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Ken, please read my depression thread below in my siggy.
You can't hold onto the past hurts. They will consume you. Take it from someone who learned that the very hard way. Accept what happened, that it's over and cannot be undone, then let it go and move on to your future. Give it over to God and get "back to the future".. lol
Why NOT you? What makes you more exempt from suffering than the rest of us? Life sucks, Ken. We just need to deal with it as gracefully and well as we can. [/QUOTE
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we are giving this 'Bug' a big (((AMEN)))...
life can REALLY, REALLY suck - sometimes'= (LOTS' of times, even though our hearts ache for the
Love we have of and for our Saviour, they just kind of over-lap time over time as we learn and grow...
but hopefully, prayerfully, Spiritually, we can learn how to just let go or learn how to just 'live and
abide in the PEACE that we have been given and try to master the 'cope' in-between the tests and trials...
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we are giving this 'Bug' a big (((AMEN)))...
life can REALLY, REALLY suck - sometimes'= (LOTS' of times, even though our hearts ache for the
Love we have of and for our Saviour, they just kind of over-lap time over time as we learn and grow...
but hopefully, prayerfully, Spiritually, we can learn how to just let go or learn how to just 'live and
abide in the PEACE that we have been given and try to master the 'cope' in-between the tests and trials...
I too was molested as a child more than once the horror for me to deal with is that I was so young I didn't know it was wrong I mean after all I was offered candy and then told not to tell anyone. I never told but grew up with shame and never had help learning to deal with it so I just put it out of my mind.
I am telling you this because sometimes things that happen to us we have no control over, but how we react to the situation is our choice. After becoming an adult it did leave scars on me and I hated myself and have an eating problem meaning I am overweight because I didn't want to be attractive to men. Thankfully my husband saw past my weight and loves me anyway.
I talked it over with God and I was angry this is just a couple years ago. How could those men, (two neighbors in the same neighborhood), take advantage of a child like that? I was fondled not having sex thank God for that at least. But as I was talking to God I was angry and the thought came to me that these guys will someday stand before God and have to answer to why they did what they did to me. Personally I wouldn't want to be either of them at that time.
I know that I too will have to answer for my sins but I won't have to do it alone as Jesus will be with me pleading His blood. I also have to accept that maybe these men asked God for forgiveness and they might be in heaven too. But it is a sinful world we live in and God offers forgiveness for all.
Know and understand that it is not your fault this happened to you, but you can choose to lean on God and give Him this hurt and wrong that was done to you. You can choose to be happy knowing that God loves You and has given His all for you because in His eyes you are worth everything.
Hope this helps in some way... I do understand...
I am known as Blond in these here parts... known as Christian Chat...
I am telling you this because sometimes things that happen to us we have no control over, but how we react to the situation is our choice. After becoming an adult it did leave scars on me and I hated myself and have an eating problem meaning I am overweight because I didn't want to be attractive to men. Thankfully my husband saw past my weight and loves me anyway.
I talked it over with God and I was angry this is just a couple years ago. How could those men, (two neighbors in the same neighborhood), take advantage of a child like that? I was fondled not having sex thank God for that at least. But as I was talking to God I was angry and the thought came to me that these guys will someday stand before God and have to answer to why they did what they did to me. Personally I wouldn't want to be either of them at that time.
I know that I too will have to answer for my sins but I won't have to do it alone as Jesus will be with me pleading His blood. I also have to accept that maybe these men asked God for forgiveness and they might be in heaven too. But it is a sinful world we live in and God offers forgiveness for all.
Know and understand that it is not your fault this happened to you, but you can choose to lean on God and give Him this hurt and wrong that was done to you. You can choose to be happy knowing that God loves You and has given His all for you because in His eyes you are worth everything.
Hope this helps in some way... I do understand...
I am known as Blond in these here parts... known as Christian Chat...
My friend, depression can be medically treated. When you have the depression under control, find a good Christian counselor, with experience in helping people deal with childhood sexual abuse. If you live alone, I strongly recommend that you find an assisted living arrangement. Treatment for depression is urgent and takes time. Don't hesitate to seek treatment.
I have added you to my daily prayer list. I pray that God will guide you through this dark period in your life.
I have added you to my daily prayer list. I pray that God will guide you through this dark period in your life.
depression is a natural function of our human body, inherited from this wicked world -
just like all the rest of our emotions this is one of the most difficult to manage,
it's what we learn from it and how we learn to handle it, just like all of the rest...
for those without Christ it will be a never ending problem, for there would be no way to solve it,
for it is un-solvable alone...
BUT, if we believe that our Saviour has truly called us, then of course it will be possible for us to
'over-come' all of the problems that this wicked world presents and what comes before us'...
EPH. 4 :4-5-6-7
But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling;
One Lord, One Faith, One Baptism,
One God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.
But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.
just like all the rest of our emotions this is one of the most difficult to manage,
it's what we learn from it and how we learn to handle it, just like all of the rest...
for those without Christ it will be a never ending problem, for there would be no way to solve it,
for it is un-solvable alone...
BUT, if we believe that our Saviour has truly called us, then of course it will be possible for us to
'over-come' all of the problems that this wicked world presents and what comes before us'...
EPH. 4 :4-5-6-7
But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling;
One Lord, One Faith, One Baptism,
One God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.
But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.
Hi Ken, I was terribly abused around 8 years old and even more saddening to me is half of my immediate family has died.
I get by with a little help from a friend or 2,the Church and knowing 100% certain that the Bible is the Word of God. And of course by our Comforter, the Holy Spirit.
When we are born-again, we are able to conquer all things.
it is a supernatural thing, thank you Jesus
I get by with a little help from a friend or 2,the Church and knowing 100% certain that the Bible is the Word of God. And of course by our Comforter, the Holy Spirit.
When we are born-again, we are able to conquer all things.
it is a supernatural thing, thank you Jesus
Instead of staying home and pondering the meaning of the universe, and your place in it, you need to see a doctor! With severe depression the longer you wait to have to recover, with the law of diminishing returns applying.
So if you are depressed for one year, you will need a year of medication to bring your brain and the neurotransmitters back to normal.
Two years equals 5 years to recover! Five years 10 or more. Or never! I know someone this happened to, because they were in denial, and thought depression was the sign of a bad Christian, instead of the physical brain's response to stress and tragedy.
So, yes, you need counseling, and you need lots of prayer. I guarantee God will help you if you ask. But start with the medication. Don't be afraid of it, to start, it is your friend! To say nothing of it not being even close to what they tried to treat you with all those years ago. Medicine has progressed a lot.
Praying you see your doctor, and get some help as soon as possible.
So if you are depressed for one year, you will need a year of medication to bring your brain and the neurotransmitters back to normal.
Two years equals 5 years to recover! Five years 10 or more. Or never! I know someone this happened to, because they were in denial, and thought depression was the sign of a bad Christian, instead of the physical brain's response to stress and tragedy.
So, yes, you need counseling, and you need lots of prayer. I guarantee God will help you if you ask. But start with the medication. Don't be afraid of it, to start, it is your friend! To say nothing of it not being even close to what they tried to treat you with all those years ago. Medicine has progressed a lot.
Praying you see your doctor, and get some help as soon as possible.
One more time! Here is what the Bible says about suffering.
"More than that, we rejoice in our suffering, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character and character produces hope. And hope does not disappoint, because God's love has been poured out through the Holy Spirit who was given to us." Romans 5:3-5
I would challenge you to read Job. When I had my foot reconstructed due to the terrible deformities from Rheumatoid Arthritis, (Poor me, why me?) God told me to read it, and Job became my best friend. Why? Because he suffered terribly, and God used it for good. I know you are hurting, but this becomes the time, when God can best mold and shape you into his image, instead of what you have been. I hope you can get the help you need AND let God transform you!
"More than that, we rejoice in our suffering, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character and character produces hope. And hope does not disappoint, because God's love has been poured out through the Holy Spirit who was given to us." Romans 5:3-5
I would challenge you to read Job. When I had my foot reconstructed due to the terrible deformities from Rheumatoid Arthritis, (Poor me, why me?) God told me to read it, and Job became my best friend. Why? Because he suffered terribly, and God used it for good. I know you are hurting, but this becomes the time, when God can best mold and shape you into his image, instead of what you have been. I hope you can get the help you need AND let God transform you!
No not by hypnosis. It was by my family finally telling me after 50 years that i was molested at age 10.
I understand what you are saying JesusLives but my reaction was total withdrawal from everything. They say i would not sleep or eat and just stared off into space. The only thing they could do for me was to burn out the memories by ECT. Basically they fried my brain with electricity until most of the neurons for the memory were totally fried.
I have been in and out of therapy for most of my life because of mental problems. I do not know if i have it in me to do it again. I am just soo tired. I have no friends to talk to, most of my family is dead, i have nothing and no one.
I understand what you are saying JesusLives but my reaction was total withdrawal from everything. They say i would not sleep or eat and just stared off into space. The only thing they could do for me was to burn out the memories by ECT. Basically they fried my brain with electricity until most of the neurons for the memory were totally fried.
I have been in and out of therapy for most of my life because of mental problems. I do not know if i have it in me to do it again. I am just soo tired. I have no friends to talk to, most of my family is dead, i have nothing and no one.