Is Remarrying your Ex-Spouse a SIN???

[Sanfam]

Hello, yes! Remarriage of your ex is always desired unless she has married someone else in the meantime. Deut. 24:4 calls this type of remarriage an "abomination!" Scary thing. But if your ex wife had sexual relations but did not get remarried Jer. 3:1 states that although this is sick it is not an abomination and remarriage to her is still not only possible but many times still preferable.

 

[maxwel]

Brokenhearted1025,

It's not a sin to remarry an ex...
but it could certainly be unwise.

At this point, it's done and over.
You need to pray for your father, and his new marriage, and pray for yourself, that you'll have wisdom.

Maybe this was a good decision, and maybe it was a terrible decision... but it was your father's decision to make, and he made it.

Your job now is to stay close to God, and try to interact with them wisely.

 

[Sanfam]

If the woman divorced your father, and committed sexual immorality outside the marriage, if he is a believer and she is professing not to believe, it is possible that your father being loosed scripturally would be foolish to remarry an unbeliever in such a circumstance as this and become "unequally yoked" again but a pastor would need to talk to them first to find out if that was the case. But this is only my opinion.

 

[Beresheet]

There is nothing wrong with remarrying a spouse but the chances that it will work the second time is slim. If it didn't work the first go round it probably not going to work the second. God allows divorce, it better to separate than to kill each other. Lol. God is a divorced person in that He divorced His people. The Israelites wanted to have a man King, one that they could see and talk to, it hurt the Fathers feelings so God divorced Israel and installed a man King.

 

[Sanfam]

God divorced them for prostituting themselves with other Nations and false god's. Jer. 3:8-9 God divorced Israel in 2 Kings chapter 17. God divorced Judah in the book of Acts for rejecting the Prophet that Moses spoke about. This account can be seen in Heb. 8:8-13.

 

[Sanfam]

God stayed married to Judah in Jer. 3:8-9 because she was willing to return to the marriage. Paul told us to stay mrried to an unbelieving spouse if they are also willing to live with you 1 Cor. 7:12-13.

 

[LaurenTM]

oh good grief

sanfam and beresheet

you sound like the same person

in any event, it's a done deal...the issue is forgiveness

maybe read the op from many moons ago....

and no, I'm not getting roped into the discussion...ain't my gig anyway

 

[Crustyone]

LaurenTM, love your avatar!

 

[OneFaith]

I can think of a lot of things that would describe re-marrying an ex but sin is not one of them. Love to see the scriptural support for that one.

For the cause of Christ
Roger

Deuteronomy 24:4 says that it is a sin and an abomination to remarry the one whom you've divorced.

 

[Sanfam]

Deuteronomy 24:4 says that it is a sin and an abomination to remarry the one whom you've divorced.

If she has married another man inbetween your different marriages to her.

 

[wolfwint]

Hello One & All,

I hope all is well.

This morning (5/26), I have found out that my dad remarried his ex-wife and I am very angry about it.

Everybody on my Dad's side of the family knows how bad she treated me as well as the rest of my family members. My dad had enough of it, and divorced her 3 years ago. Now, he's gone back with her and remarried her.

I remember about 3 years ago, I went to church with my dad and grandmother, and the Pastor's sermon covered divorce and remarriage. The Pastor said that there's nothing wrong with getting married again after being divorced, but he said that remarrying your ex-spouse is a sin.

Is it really a sin if one remarries an ex-spouse? If so, where can I find the scripture(s) in the Bible? Please let me know. Thank you all so much![/QU

Well, I understand you and it seems that your dads wife is not your mother. I can not find in the bible remarrige the same wife is a sin. According the scripture like Romans 7, 1-3;
"Know you not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives? 2 For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he lives; but if the husband dies, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband lives, she is married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband dies, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she is married to another man."



As i understand the scripture, all remarrige is sin, except the same woman! I know that today people, even pastors find a way to legalize remarrige. It is their responsibility! But If someone will follow the scripture he should not remarrige, after divorce.

 

[presidente]

There is a passage in the Old Testament which says that if a man divorces his wife and she marries another man and the second man either divorces her or dies, and she were to go back to the first husband, that would defile the land. This is from THE divorce passage in the law. The idea is repeated in Jeremiah.

If a man only marries one woman, marries the right kind of person the right way (e.g. not his sister, mom, etc., not another man's wife, etc.), and they argue and get a divorce, and she remains single and doesn't sleep around, I don't see how anyone could make a Biblical case that it is a sin for them to reconcile.

Some other issues to consider is that some Christians consider all or some second marriages to be sinful if the first (or second if the first etc. spouse died) is still alive.

Some Christians who do not recognize second marriages may take this restriction of the wife not going back to her first husband as something for the Jews in the Old Testament and may think going back to the first spouse is the right thing to do.

There is also the issue of whether the restriiction on going back to the first wife applies only to Israel.

And there is no equivalent passage about a man getting a second wife and not being allowed to go back to the first. The passage was originally written to an audience where some of the men practiced polygamy, of the polygyny variety. Polygyny was regulated in the Torah.

 

[Yiska]

[FONT=&quot]Deuteronomy 24:1-4 "If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house,[/FONT][FONT=&quot] [/FONT][FONT=&quot]2 and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man,[/FONT][FONT=&quot] [/FONT][FONT=&quot]3 and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies,[/FONT][FONT=&quot] [/FONT][FONT=&quot]4 then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance."[/FONT]

 

[JaumeJ]

If God is taking back His wife, what do you think?

 

[Yiska]

[FONT=&quot]David, demands to have his wife back, whom he "bought with a price," though she had married another man.

2 Samuel 3: 13 - 16 13 “Good,” said David. “I will make an agreement with you. But I demand one thing of you: Do not come into my presence unless you bring Michal daughter of Saul when you come to see me.” 14 Then David sent messengers to Ish-Bosheth son of Saul, demanding, “Give me my wife Michal, whom I betrothed to myself for the price of a hundred Philistine foreskins.”[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]15 So Ish-Bosheth gave orders and had her taken away from her husband Paltiel son of Laish. 16 Her husband, however, went with her, weeping behind her all the way to Bahurim. Then Abner said to him, “Go back home!” So he went back.


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[presidente]

David, demands to have his wife back, whom he "bought with a price," though she had married another man.

2 Samuel 3: 13 - 16 13 “Good,” said David. “I will make an agreement with you. But I demand one thing of you: Do not come into my presence unless you bring Michal daughter of Saul when you come to see me.” 14 Then David sent messengers to Ish-Bosheth son of Saul, demanding, “Give me my wife Michal, whom I betrothed to myself for the price of a hundred Philistine foreskins.”
15 So Ish-Bosheth gave orders and had her taken away from her husband Paltiel son of Laish. 16 Her husband, however, went with her, weeping behind her all the way to Bahurim. Then Abner said to him, “Go back home!” So he went back.

He'd never divorced her, the situation described in the law of Moses. Saul just 'stole' her and gave her to another husband.

 

[garee]

If God is taking back His wife, what do you think?

I would suggest He never divorced his wife. That would be impossible. A bill of divorce came before the consummation of the marriage (future).A bill of divorce was necessary for Josef even though they had not yet consumed the marriage.

He divorced those who say they were Israel but where not the kind of Israel that has the Spirit of Christ dwelling in them, the new eternal born spirit He gives to His chaste virgin bride the church.. It’s never about the flesh of a Jew or a Gentile, male or female . He divorced them as a nation that he did use for a temporal time period as shadows and types up until the promised time of reformation.

 

[JaumeJ]

God's wife abandoned Him, but He is going to take her back.........nothing was mentioned of divorce, however the logic stands.

 

[DiscipleDave]

Hello One & All,

I hope all is well.

This morning (5/26), I have found out that my dad remarried his ex-wife and I am very angry about it.

Everybody on my Dad's side of the family knows how bad she treated me as well as the rest of my family members. My dad had enough of it, and divorced her 3 years ago. Now, he's gone back with her and remarried her.

I remember about 3 years ago, I went to church with my dad and grandmother, and the Pastor's sermon covered divorce and remarriage. The Pastor said that there's nothing wrong with getting married again after being divorced, but he said that remarrying your ex-spouse is a sin.

Is it really a sin if one remarries an ex-spouse? If so, where can I find the scripture(s) in the Bible? Please let me know. Thank you all so much!

There is no sin in remarrying your ex. As a matter of fact Scriptures encourages that.

1Co_7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

God hates divorce, therefore to be reconciled to your ex, is what God would rather see, INSTEAD of divorce.

There is only one legit reason for a divorce, and that is sexual immorality. NOT because she treated the kids badly.

Are you still living under your Dad's roof? If not, what is it to you what He chooses to do with his life?

Where is your LOVE for her?
Where is your Forgiveness for her?
Why is your Dad wanting to get back with her? Has she Changed? Do you know if she is changed or not? Maybe she has found the Lord Jesus and is a different person now? Seems to me you have harmful feeling within your own self, that you need to address, and that has nothing to do with her or your Dad, but within you.

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††† In His Holy and Precious Name, Jesus Christ †††

DiscipleDave