Is polygamy ok to God?

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trofimus

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Well, if you make the King or whoever divorce his surplus ones, what becomes of them? I mean honestly, equating polygamy which God endorsed for king David, with all that other awful stuff. Please think before writing.
Please, read it again.

"It really depends on the wisdom of missionaries how fast to change all of that dirt to make it workable for those people."
 

J7

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Yes, it doesn't make it right, but maybe enforcing a retroactive Law causes more damage than good.

Polygamy is at least reproductive for the human race.

When it suited God's purposes, e.g. Jacob, he allowed it.

Clearly there is some kind of permissive Law there.

Or can you show me a Law in the OT where it is explicitly banned?
 
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aboutenough

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We had this discussion in a Mens Bible study about Polygamy. I always thought Polygamy was ok in Old Testament times because of what King David and Solomon did having many wives. They were influenced by Arab cultures surrounding them where polygamy was being practiced, so they decided it was ok for them. Notice both David and Solomon had problems from having many wives. David committing adultery and Solomon marrying women that didn't worship the same God. If they would have followed Gods design for marriage in Genesis they wouldn't have had so many problems.
 

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We had this discussion in a Mens Bible study about Polygamy. I always thought Polygamy was ok in Old Testament times because of what King David and Solomon did having many wives. They were influenced by Arab cultures surrounding them where polygamy was being practiced, so they decided it was ok for them. Notice both David and Solomon had problems from having many wives. David committing adultery and Solomon marrying women that didn't worship the same God. If they would have followed Gods design for marriage in Genesis they wouldn't have had so many problems.

Revisionistic twaddle.

7 Nathan said to David, “You are the man! Thus says the Lord, the God of Israel: I anointed you king over Israel, and I rescued you from the hand of Saul; 8 I gave you your master’s house, and your master’s wives into your bosom,.............[FONT=&quot]and if that had been too little, I would have added as much more.

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Roughsoul1991

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Revisionistic twaddle.

7 Nathan said to David, “You are the man! Thus says the Lord, the God of Israel: I anointed you king over Israel, and I rescued you from the hand of Saul; 8 I gave you your master’s house, and your master’s wives into your bosom,.............[FONT=&quot]and if that had been too little, I would have added as much more.

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Leviticus 18:8 would of been corrupted if David would have married Solomon's wives. The scripture you posted doesn't say he married any of his wives. But just as any King who takes the throne from another King, gains everything the old King had including his wives, kids, slaves, land etc. The versw does not say he married these woman.
 
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After David had Uriah killed God said I gave you all Saul's wives and such, had that not been enough I would have given you more... 2 Sam 12:8
The Lord gave Israel a king, but he didn’t want them to have a king, because he knew it would get them into trouble.

David had all these wives and what happened next? He sleeps with another man’s wife, gets her pregnant, and then has her husband killed to hide what he’d done.
 

Jackson123

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one of the branch in my denomination there was Muslim, he have 2 wife, than convert, and the pastor let him keep them.

i believe it happen in the first generation Christian, in the act
 
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CaptainGoat

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At first God allowed it but later He said men are to have one wife. (I guess he saw how stressed it was for men to have more then one?)
 

Kavik

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It's very common in royal lines (both ancient and relatively modern) simply because most of these marriages were/are arranged and extremely political - it wasn't "John" marrying "Jeanne", it was, for example, "England marrying France", or "Western Christendom marrying Eastern (Byzantine) Christendom", etc., etc.

Few marriages of this type were done out of love - oftentimes, the 'groom' and 'bride' did not meet each other until their wedding day. Oftentimes, they didn't even speak the same language!

Marriages such as this were to bond alliances and create allies and the like; thus, it was very common for both parties concerned (both the husband and wife) to seek other partners. Quite common right up until recently with respect to royal/noble lines. It's interesting to note that any issue of the male was considered a legitimate heir.

As others have mentioned, many cultures still practice polygamy - a man may have as many wives as he can support - in these cultures it's typically a mark of one's status and a demonstration of one's wealth.
 
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CaptainGoat

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As others have mentioned, many cultures still practice polygamy - a man may have as many wives as he can support - in these cultures it's typically a mark of one's status and a demonstration of one's wealth.
Umm. I'm single...
 

Magenta

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It was OK before Christ.

Now it is adultery.
No, it was not okay, ever. Being faithful to the wife of your youth does not include going out and bedding more women.
 

Marcelo

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Husband and wife are one flesh (not husband and his wives).
 

trofimus

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No, it was not okay, ever. Being faithful to the wife of your youth does not include going out and bedding more women.
It was OK, look at David, Abraham, Moses etc.

Your verse means something different. That husband should not send his (old) wife away, but he should remember the promise he made when they were young.

It is not related to the number of wives.
 
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aboutenough

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Revisionistic twaddle.

7 Nathan said to David, “You are the man! Thus says the Lord, the God of Israel: I anointed you king over Israel, and I rescued you from the hand of Saul; 8 I gave you your master’s house, and your master’s wives into your bosom,.............and if that had been too little, I would have added as much more.

Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Bible Commentary
8. I gave thee thy master's house, and thy master's wives—The phraseology means nothing more than that God in His providence had given David, as king of Israel, everything that was Saul's. The history furnishes conclusive evidence that he never actually married any of the wives of Saul. But the harem of the preceding king belongs, according to Oriental notions, as a part of the regalia to his successor.


David inherited Sauls Harem, but doesn't mean he married any of them, not does it mean it was Gods will to have many wives. Just means there is a tradition of passing down the Harem from one King to the next.
 
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1Ki 11:1 But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites;
1Ki 11:2 Of the nations concerning which the LORD said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love.
1Ki 11:3 And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart.
1Ki 11:4 For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.
1Ki 11:5 For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Zidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites.
1Ki 11:6 And Solomon did evil in the sight of the LORD, and went not fully after the LORD, as did David his father.
1Ki 11:7 Then did Solomon build an high place for Chemosh, the abomination of Moab, in the hill that is before Jerusalem, and for Molech, the abomination of the children of Ammon.
1Ki 11:8 And likewise did he for all his strange wives, which burnt incense and sacrificed unto their gods.
1Ki 11:9 And the LORD was angry with Solomon, because his heart was turned from the LORD God of Israel, which had appeared unto him twice,
1Ki 11:10 And had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods: but he kept not that which the LORD commanded.
 
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Just a few words, God did not start polygamy, however the bible does not ever call polygamy a sin, not in the OT nor in the NT. I think Paul discouraged the idea of polygamy in the church when he said that the leaders had to have only one wife, but having more then one wife is never called a sin in the bible. We need to keep in mind that one of the parables by Christ was of a man marrying ten women, if it was actually a sin for a man to marry more then one woman do you think Jesus would have ever used such a parable? So, one woman for one man, the standard, however if a man was to have more then one wife it is not a sin. The bible actually speaks of a time when seven women will ask one man to marry them(obviously a shortage of men). So pleaseeeeee lets don't call people sinners that God has not called sinners.
 
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aboutenough

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Just a few words, God did not start polygamy, however the bible does not ever call polygamy a sin, not in the OT nor in the NT. I think Paul discouraged the idea of polygamy in the church when he said that the leaders had to have only one wife, but having more then one wife is never called a sin in the bible. We need to keep in mind that one of the parables by Christ was of a man marrying ten women, if it was actually a sin for a man to marry more then one woman do you think Jesus would have ever used such a parable? So, one woman for one man, the standard, however if a man was to have more then one wife it is not a sin. The bible actually speaks of a time when seven women will ask one man to marry them(obviously a shortage of men). So pleaseeeeee lets don't call people sinners that God has not called sinners.
At what point does adultery happen if its not a sin to have more then one wife?
 
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Zi

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Yeah I know.... I answered your question as is seen in the quote bubble... What you said next has me lost as to how you thought telling me history was necessary... I'm not 12 and have read the Bible many times, which is why I was able to quote the verse you yourself didn't know about.
The Lord gave Israel a king, but he didn’t want them to have a king, because he knew it would get them into trouble.

David had all these wives and what happened next? He sleeps with another man’s wife, gets her pregnant, and then has her husband killed to hide what he’d done.
 
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jaybird88

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Matthew 19:5-6New International Version (NIV)

5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[a]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

His wife not wives, no longer TWO. Notice the Bible never says anything different from genesis to revelations. Jesus taught the same truth from the beginning. Did any of the OT men who had many wives benefited from it. It created problems with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob had issues with many wives, Joseph was disliked by the other wives sons, David had many sibling troubles, Solomon was led in to marrying pagan wives.

But we see God allows certain things at certain time periods. Sampson was a good example of a man who didnt live as Godly as one man we would expect to find his story in Gods written Word. But God allowed ir, Sampson paid for it with his life which God used to bring about his plan and glory. Just as any man who had more than one wife paid with all sorts of headaches and heartaches. Sometimes we dont understand how God worked in the OT but the NT only repeats what is said from the beginning one man and one wife become one flesh. Nothing is promoting that that one flesh should be shared with others also joining in to become 2 or 3.
i agree with this. i am not aware of the bible specifically saying its forbidden to take a 2nd wife but it should be understood by passages like this. you also have the men, women and animals on the ark, they went two by two.

its also strange to me that exodus leviticus which is laws laws and more laws, laws how to button your shirt, you cant keep up with all of them, yet no mention of taking more than one wife.
 
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Hi everyone!

I honestly think polygamy wouldn't be good for anyone and it isn't God's will. (I'd never share my husband :p)

What's your opinion? :)
You wouldn't share your husband because you love him and are jealous for him. Jealousy is a good thing. Ex 20:14 He's got a keeper.