Does your 'pastor' have a title in front of his name?
He earned his title going to a university, no different from someone who earned their PhD. However, he has never introduced himself as "Pastor" nor as "Reverend" and I've never heard him correct anyone in how they refer to him.
Does your 'pastor' sit in a special seat in the sanctuary?
Nope.
Does he have a special seat in your banquets?
Nope. He goes around and sits down with different people, visit with them for a few minutes, and moves on to someone else.
Does he like being acknowledged in the market place?
Nope. Never. Matter of fact, he wouldn't even let us honor him on Pastor's Appreciation Day.
Is he elevated above the congregation?
Nope. He goes around greeting everyone. Opens doors for people. Helps old ladies to their cars, etc...
Is he payed a 'filthy lucre' salary?
"The worker deserves his wages" Luke 10:7 & 1 Timothy 5:18
Does he not work a secular job?
He's too busy visiting people at hospitals, doing dirty work at the church, and counselling people to work a secular job; all while managing to have family time with his wife and kids.
Does he take tithes from the poor and widows?
He has told the board to never let him know who gives what. Anyways, it's not up to anyone in the church if the poor or the widows gives money. That's between them and God.
Is he seperate and above other elders?
No, they work together as a team.
Does he not wash feet on his knees and serve tables in a servants apron?
Do you wash other's feet on your knees? However, I have seen him serve others even when he's in alot of pain (he's had a back injury). I have seen him get down on his hands and knees to fix toilets for people. I have seen him wipe noses of those in hospital rooms. I have seen him serve.
I'm not saying all this to make him look good. You asked. I answered. 
Four places where you're going wrong.
One: It sounds like you refer to him as the only pastor. This does seperate him as someone 'special'.
1Peter 5 and Acts 20. All elders in the local body are pastors. There is no scriptural endorsement for the 'single' at the top pastor.
Two: Acts 20 Paul commands all elders/pastors to work secular jobs. Your 'pastor' is defying God's word right there.
The itenerent preachers like Paul had a right to accept support. The local elders/pastors were not to serve for filthy lucre.
Acts 20 commands the elders/pastors to work, not sponge off of the folks. Your 'pastor' is breaking another command.
Three: you say he earned his title, but is he not called 'pastor' by anyone. A little confusing. Anyway, See: Acts 20:8-12 Jesus commanded that no religious titles be worn by anyone. Then He said why. Arrogance. If he is allowing anyone to call him by any religious title, or showing partiality to him above others he's breaking another command of God.
Four: One more thing. All Christians are to work ministries. Ephesians 4:12. One man isn't suppose to 'do it all'. The gifts and functions were given to every member. 'He gave gifts unto men, His people. Ephesians 4:8. See: 1Cor. 12, Romans 12, and Ephesians 4.
This deal about one man being the head minister, the one repository for all the ministry's gifts of God, is bogus, not biblical.
I truly doubt that the folks in your fellowship don't hold him in higher regard as someone more special than the other folks.
The folks wanting to have an appreciation day for him proves that they esteem him higher and more special than others.
We are to honor the elders but not to the point of submission and exaltation. These are for Christ alone.
Are we not suppose to pour more abundant honor on the less comely parts? 1Cor. 12:24
Are we to show favoritism? That is sin. James 2:9
This is engrained in Christians that there MUST be one man who is the do it all master, minister, and eminent one. Everyone is special we say but there is one individual who Is more special than the special.
He is relied upon and expected to quit his day job and 'be our one man show, leader'.
Please study those chapters. A warning. You won't find the Single Pastor in them. Everyone ministered in their spiritual functions.
A body has many parts. One man cannot contain all the gifts God has for His people. So the body languishes in impotency because the folks are not allowed or expected to ever graduate into functionality and service 'one unto another' in the open meeting that Paul has shown us. Perpetual students that never grow up.
A paying audience and the same guy sermonizing every Sunday morning is NOT the 'church', the scriptures envision.
