Sorry a little confused, you say we are not to judge our brothers/sisters in Christ then you say we are to judge in a loving and kind way.
Maybe we are confusing judgement with loving. Judgement has a negative connotation. In certain circumstances it sure does.
God judged the world and its sin. The negative is sin that needed to be judged. To me that sin is the sin of unbelief in Jesus.
John 16:5-11
The Work of the Holy Spirit
“But now I go away to Him who sent Me, and none of you asks Me, ‘Where are You going?’ But because I have said these things to you, sorrow has filled your heart. Nevertheless I tell you the truth. It is to your advantage that I go away; for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you; but if I depart, I will send Him to you. And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment: of sin, because they do not believe in Me; of righteousness, because I go to My Father and you see Me no more; of judgment, because the ruler of this world is judged.
When we think about the words of Jesus "We will know them by their fruits" What fruit is it we think he is talking about?
What If someone doesn't seem to bear the fruit that we think they should be. We are determining the fruit that should be growing. There we can get it wrong, this can be based on our thoughts, biases, upbringing.
Unfortunatley we can negate the fruit that someone has with the negative things that WE SEE AS SIN.
I smoke cigars, I was once told that I smell like the place I'm going to and that was hell. That's all they could see. They didn't see me reaching out to hurting people, walking with hurting people. I fact a very weird experience happened to me. When my wife and I went away for a weekend in a hotel that you could not smoke in I went outside much to my wife's annoyance.
When outside I started to talk to another guy having a smoke. I didn't want to talk to him but I felt God say to me to say hello. So I did, I thought he was employed to keep the grounds clean. So I said hello and asked him what time he finished.
He said I'm not an employee, then I felt God say "ask him why he is here" I said "no please not I've got a naffed wife in our room" God said "ask him"
So I did. His response was "Just out of prison and now having to do community service" I was startled and just prayed God please let me go back to my wife, please don't ask me to ask him why he went to prison.
God said "Hey Bill ask him why he went to prison" So no point arguing with God, I asked with fear.
Summary response. "I used to be a Christian, I got mixed up, messed my life, got jealous and beat someone up who tried to take my wife away, my dad was a pastor, I want to come back to God but don't know how to, I have no idea where to go"
i had had the privilege of praying with this young man in a crowded car park and see him commit his life back to Jesus and ask for forgiveness, he promised to go and find a good church.
I have not told the above to make me look good. If I was I would have dressed it up and not have shown my retisnance to obey God. Side note when I went back to the hotel room and my wife asked tersely "where you been for the last 45 minutes" when I told her she shouted Thank You God and then we prayed for him.
Im sorry if I've gone on a bit but I'm trying to make a point. Someone told me cause I smoke I smell like hell, the place I'm going to because I smoke. Further side note I smoke in my own place and not in front of Christians.
i think when we talk about the words of Jesus concerning bearing fruit we need to look at the whole passage. I will provide a link to a commentary on it.
The focus for me is the vine, the pruning. If someone remains in the vine which is Jesus, then it is God through the Holy Spirit who does the pruning in us.
He prunes to allow us to bear fruit. We need to be like him with others.
We need his wisdome to come along side people. There are genuine believers who walk in the way that is wrong, rather than condemn them we need to come alongside and get to know why.
A extreme example my be that someone who says they are a Christian but sleeps around. We need to come alongside and ask why, someone who gets drunk every night why, someone who finds it difficult to read the bible, talk to God.
such people may be part of the vine of Jesus, they remain in him despite what they are doing. They hate what they are doing, don't understand why they do what they do but don't want to do it.
if that's the case to me they are in the vine. They just need pruning, not judgement, us revealing the love of God, their sin has been judged (works of the flesh) but if you genuinely believe in Jesus, there is hope, there is healing and true forgiveness.
sorry gone on a bit. Link to follow.
The Vine and the Fruit | John 15:1-11 | RayStedman.org