The Bible says that a man and woman are equal in the Lord,and that is because the only thing that separates a man and a woman is the flesh,the soul and spirit are the same.In the spiritual realm a man has no authority above a woman,but a man and woman are equal in the Lord.
But God has to have an authority structure on earth so things run smooth,like the military,government,and other organizations,that have an authority structure,so people are not fighting whose in charge,and things run smooth,like the saying too many chiefs and not enough indians,because if there is not an authority structure people may fight whose in charge which can be unproductive.
Which the authority structure on earth is God,Christ,man,woman,and angels.Angels are last in the authority structure,for they are ministering spirits sent to minister to those that shall inherit salvation,and the angels desire to look in to the salvation of the saints,because people that are with God will have a higher position in heaven,and will have a glorified body like Jesus' glorified body,and rule in the millennial reign of Christ,a privilege the angels will never have.God loves the angels but people are God's pride and joy.It was all made for people.
But although the authority structure has man above woman,it does not mean that the man can do anything according to his will,for the whole authority structure is according to God's will,it is what God wants,not what the man wants,so the man cannot glory for it is not his will but God's will.
The authority structure is all according to God's will,whether in Church or at home,and the man is to put forth God's will and not his own,so it is the same as if the woman is listening to God,so the man cannot glory or be overbearing and bossy,for it is not the man's will but God's will.
Some men extend the authority of this structure beyond what God wants,to be controlling,we will go here and we will go there,and shut your mouth because I am the man,and we do what I want,but this is not what God wants,of course this happens more frequently in the secular world,but everything is to be done according to God's will not the man's will,and Jesus would not act like this.
The Bible says for the husbands to love their wives as the Lord loves the Church,so the man should say,honey,what would you like to to and please her,not say I'm the man and be bossy and controlling.
Also the Bible says that God made woman to be a helpmate,to assist the man,so she can add input at home,and since a man and a woman are equal in the Lord,and she is a servant of Christ,if the husband acts wrong she can act in a spiritual capacity and tell him to stop.
A man and a woman are equal in the Lord,and there is no authority structure in heaven of a man being the head of the woman,because once they put off the flesh,they are the same soul wise,and the glorified body they receive is the same.
But on earth God has an authority structure so things run smooth,but it is according to God's will and not the man's will,which if the man acts properly according to this structure,it would be the same as if the woman is listening to God,so the man has nothing to glory about.
If it is any consolation to women,or a comfort,Jesus said whoever is greatest let him be a servant,so the man is actually a servant of the woman,like Christ said He is the greatest of all but He came to be a servant.
I understand how women can be upset over how some men rule the household,that have an attitude of listen to me woman,we do what I want,being controlling,but that is not part of the authority structure of God,and God does not give them that right to do that,but they are to love their wives as the Jesus loves the Church,and do it according to God's will.
But husbands that do not act right towards their wives are being fleshy and not spiritual.
