as someone that has lost a daughter many times ive ask God why didnt you save her my daughter died from a accident its been a veery hard road to travel missing her every day seeing familes together enjoying their lives while i mourn my daughter yes i no shes in heaven but it has never helped here missing all the holidays birthdays and life with her if you havent experienced the loss of a child you want ever understand the years of hurt involved its beyond hurtful and all ive ever asked is God why you didnt save her when you could have she missed so many things here mothers day as well as her birth day is the worst even though i have a son you cant replace one child with the other at times i feel hurt with God because he didnt save her i just want to no why you would feel the same if you lost a child the question would be why
many times ive asked why
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eventually God bless you and help you through this crisis!! i believe Jesus Christ will reconcile all to Himself in the end!
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Hi sis yes it is really hard...I saw my mother went through it when she lost her 3 children...my younger siblings... May the Lord Jesus give you peace and comfort.
I wish I can give you an answer why...There are many things in this life that we could not find an answer why...some things are hidden and only God knows why...as the bible says in Isaiah 55:9 "As the heavens are higher than the earth,so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.
Maybe God wants you to learn from it...maybe HE wants you to see something through it... what's the purpose and what God wants to teach you through it...
God bless u and your family xxxhugsxxx
I wish I can give you an answer why...There are many things in this life that we could not find an answer why...some things are hidden and only God knows why...as the bible says in Isaiah 55:9 "As the heavens are higher than the earth,so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.
Maybe God wants you to learn from it...maybe HE wants you to see something through it... what's the purpose and what God wants to teach you through it...
God bless u and your family xxxhugsxxx
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I can imagine no greater loss than the loss of a child. Certainly I can not give you any easy answer to the pain you carry. I can offer from scripture that God finds the death of His saints precious in His sight. We all do well to remember that our children belong to God and His love for them is far beyond any love we are able to entertain.
Ps 116:15 Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints.
Only the Lord Himself is able to comfort you in your loss. Allow Him to be your comfort and your strength.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
Ps 116:15 Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints.
Only the Lord Himself is able to comfort you in your loss. Allow Him to be your comfort and your strength.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
Missing ones loved ones is real and it brings sadness and the feelings of longing to be with them..
But God never guaranteed anyone a long life.. Some people die as babies still in the cot before they even learn to crawl.. God does offer Eternal salvation and we who have lost loved ones ( Yeah i have also ) have that important Hope that we shall see them again and be with them for Eternity.. Kind of makes up for the lost years in this faulty world right ?
You know God took me back in time and offered to allow me to die as a toddler in my cot i would jump at the chance.. To be out of this corrupt world of pain and sin and sorrows would be wonderful.. When you really think about it, who would want to live a long life time on this faulty world within a faulty body with a faulty sin nature when they know of and believe in a Perfect eternal existence where all these faults do not exist? Death in this world is a release from suffering and an early mark into eternity..
Yes we who are alive and remain do greatly miss out loved ones that have departed.. But we need to take on an eternal perspective and have hope that we shall be with that loved one again.. Living in the present moment it is often impossible for us to see beyond this world. So we should think Long Term... Like really.. Long Term... Life is short even if you live 100 years, life is as nothing compared to Eternity..
I hope you let go of your hurting about God not preventing your loved one from entering into eternity.. Eternity with God is a far better place for your loved on to be. Be assured of that one truth..
But God never guaranteed anyone a long life.. Some people die as babies still in the cot before they even learn to crawl.. God does offer Eternal salvation and we who have lost loved ones ( Yeah i have also ) have that important Hope that we shall see them again and be with them for Eternity.. Kind of makes up for the lost years in this faulty world right ?
You know God took me back in time and offered to allow me to die as a toddler in my cot i would jump at the chance.. To be out of this corrupt world of pain and sin and sorrows would be wonderful.. When you really think about it, who would want to live a long life time on this faulty world within a faulty body with a faulty sin nature when they know of and believe in a Perfect eternal existence where all these faults do not exist? Death in this world is a release from suffering and an early mark into eternity..
Yes we who are alive and remain do greatly miss out loved ones that have departed.. But we need to take on an eternal perspective and have hope that we shall be with that loved one again.. Living in the present moment it is often impossible for us to see beyond this world. So we should think Long Term... Like really.. Long Term... Life is short even if you live 100 years, life is as nothing compared to Eternity..
I hope you let go of your hurting about God not preventing your loved one from entering into eternity.. Eternity with God is a far better place for your loved on to be. Be assured of that one truth..
I have not lost a child but i did lose a sister while in my teens and she was in her early
twenties. The day that she got married and as the evening drew to an end, she and her
new husband were packing up to leave since his job was 5 hours away. I cried and I
cried and couldn't stop and nothing anyone did helped, nor was I asking for any because
it was too deep inside me to have words ease soothe the emotion. As it turned out, I
got to go seem them pretty often and life for me became more normal. One day some
3 years later the phone rang and one of my other sisters told my mom on the phone that
we needed to come right away because our younger sister was seriously ill. It turned out
she had cancer and within the week she had died. At that time, I had no tears it was more
like I had swallowed a big rock and I could move or think beyond that taking up all of my
energy. Day by day that eased and my emotions became normal again. I cried but not the
tears I once did; it was almost like those early tears were a prelude to what was to come.
It took days, weeks, months and years for the pain to diminish. Many years later, when my
parents died, I began with the same emotional experience. They were in their eighties and
they died pretty close in time to each other. I appreciate people trying to help when they say
well they had a good life and it was their time and so on, what else can they say. So in all 3
of those cases, it was like a pain register starting at a hundred and working down to much less,
it takes time. In my experience only time took away the hurt and took years but eventually it
does subside. It's been over fifty years since my sister died and while I don't think of her every
day, the feelings come but not as intense and not as often. So reflecting on my own story I
believe that if I hadn't loved, I would not have cried. So it only reaffirmed the love I had for
my sister and parents. So from reading your story, I can just imagine the amount of love you
had for her. Cry when you need to, smile when you need to but never regret your tears cuz
they help you through the process. And there is no time limit for these things. God bless you.
twenties. The day that she got married and as the evening drew to an end, she and her
new husband were packing up to leave since his job was 5 hours away. I cried and I
cried and couldn't stop and nothing anyone did helped, nor was I asking for any because
it was too deep inside me to have words ease soothe the emotion. As it turned out, I
got to go seem them pretty often and life for me became more normal. One day some
3 years later the phone rang and one of my other sisters told my mom on the phone that
we needed to come right away because our younger sister was seriously ill. It turned out
she had cancer and within the week she had died. At that time, I had no tears it was more
like I had swallowed a big rock and I could move or think beyond that taking up all of my
energy. Day by day that eased and my emotions became normal again. I cried but not the
tears I once did; it was almost like those early tears were a prelude to what was to come.
It took days, weeks, months and years for the pain to diminish. Many years later, when my
parents died, I began with the same emotional experience. They were in their eighties and
they died pretty close in time to each other. I appreciate people trying to help when they say
well they had a good life and it was their time and so on, what else can they say. So in all 3
of those cases, it was like a pain register starting at a hundred and working down to much less,
it takes time. In my experience only time took away the hurt and took years but eventually it
does subside. It's been over fifty years since my sister died and while I don't think of her every
day, the feelings come but not as intense and not as often. So reflecting on my own story I
believe that if I hadn't loved, I would not have cried. So it only reaffirmed the love I had for
my sister and parents. So from reading your story, I can just imagine the amount of love you
had for her. Cry when you need to, smile when you need to but never regret your tears cuz
they help you through the process. And there is no time limit for these things. God bless you.
Hello Friend! I can't imagine what your pain is like! I have not lost a child but I have lost a husband in an automobile accident. I can tell you I asked God the same questions why? How come You didn't prevent it from happening? How can this be part of your plan for me? But after all the questions it came down to do I trust God even in this? I had to ask myself that hard question. You and I will never understand God's ways but we can trust that He has every thing under control. My life has changed so much since my husband went to heaven. God has given me a different life and truly Jer 29:11 that says "I know the plans I have for you plans for good and not evil. Plans to give you a future and a hope," this verse has come true for me. I know God's plans look different from the plans that you had but trust Him. He will bring you through this "valley of the shadow of death. " One day you will see your daughter again and I will my husband. How great a reunion that will be and how happy will they be that we can say " I missed you but I carried on and served God and others faithfully until He called me home. " I am praying for you!
So sorry about the lose of A loved one.
Ecclesiastes 9:11 (KJV)
I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift,
nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise,
nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill;
but time and chance happeneth to them all.
Ecclesiastes 9:11 (KJV)
I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift,
nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise,
nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill;
but time and chance happeneth to them all.