Is it wrong to use sex toys within in the bond of marriage?

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JosephsDreams

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No doubt porn is evil. It is from the pits of hell.
But are sex toys?
Is spesking graphically, without cursing.?
Is acting out a scenario that does not invoolve pretending to be other people, or anything that would be obviously sexually immoral, like a wife pretending to be a man, or any other obvious peversion or sexual immorality.
For that matter, on a related subject, does anyone ever feel, I don't know, maybe the word is uncomfortable, that God is there during sex?
 
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sparkman

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No doubt porn is evil. It is from the pits of hell.
But are sex toys?
Is spesking graphically, without cursing.?
Is acting out a scenario that does not invoolve pretending to be other people, or anything that would be obviously sexually immoral, like a wife pretending to be a man, or any other obvious peversion or sexual immorality.
For that matter, on a related subject, does anyone ever feel, I don't know, maybe the word is uncomfortable, that God is there during sex?
Your profile says you are unmarried. All sexual activity outside of marriage is immoral. Sex is covenantal in nature, between a man and a wife.

Ask yourself if you as a Christian would feel comfortable going into a sex store and buying sexual toys. That should give you a clue.

I don't know why I bother to answer this, because it's pretty obvious you're a troll. You don't seem to comprehend the rather basic teachings that Christ gave concerning lustful thoughts in Matthew 5:48.

But, here's a set of videos you might watch in regards to sex, in order to develop a reverential treatment of it:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLKnzCuBYVJm59bXVdE5bDx2WAUWuA4dxV
 

hornetguy

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No, I don't think its wrong. I think anything that a man and woman do together in the marital bed is ok...as long as both are willing participants ( no coercion ). Sex is a gift from God...HE made it pleasurable, and as far as I've seen, there's no "missionary position, for procreation only" clause anywhere in His word.
 
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dalconn

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using an object as a substitute for covenantal intimacy is both degrading and dishonoring to God....don't do it!
 

hornetguy

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using an object as a substitute for covenantal intimacy is both degrading and dishonoring to God....don't do it!
hmmmm..... any references to that scripture? Please don't take offense, I don't have any problem whatsoever with you believing that, but to put it forth as doctrine...?
 
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My wife and I use foreplay/roleplay in the bedroom all the time. Sex toys (**edited**) may be forbidden, but I'm not sure I've read anything in the Bible that says it's a sin. Honestly, this kind of question would be better off in a private conversation with your pastor or marriage counselor as some here may be offended by such questions of an adult nature. Good luck.
 
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Ugly

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My wife and I use foreplay/roleplay in the bedroom all the time. Sex toys such as dildos and such may be forbidden, but I'm not sure I've read anything in the Bible that says it's a sin. Honestly, this kind of question would be better off in a private conversation with your pastor or marriage counselor as some here may be offended by such questions of an adult nature. Good luck.
Ironic that you talk about your personal sex life, then go on to talk about dildos, then end it with how this should be private. Obviously you don't think it needs to be private or you would not have been a full contributor in the conversation.
 
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Tintin

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My wife and I use foreplay/roleplay in the bedroom all the time. Sex toys such as dildos and such may be forbidden, but I'm not sure I've read anything in the Bible that says it's a sin. Honestly, this kind of question would be better off in a private conversation with your pastor or marriage counselor as some here may be offended by such questions of an adult nature. Good luck.
Shut up, Jack. You and your other identity or friend (Joseph) need to stop trolling.
 
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Kaycie

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Using sex toys is practicing perversion. You are supposed to make love to your spouse- not to an object. This is the simplest way to know- lust (perversion) is completely void of love, and love is completely void of lust. Remember the attraction? The holding hands and being nervous? If that is a river, making love is the ocean. It is that giddy feeling intensified. Who has romantic feelings for an object? God designed a strong attraction and a strong bond so that a man can love his wife like Christ loved the church, so much that He was willing to give up His life to save her. Would you give up your life for an object? Then it's not love, it's lust.
 

JosephsDreams

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I am not a troll.
I never said in my post I was married.
And I am not having sex with anyone.
 
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JosephsDreams

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Okay, I am convinced, no toys. What about the other things I mentioned?
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Why do you need to know these things if you are not married?

Wouldn't these be questions you need to ask your WIFE what she feels about once you got one?
 
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didymos

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hmmmm..... any references to that scripture? Please don't take offense, I don't have any problem whatsoever with you believing that, but to put it forth as doctrine...?
Genesis 2:24: they shall be one flesh, so no rubber substitutes involved. :p
 

blue_ladybug

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If you need a **edited** sex toy to give your woman pleasure, then that's just pathetic. She should be getting pleasure from a REAL one, not a synthetic fake one. :/ jmo
 
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JosephsDreams

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I am not married. Not engaged, nor going out with anyone. Not intrested at this time in dating. In fact just the thought of it exhausts me.
And I am not divorced. I am raising two young girls.

I have prayed and searched the scriptures, with no explicit answers.
Of course I realize love is the primary consideration in this area.
If I were married and my wife declined, that would be that. But before, and if, I even go there, I want to know if it is a sin or not.
Why do I have to be married to ask other Christians? I merely wish to respect and obey God's laws. I do not want to defile the marriage bed, if I ever do get married again.
If I were to re marry, I want to obey God in my responsibilities as a husband.
Is this offensive to some that I am not married to be asking this?
The pastor has spoken and said that don't watch porn, which I dont, I think it is a device of the devil, and he said otherwise everything else is all right in the bounds of marriage.
That really did not answer my questions in a way that I felt satisfied.
So who now can I ask?
The world? Dear Abby?
 

notuptome

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Please explain how any of this glorifies God?

Are we so carnal that we need to consider this subject?

Pr 21:2 Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the LORD pondereth the hearts.

For the cause of Christ
Roger
 

JosephsDreams

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Why does one assume it is me wanting to use them? First, in my previous thread, even if I was thinking about it, I put that to bed, pun intended.
Second, before I was a Christian, I experienced from more then one woman the interest in things I did not want to be part of.
If I remarried, before, or if, a similar situation arises, and I am in a position where I may be rejecting or hurting my wifes feelings, as a Christian, I want to have the conviction that something is proper or improper in God's eyes.
Sexual immorality is something that can taint married Christians as well homosexuals, lesbians, and so on. I don't want to touch that.

Although generally it is men, increasingly woman seem to be showing a inclination to such things, so please do not jump to conclusions about me or other males.
 
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coby

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Why does one assume it is me wanting to use them? First, in my previous thread, even if I was thinking about it, I put that to bed, pun intended.
Second, before I was a Christian, I experienced from more then one woman the interest in things I did not want to be part of.
If I remarried, before, or if, a similar situation arises, and I am in a position where I may be rejecting or hurting my wifes feelings, as a Christian, I want to have the conviction that something is proper or improper in God's eyes.
Sexual immorality is something that can taint married Christians as well homosexuals, lesbians, and so on. I don't want to touch that.

Although generally it is men, increasingly woman seem to be showing a inclination to such things, so please do not jump to conclusions about me or other males.
And I thought you were just trolling around to have some fun. Shame on me.