not in your struggles, your identity is in Jesus.
Temptation is not a sin. It is when you act upon the temptation it becomes a sin. I would say lay your burdens down and ask for His help. Jesus came not to condemn the world, but to save it. If He died to take away the sins of the world, why would He leamoo#8ve you with a temptation that would drive you away from Him?
We're not adopted to be driven away. There is no struggle that you can't overcome with His help.
Now to your question. Is it wrong? Yes. Committing that sin is wrong, but God can forgive it if you repent.
"No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it." 1 Corithians 10 : 13
You should ask God for freedom and be patient.
 

RickyZ

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? Do I need to be set free of this, or to just love, as God also commands us to?
I think you see it pretty clearly already. If you love as God commands, you will be set free.

It's too bad so many others can't see that.

God bless you.
 
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I do not know the answer, some say is learned, others is hormonal, or genetic, who sin is the person? its environment, or is an error in nature.
any way the important thing is that Jesus loves you. no matter what.
 
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Femalelamb

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I've had similar struggles although not exactly. Feel free to add me and talk to me privately. Also, know that I'm praying Jesus show you His heart for you and your life. We all struggle with many things. And Jesus is the way, the truth, and the Life. (((Hugs))) my heart really feels your sincerity and realness and I appreciate your braveness sharing your heart. Do not let any ignorant comments turn you from Him or His true followers. I recommend you take this post private because people will try to persuade you as well as trample you because often in public forums there are so many puffed up with pride or their own demons that hate what God is doing in you right now. (Not saying all of these comments are) Be careful and ask God to lead you to the right people to pray and love you and encourage you. I'm here if you need a friend. Always.
 
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MarcR

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Hello, I'm a 23 year old female in the UK. I became a Christian in February last year when God became real to me and have been attending church by myself ever since.

I have just come on this chat website, in hopes to find someone to talk to about this problem of mine. See, I am really struggling with who I am as a person and even though I love God with all my heart, I have only ever been attracted to women and not men and feel like I am unworthy of Gods love because of this :(

I want to follow Jesus wholeheartedly, but I cannot come to terms with changing who I am as a person. I have always been this way since I was a kid. Am I possessed with homosexual demons? I know every person have different opinions about homosexuality, but what is the TRUTH? :( Will God not love me either way? My church gives the impression that I need to be 'fixed' but would our God think this way? Do I need to be set free of this, or to just love, as God also commands us to?

Question after question erupting in my mind. Please pray for guidance and clarity for me.

Thanks

Amy

Amy,

You are not responsible for changing your attractions or even your actions; but they will change.

Ask God to help you want what He wants than stand back and let the Spirit within you make the changes!

I hope this helps.
 
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Read the Scripture: Romans 1:24-32

Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts, to sexual impurity, for the degrading of their bodies with one another. Romans 1:24
The wickedness at work among human beings follows a process which is identified in this passage by the thrice-repeated phrase, God gave them over. This phrase identifies what is going on in our culture. The first mark of wickedness in a godless society is widespread sexual immorality — the degrading, or the dishonoring, of the body. Many people think this account describes all the evil things men do, and then says that God washes his hands of evil people because they are so filthy and dirty. That is not what this says. But because men run after other gods and refuse the testimony of their own hearts and do not glorify or thank the true God, God removes his restraints from society so that what is done in secret is allowed to break out into openness and acceptability. That is the mark of the wrath of God at work. The first sign of wickedness in a civilization is that sexual immorality becomes widely accepted.
You may ask, Why is it that sex always seems to be singled out as the sign of God's judgment Many Christians have wrongly concluded that sexual sins are the worst kinds of sin. But that is not true. This passage in Romans bears it out. It begins with sexual impurity and proceeds to sexual perversity. But, the final result is not sexual sins, but sins of the spirit. Widespread animosity, hatred of the heart — these are the worst sins. There is good reason why God allows sexual practices to come to the surface. He allows it to show us what is going on in our spiritual lives. It highlights the fact that sex is linked with worship. Sex is a desire to possess another body and to be possessed by another. It is a deep-seated craving inherent in every human being.
We have all heard the statement, Girls give sex in order to get love; boys give love in order to get sex. This is true, superficially. But what both are really after is not sex at all; they are after worship. They really want to worship and to be worshipped. They really want a sense of total fulfillment, a oneness, an identity. Only God can give that fulfillment. Only God can satisfy that deep sense of longing for complete identity and unity with another person. That is what we call worship. When we worship, we are longing to be possessed of God, and to possess him fully. That is why the highest description of the relationship with God possible to a believer is found in the words of Jesus in John 14-15, You in me, and I in you (John 14:20). When people think that they are going to find that fulfillment in sex, God says to them, Look, it won't work. But you won't believe that until you try it out. So he removes the restraints and allows immoral sexual practices to become widely accepted, understanding that men indulging in these things will finally find themselves just as dissatisfied, empty and hopeless as they were when they started. Thus they will learn that worshipping God is the only way by which people find fulfillment.
Father, I see how accurately these words describe our own times. Thank you that you have not forsaken this world, and that the message of truth and light is still as available as ever.
Life Application: Do we react to the prevalent cultural immorality with self-righteous condemnation? Does it increase our awe and gratitude for God's grace to us, and therefore our compassionate care for others?
 
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Kaycie

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Scientists have proven that smell and taste work together- that little particles of what you smell can trigger the brain to remember a substance within what you smelt. Then when your body needs something it refreshes your sub conscience memory of what product has that. This ability is more extreme in pregnant women, but we all have it. So once when I was pregnant, I craved laundry soap. I seriously wanted to eat it. But though it was a very strong urge, I didn't do it for my baby's sake. I found out it was iron in the soap that my baby craved, so I got iron from food sources and the craving was relieved. But even if I could not relieve it, there is no way I would eat laundry soap because that's disgusting and dangerous.

In the the same way, no matter how strong an urge you have to do what is evil, you must not entertain such thoughts that go against God. Ignore it and say to yourself it is simply not going to happen no matter what. I don't care if the whole world ate laundry soap, I'm not eating it. That's the attitude you have to have.

The bible gives a list list of evil practices including murderers and homosexual offenders, and it says that is what some of you WERE, but you were washed. There is no such thing as a homosexual Christian, or a murderous Christian, etc. the bible says that those who live this way will not enter heaven.

We live in a day and age where you can see the xx or the xy chromosome, you can know for certain whether God made you male or female, and that is what you must be- no matter what.

In your post you admit it is a problem, therefore your conscience tells you it's wrong. And in your post you say you love God with all your heart. Jesus says if you love Him you will obey His commands and take up your cross and follow Him. You see, it is not about finding out who we are, it's about denying who we are and becoming more like Christ. We have to bury who we are and be what He is.
 
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TMS

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Jer_13:23 Can the Ethiopian change his skin, or the leopard his spots? then may ye also do good, that are accustomed to do evil.
The change comes from God, sometimes it is instant, sometimes it's gradual, but it will happen if you give your heart to Jesus and let Him have His way. We all have struggles and when i really, really, 100% give my heart to Jesus and say i give in Lord (give up trying to win in my strength) and let Him have His way, sometimes with tears, that's when i noticed a difference.
With Jesus there is Peace
Eze 36:26 A new heart also will I give you,....
Rom 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Everyone needs to be transformed and Jesus promises to give us a new heart (Gift)
 

MarcR

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Preacher,

How does your post above help someone who wants to follow the Lord fully; and is struggling.

If she were not persuaded of the sinfulness of lesbianism; there would be no struggle.

She needs reassurance that she is not required to change herself. She need only ask God to change her and get out of the way while it happens.
 
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didymos

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Hello, I'm a 23 year old female in the UK. I became a Christian in February last year when God became real to me and have been attending church by myself ever since.

I have just come on this chat website, in hopes to find someone to talk to about this problem of mine. See, I am really struggling with who I am as a person and even though I love God with all my heart, I have only ever been attracted to women and not men and feel like I am unworthy of Gods love because of this :(

I want to follow Jesus wholeheartedly, but I cannot come to terms with changing who I am as a person. I have always been this way since I was a kid. Am I possessed with homosexual demons? I know every person have different opinions about homosexuality, but what is the TRUTH? :( Will God not love me either way? My church gives the impression that I need to be 'fixed' but would our God think this way? Do I need to be set free of this, or to just love, as God also commands us to?

Question after question erupting in my mind. Please pray for guidance and clarity for me.

Thanks

Amy
According to a certain interpretation of passages in Lev and Rom homosexual acts are sinful, but also the desire itself can make you a sinner (Matthew 15:18-19 and Matthew 18:19). However we're ALL sinners (Rom 3:23) each with his/her own specific sin. If homosexuals need psychotherapy to "change," so do all christians, since we're ALL sinners. No shrink can cure us though, only Jesus can (Marc 2:17). He doesn't provide for "wonder drugs" though, dealing with sin is hard work, it can span a lifetime. We all have our own struggles, but God loves us regardless, and that makes life easier (Rom 3:24) and know this: whenever we sin satan WILL accuse us, but when he points out our sin, Jesus is there to intercede for us and act as our advocate (Rom 8: 33-34). In short: we're all sinners, but we should learn to love ourselves... that's only possibly in the light of God's love for us (John 3:16).
 
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It His work to save, our work is to preach the gospel of Christ which is the power of God unto salvation and in the very gospel righteousness of God is revealed read Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Rom 8:29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.
 
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Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Rom 8:29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.
 
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Hello, I'm a 23 year old female in the UK. I became a Christian in February last year when God became real to me and have been attending church by myself ever since.

I have just come on this chat website, in hopes to find someone to talk to about this problem of mine. See, I am really struggling with who I am as a person and even though I love God with all my heart, I have only ever been attracted to women and not men and feel like I am unworthy of Gods love because of this :(

I want to follow Jesus wholeheartedly, but I cannot come to terms with changing who I am as a person. I have always been this way since I was a kid. Am I possessed with homosexual demons? I know every person have different opinions about homosexuality, but what is the TRUTH? :( Will God not love me either way? My church gives the impression that I need to be 'fixed' but would our God think this way? Do I need to be set free of this, or to just love, as God also commands us to?

Question after question erupting in my mind. Please pray for guidance and clarity for me.

Thanks

Amy
Absolutely NO ONE is worthy of God's love. Read the new testament with all your heart and let Christ reveal to you who you are in him.
God loves you more than you will ever know, you just need to seek the answers in Christ on loving yourself.

My personal opinion is that if god condemns a born again Christian for the sin of homosexuality then we are all condemned for the multitude of sins we all are guilty of committing, for no one is sinless, except Christ. So then what's the point of accepting Christ if we are going to be condemned anyway.
The word says we are forgiven all our sins forever through grace. It's that simple.
I'm really not sure that the religious Christians truly understand the absolute love God has for us and they continue to pull specific lines out of the bible for their points and not reading and understanding the new testament in the spirit of the word which is what the word tells us to do many times.

If i were in God's shoes so to speak, i would rather see an honest and loving Christian who is not hypocritical about their sin, than a holier than thou Christian who condemns and judges others while blinding themselves to their own sins.

Just know that no one here has the answers you are looking for, they are in the new testament in Christ. Spend quiet time with Christ and he will guide you to your path that you seek.

God loves you whoever you are in Christ Jesus, and it is my hope that whatever our personal opinions are, that we all love you as well, whatever your lifestyle you choose, and for those who will condemn and judge you, i apologize and ask for forgiveness for them. For i love you whatever path you choose.

God bless
 

damombomb

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It seems like you are being convicted. Whom he loves , he chastises and purges.