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You don't say how old you are, but we all have the right to disagree with our parents. If they are responsible for us, because of age, then we do have to obey them while under their roof. But that doesn't mean we have to agree with them.
I don't know if your father is a Christian, but we are supposed to honour our parents. So we can disagree, quietly and respectfully if it is not an issue which concerns living under their care.
I'm curious as to what your father wants you to do more often. If it is cleaning up after yourself, or doing your chores, you are right - you should have not just agreed with him, but done it. If it is about how to think, or about your Christian walk, then maybe listening respectfully and not getting angry is the best course of action to follow.
I don't know if your father is a Christian, but we are supposed to honour our parents. So we can disagree, quietly and respectfully if it is not an issue which concerns living under their care.
I'm curious as to what your father wants you to do more often. If it is cleaning up after yourself, or doing your chores, you are right - you should have not just agreed with him, but done it. If it is about how to think, or about your Christian walk, then maybe listening respectfully and not getting angry is the best course of action to follow.
I remember when I was 16. That is a most difficult age. It is a time when one feels the inclination to question everything. That is well and fine except when it comes to one's parents. If I may offer this bit of advice, when relating to or taking advice and instruction from you parents, always begin with the assumption that you know nothing. I know that is a mighty tall order but it will save you a lot of grief and serve you well in the end.
Your OP is a little unclear, but it sounds like you wanted a discussion with your Dad, not merely an order to do something. That's legitimate. At sixteen, you should be able to discuss things with him, though you aren't absolved of obeying anyway. Without wanting to stereotype you, you're at the stage where you need broader understanding of the directions you're given. Orders without context will only exasperate you.
Hopefully your Dad will see that his role is changing from authority figure to guide. Your role is changing from obedient and honoring child to honoring adult. Honor from a sixteen-year-old looks a little different than honour from a six- or 26-year old son. Without challenging your Dad, and with the caveat that you're not expecting to be free of his authority, you might want to have a discussion with him about your changing roles. Pray about it though!
As for breaking God's commandment, IMHO it is not clear. I suggest you ask the Lord; He will tell you.
Hopefully your Dad will see that his role is changing from authority figure to guide. Your role is changing from obedient and honoring child to honoring adult. Honor from a sixteen-year-old looks a little different than honour from a six- or 26-year old son. Without challenging your Dad, and with the caveat that you're not expecting to be free of his authority, you might want to have a discussion with him about your changing roles. Pray about it though!
As for breaking God's commandment, IMHO it is not clear. I suggest you ask the Lord; He will tell you.
What does Scriptures say are God's Commandments?
1Jn 3:22 And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.
1Jn 3:23 And this is his commandment, That we should 1) believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and 2) love one another, as he gave us commandment.
1Jn 3:24 And he that keepeth his commandments dwelleth in him, and he in him. And hereby we know that he abideth in us, by the Spirit which he hath given us.
By what you said and did, did you break one of these two commandments?
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1Jn 3:22 And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.
1Jn 3:23 And this is his commandment, That we should 1) believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and 2) love one another, as he gave us commandment.
1Jn 3:24 And he that keepeth his commandments dwelleth in him, and he in him. And hereby we know that he abideth in us, by the Spirit which he hath given us.
By what you said and did, did you break one of these two commandments?
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