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Yeah, there is such thing as a sex addiction. You wouldn't (hopefully) divorce your spouse immediately over alcohol, gambling, or anorexia/bulimia. You'd (hopefully) stick by him, get him into counseling, and work through the issues. Marriage, after, is supposed to be for better or worse.
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So you're unsure about God, but you're sure this one is a catch-all excuse to divorce?
Outside of God, not even close.
Inside with God, there's much more to this story than meets the eye. Something is seriously missing in this story. Lots is missing. I'm not telepathic. I'm not Solomon. And I'm not stepping into this minefield without knowing what's really going on.
I will give you this much. I'm never divorcing my hubby over porn or lust. Especially lust. How in the world would I know how often he lusts? And if a spouse divorces for lust, who is ever staying married?
Outside of God, not even close.
Inside with God, there's much more to this story than meets the eye. Something is seriously missing in this story. Lots is missing. I'm not telepathic. I'm not Solomon. And I'm not stepping into this minefield without knowing what's really going on.
I will give you this much. I'm never divorcing my hubby over porn or lust. Especially lust. How in the world would I know how often he lusts? And if a spouse divorces for lust, who is ever staying married?
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Sexual addictions or issues is just like any other addictions or issues that needed to be dealt with. Depends on which school you follow. Some will say the person is demonized and therefore need to go through deliverance. Self control is one of the Fruit of the Spirit, manifested when one grows in the Lord but, being a human, we need guidance from others and also assistant to get out from our addictions/issues rather than even suggesting what one can do.
Personally, I would not call him a serial adulterer but I would suggest him to get the right help from the right people to break free.
Personally, I would not call him a serial adulterer but I would suggest him to get the right help from the right people to break free.
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I don't know if I'd call him that, but he certainly has an addiction that never works in a marriage. I have yet to meet a woman who does not feel cheated on when they find out their husband has this addiction. I know I always felt like I was not good enough and not truly loved if he needed something else.
A wife should address the issue and try to get help for herself and the marriage and her husband. I know I could not personally endure it if he did not admit he was wrong and try to get help.
A wife should address the issue and try to get help for herself and the marriage and her husband. I know I could not personally endure it if he did not admit he was wrong and try to get help.
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Zoii, it is more than an abuse of women. It is an abuse of God's plan and creation. It is an abuse against both men and women.
So you believe that some of the women who participate in the pornography NEED to, it's their only way to survive? What if a man in pornography made the same argument? Would that be any different.
Curious.
So you believe that some of the women who participate in the pornography NEED to, it's their only way to survive? What if a man in pornography made the same argument? Would that be any different.
Curious.
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Hi, Sassy. My name is Lynn. Nice to meet you.
Now you have.
(Honestly? I don't know what the big deal is. I'm the one he goes to bed with, not them. He can actually tell me what's wrong with them, and I notice something -- it all translates to "She ain't got what you got." So, okay. Look, as long as I'm the one being touched. I know that seems to go against what everyone else on here thinks, but that's what I think.)
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(Honestly? I don't know what the big deal is. I'm the one he goes to bed with, not them. He can actually tell me what's wrong with them, and I notice something -- it all translates to "She ain't got what you got." So, okay. Look, as long as I'm the one being touched. I know that seems to go against what everyone else on here thinks, but that's what I think.)
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Hi, Sassy. My name is Lynn. Nice to meet you.
Now you have.
(Honestly? I don't know what the big deal is. I'm the one he goes to bed with, not them. He can actually tell me what's wrong with them, and I notice something -- it all translates to "She ain't got what you got." So, okay. Look, as long as I'm the one being touched. I know that seems to go against what everyone else on here thinks, but that's what I think.)
Now you have.
(Honestly? I don't know what the big deal is. I'm the one he goes to bed with, not them. He can actually tell me what's wrong with them, and I notice something -- it all translates to "She ain't got what you got." So, okay. Look, as long as I'm the one being touched. I know that seems to go against what everyone else on here thinks, but that's what I think.)
The sad thing about someone who gets addicted to porn is that eventually it takes over their whole life to the point where they are unable to function. All they can think about is getting to the screen. It hinders their relationships with people and it puts their job at jeopardy. It's the same way how a drug addict lives for their next fix. They don't want to be hooked in this way, but that's what usually ends up happening. My heart goes out to men who have any addiction.Also, there's the obvious that says if a man lusts after a women then he is committing adultery. I wouldn't want there to be sin standing between my spouse and God.
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I totally respect your opinion and I'm not debating you. The sad thing about someone who gets addicted to porn is that eventually it takes over their whole life to the point where they are unable to function. All they can think about is getting to the screen. It hinders their relationships with people and it puts their job at jeopardy. It's the same way how a drug addict lives for their next fix. They don't want to be hooked in this way, but that's what usually ends up happening. My heart goes out to men who have any addiction.
Also, there's the obvious that says if a man lusts after a women then he is committing adultery. I wouldn't want there to be sin standing between my spouse and God.
The sad thing about someone who gets addicted to porn is that eventually it takes over their whole life to the point where they are unable to function. All they can think about is getting to the screen. It hinders their relationships with people and it puts their job at jeopardy. It's the same way how a drug addict lives for their next fix. They don't want to be hooked in this way, but that's what usually ends up happening. My heart goes out to men who have any addiction.Also, there's the obvious that says if a man lusts after a women then he is committing adultery. I wouldn't want there to be sin standing between my spouse and God.
[SUP]28 [/SUP]But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Jesus gave only 1 reason for divorce,cheating on the spouse,and 2 reasons for remarriage,cheating on the spouse,and death,but Jesus said whoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery in his heart,but of course the woman does not know the man lusted after a woman in his heart,but what if he told his wife,would that be grounds for divorce seeing Jesus said he committed adultery the same as if he committed the act,or would it be a sin to him,but not reason for divorce,because it was not a physical act.
I believe it would be a sin to him,but not a reason for divorce because it was not a physical act.
I believe it would be a sin to him,but not a reason for divorce because it was not a physical act.
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I totally respect your opinion and I'm not debating you. The sad thing about someone who gets addicted to porn is that eventually it takes over their whole life to the point where they are unable to function. All they can think about is getting to the screen. It hinders their relationships with people and it puts their job at jeopardy. It's the same way how a drug addict lives for their next fix. They don't want to be hooked in this way, but that's what usually ends up happening. My heart goes out to men who have any addiction.
Also, there's the obvious that says if a man lusts after a women then he is committing adultery. I wouldn't want there to be sin standing between my spouse and God.
The sad thing about someone who gets addicted to porn is that eventually it takes over their whole life to the point where they are unable to function. All they can think about is getting to the screen. It hinders their relationships with people and it puts their job at jeopardy. It's the same way how a drug addict lives for their next fix. They don't want to be hooked in this way, but that's what usually ends up happening. My heart goes out to men who have any addiction.Also, there's the obvious that says if a man lusts after a women then he is committing adultery. I wouldn't want there to be sin standing between my spouse and God.
I asked him if he still goes to porn sites. "Sometimes."
He tells me he thinks about undressing women on TV, but usually decides it's not worth it. After all, he knows me. Why undress someone he's not interested in?
I get that. I like a fine bottom. Just to admire and compare. Always ends up I like the one God gave me the best -- along with the rest of him. lol
And, yup. I do know about what adultery is to Jesus. We're older now, or maybe it's because we know each other so well, so the desire isn't there anymore. Or, quite possibly Jesus really did change us over the years. But younger? Who doesn't apart from Jesus intervening? I suspect no one wants to answer that question unless Jesus intervened. I'm just honest.
I truly don't care as long as he ends up with me. I know how much he enjoys all of me, so that's where his mind is, and that's not just about the modern word "intimacy." It's the whole package to that word. I don't hide who I am to him, so I don't want him to hide who he is.
He read a story about a guy who took that verse "if your eye offends you, pluck it out" literally. After the guy pulled out both of his eyes he had to admit that really didn't stop what he was seeing anyway. Just that he can't actually see anymore.