Porn is normal?! (for non christians)?

[kaitlyn76]

hello all

my dad is not a christian, he's an atheist and I know that he looks at porn. I've known this for ages, my dad doesn't cover his tracks very well (he doesn't clear his history). I am 16, I am a christian, I have been since I was 13 and it's so hard for me to know this. I know it's a normal for men that aren't Christians, but I still hate it, it makes me think of my dad differently. Like how could he look at that stuff?! I have even seen him searching for swingers clubs, sex clubs. Is that "normal"?
I feel so trapped sometimes, living in a non christian home. Always Surrounded by swearing, secular music, blasphemy, I just hate it. I love my parents but I just wish so much that they were christian. I am always worried that they are going to get into a car crash and die. It would just crush me to pieces knowing they are in hell. No peace at all.

 

[Chuckt]

Kaitlyn,

In some ways, oversexualization is not a norm for some women because a portion of women have a sexless marriage.

[video=youtube;gRJ_QfP2mhU]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRJ_QfP2mhU[/video]

Chuck

 

[Txroads]

hello all

my dad is not a christian, he's an atheist and I know that he looks at porn. I've known this for ages, my dad doesn't cover his tracks very well (he doesn't clear his history). I am 16, I am a christian, I have been since I was 13 and it's so hard for me to know this. I know it's a normal for men that aren't Christians, but I still hate it, it makes me think of my dad differently. Like how could he look at that stuff?! I have even seen him searching for swingers clubs, sex clubs. Is that "normal"?
I feel so trapped sometimes, living in a non christian home. Always Surrounded by swearing, secular music, blasphemy, I just hate it. I love my parents but I just wish so much that they were christian. I am always worried that they are going to get into a car crash and die. It would just crush me to pieces knowing they are in hell. No peace at all.

Kaitlyn... You know your parents better than anyone else... It's your house......its YOUR house.....sometimes when you have that much surrounding you the first thing is to ground yourself....find the things that make you strong in Christ....remember what first brought you to him.....if you have any brothers or sisters talk with them next.....bring them the same way you were brought.....then talk with mom.... Then talk with dad....its not easy especially when it's your family....but the best thing you can do is just to plant that seed.....put a thought into their head about what you believe.... Let them see you reading your bible.... Let them hear the music you listen too.....pray... God will show you the way... He will help.....be strong darlin.....yoi have the right heart.... Let them see it...be who you are around them as much as possible....if you need anything we are here to help

 

[Chuckt]

if you need anything we are here to help

Yes. Ditto.

 

[resurrection33]

hello all

my dad is not a christian, he's an atheist and I know that he looks at porn. I've known this for ages, my dad doesn't cover his tracks very well (he doesn't clear his history). I am 16, I am a christian, I have been since I was 13 and it's so hard for me to know this. I know it's a normal for men that aren't Christians, but I still hate it, it makes me think of my dad differently. Like how could he look at that stuff?! I have even seen him searching for swingers clubs, sex clubs. Is that "normal"?
I feel so trapped sometimes, living in a non christian home. Always Surrounded by swearing, secular music, blasphemy, I just hate it. I love my parents but I just wish so much that they were christian. I am always worried that they are going to get into a car crash and die. It would just crush me to pieces knowing they are in hell. No peace at all.

Make no mistake that your dad is committing a sin when he looks at porn:

But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matt 5:28 RSV

Don’t worry so much, though. The Lord’s discipline can be very severe, but I don’t think any one spends eternity in hell, unless he refuses to repent of his sin throughout all of eternity (and who is going to do that?)

 

[Lost_sheep]

"Normal" is a label, and that's a dangerous thing to apply to a person or their actions. Same with "right" versus "wrong" - that's a philosophical debate.

Is porn pervasive in our modern society? YES

Is porn easily accessible to anyone, anytime? YES

Is pornography damaging? Research studies indicate that it is - psychologically and physically, so YES

Is pornography damaging your relationship with your Father? YES - and this is what you need to address.

 

[slave]

" Dear Heavenly Father I pray for Kaityln and her father. Lord, how hard it is to be 16 and be the spiritual feeder of the family. Lord she has witnessed her fathers errors in sin and I pray you will comfort, and protect, and direct her and work thru her thru intercessory prayer to event a change in her families position with you. Lord, gather them to Yourself In Jesus' name Amen."

I want you to know I will be praying for your Dad. And I want you to be encouraged....keep going! He needs you and God will honor your efforts toward your family. People who belong to God face discouragement, not just probably, but inevitably. You being repulsed by it is healthy, it's Gods morality in you being knocked up side the head, and instead of indulging in the luxury of self-pity you have chosen to reach out and be bothered...God bless you for that.. God is calling you to arms and at 16, and with it being your Dad and family whom you are suppose to honor, seems like a task that is beyond you, but this is when God acts on your righteous prayers behalf showing His glory thru your Christ-like disposition moving in your upset morals -- unto prayer. This is your mission field by way of proxy now.Trust confidently in your Lord to event change. And we as a community will align our prayers with you.

"Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus....consider Him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart." Hebrews 12:1-3.

 

[Willie-T]

Kaitlyn... You know your parents better than anyone else... It's your house......its YOUR house.....sometimes when you have that much surrounding you the first thing is to ground yourself....find the things that make you strong in Christ....remember what first brought you to him.....if you have any brothers or sisters talk with them next.....bring them the same way you were brought.....then talk with mom.... Then talk with dad....its not easy especially when it's your family....but the best thing you can do is just to plant that seed.....put a thought into their head about what you believe.... Let them see you reading your bible.... Let them hear the music you listen too.....pray... God will show you the way... He will help.....be strong darlin.....yoi have the right heart.... Let them see it...be who you are around them as much as possible....if you need anything we are here to help

A big AMEN to this!