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Originally Posted by Kay_Kay
He knows all of that. But you have to understand, being a homosexual feels like a major part of his identity, even if he doesn't like it. How would you feel knowing that something major about yourself is something God considers horrible? It has caused him to grow up with a lot of self-loathing issues along with some very complicated feelings. He says some days the guilt drives him mad. And the prospect of never finding love or having love that is respectful is all the more depressing. He has expressed that he feels "da**ed".
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I'm very sorry to hear that your friend feels this way because I'm sure he's a great person. It sounds like your friend doesn't realize that being gay is only a very small part of his personality and life and that he shouldn't be defined by it at all.
This is what I mean. If he loathes himself because of a sin that he feels and possibley (i'm assuming) hasn't commited or is sorry he commited, why is he loathing himself? That is like saying a judge will put a man in jail for
thinking about stealing. That man may be tempted and want to steal all his life (or go mad as you say), but to condemn that man for something he hasn't done or is regretful for...is illogical as Mr. Spock would say.
And even then by that reasoning our God isn't a logical God. He decided to forgive all our sins on the cross (emphasis on
all) reguardless of the offense. God doesn't loathe those who loves Him. He might let them live with a couple curve balls in life (we all have them whether it be jealousy, loneliness, tragity, whatever) but we are not demned to hell for the simple reason of the cross.
Do not let satan fool your friend into thinking that he is a lesser man because he struggles with sin. We all do, and here's the kicker: all sin is equal. He isn't alone and he should learn to accept himself as a wonderfully unique individual. Sexuality doesn't define the man, the man defines the man. Besides which, why would you want to be defined by one feature of your life anyway? Isn't that...limiting?
Who knows maybe your friend will be cured of homosexuality and meet a nice girl. Maybe not. Don't tell him that he has to do "anything" to be accepted in this life unless it's to trust in God who made and
loves him. It seems to me that your friend has been confronted by people who dont understand him or his situation. You should tell him to confide in a person he loves and trusts when he's feeling these feelings of inadequacy and madness. Maybe he will realize that God isn't as fickle as people are and that He loves him in every single way possible with a perfect love.