Why we should forgive others

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Forgiving does not mean we need to let them in our lives either in some instances.

We can forgive others for their behavior but if there is no repentance - we don't need to let them in our house to ruin the rest of the people. That is what church discipline is all about.

This is why Paul says not to "associate" with certain types of people that remain in bad behavior. It's not that they are not forgiven - it's because they will continue to defile the others because of their bad behavior. Hebrews 12:15 is very clear that this does happen.

I can forgive a child molester but I will not let them around my family if they are not repented and exhibited a changed mind in their behavior.
Thank you for reminding me that I was doing it the right way.:)
 
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Very true and I believe applies to people in this forum demanding that mods make a judgment. They think it will be in their favor but normally an objective observer can see both are guilty.
There is a distinct failure online that doesn't happen IRL. If a bro offends us we're supposed to go them and try to straighten it out. (And we're supposed to to go with the attitude of straighten it out versus trying to prove we're right. Something I have great trouble doing. I've done it, but me being me, it's really HARD. :eek:) If the bro doesn't listen, we're supposed to take one or two with us.

My problem? How do we do that online? I always imagine the one or two isn't quite as bullheaded as I am, I'd prefer it if the one or two would be the arbitrators, thus know both parties, but I really can't figure how to do that online.

Unless there is a concept I'm not thinking of, I do think mods will have to be that one. BUT it would be nice to go in it realizing the mods aren't our private pit bulls to sic on the other person.
 
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I loved to hold on to resentment and all towards people.. but then a pastor said '' your not forgiving them because they deserve it. You forgive them because you need the peace and the trouble isnt worth it. We all mess up"
Which just screws around with my self-righteousness in all sorts of ways. :rolleyes:
 
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There is a distinct failure online that doesn't happen IRL. If a bro offends us we're supposed to go them and try to straighten it out. (And we're supposed to to go with the attitude of straighten it out versus trying to prove we're right. Something I have great trouble doing. I've done it, but me being me, it's really HARD. :eek:) If the bro doesn't listen, we're supposed to take one or two with us.

My problem? How do we do that online? I always imagine the one or two isn't quite as bullheaded as I am, I'd prefer it if the one or two would be the arbitrators, thus know both parties, but I really can't figure how to do that online.

Unless there is a concept I'm not thinking of, I do think mods will have to be that one. BUT it would be nice to go in it realizing the mods aren't our private pit bulls to sic on the other person.
Step 1 private message person

Step 2 online thread/fellow members moderate (pm a person you both respect or are friends with to moderate)


Step 3 mods/court/judgement of thread

At least that is how I see it
 
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Step 1 private message person

Step 2 online thread/fellow members moderate (pm a person you both respect or are friends with to moderate)


Step 3 mods/court/judgement of thread

At least that is how I see it
Brilliant!

Which forum does the thread go on?
 

notmyown

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Brilliant!

Which forum does the thread go on?
in case she's getting dinner or the kids to bed, there's a way you can do a private talk, invitation only.

what is it? beats me! i've been invited, and had to have my hand held to get there. :eek:
 
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I'd say forgive others so they can give you chocolate oh and it's what we are supposed to do, but chocolate is like icing on the cake
 
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Step 1 private message person

Step 2 online thread/fellow members moderate (pm a person you both respect or are friends with to moderate)


Step 3 mods/court/judgement of thread

At least that is how I see it
The first two are good ideas.

Good luck with the third..... 7 years & I've never seen it.

As a matter of fact, I was told years ago that the forums were "allowed more leneincy" for discussion. That's what they call fighting for pages..... "leniency".

That's why some fight so much.....they know they aren't gonna get banned.
:rolleyes:
 

Demi777

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Yep :p but some good cake to treat yourself for doin the right thing works :D haha I literaly tricked myself like that for a while lol

Which just screws around with my self-righteousness in all sorts of ways. :rolleyes:
 
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I've had a situation at work this past year the made me so angry at my boss that I battled for months to forgive her. She allowed a co-worker to work a part-time job before coming into his job where I work. I was his official back up if he took a day off or was sick, but she didn't seem to think there was anything wrong with me helping him every single day to do his job because he came in late and had to get things done. It wasn't about me not getting my work done, which I did, it was the fact that he could go work a 2nd job and I had to help him do his full time job. And he was the one making more money while I live paycheck to paycheck. She asked me what was wrong one day when I was especially upset, and I told her. Later she called in me and basically told me my attitude was crappy and I needed to fix it or this was not the place for me to work at. She just could not see where she made a bad decision on my behalf. The Lord had already been dealing with me about forgiving her and I realized that regardless of how nice I acted around her, the unforgiveness was obvious on my countenance. We just cannot act right if it's not in our hearts.
 

Rabina217

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We should forgive because we are forgiven. Jesus forgave us and we are to imitate him.