Is polygamy ok to God?

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The Donald
has a wife who lives down the street in a hut. His First Concubine/Adulteress
lives in the White House (Rom. 7:2, 3). This is Sodom aka America so we make it up as we go along (Jer. 16:2).

"If God doesn't judge America, He'll have to apologize to Sodom and Gomorrah.” ~ Billy Graham
Ha, the First Concubine, I like that
It has a certain ring to it
I like to think that Ivanka is the First Lady
And Melania is the First Pet
 
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Hi everyone!

I honestly think polygamy wouldn't be good for anyone and it isn't God's will. (I'd never share my husband :p)

What's your opinion? :)
1 Corinthians 6:[SUP]15 [/SUP]Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.[SUP] 16 [/SUP]What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.[SUP] 17 [/SUP]But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.[SUP]18 [/SUP]Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.[SUP] 19 [/SUP]What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?[SUP] 20 [/SUP]For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

1 Corinthians 7:1Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.[SUP]2 [/SUP]Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.[SUP] 3 [/SUP]Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.[SUP] 4 [/SUP]The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.[SUP] 5 [/SUP]Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Jesus goes further... to the hearts and minds of the believers for why we need Him to be content & not lust with our eyes.

Matthew 5:[SUP]27 [/SUP]Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:[SUP]28 [/SUP]But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

The apostle John explains..

1 John 2:[SUP]15 [/SUP]Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.[SUP] 16 [/SUP]For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.[SUP]17 [/SUP]And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

This is how much we need Him in a world sporting sex appeal and the pride of life in the media.

2 Corinthians 10:[SUP] 4 [/SUP](For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;)[SUP] 5 [/SUP]Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;[SUP] 6 [/SUP]And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled.[SUP]7 [/SUP]Do ye look on things after the outward appearance? if any man trust to himself that he is Christ's, let him of himself think this again, that, as he is Christ's, even so are we Christ's.

Philippians 4:[SUP]6 [/SUP]Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.[SUP] 7 [/SUP]And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.[SUP] 8 [/SUP]Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.[SUP]9 [/SUP]Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

Psalm 19:[SUP]12 [/SUP]Who can understand his errors? cleanse thou me from secret faults.[SUP] 13 [/SUP]Keep back thy servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me: then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from the great transgression.[SUP]14 [/SUP]Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.

As much as guys are tempted by their lust to think this is okay, God says otherwise, and it is ironic how men thinks it is okay to have more than one wife, but if the women thinks it is ok to have more than one husband, they flip out. They know they are thinking wrong when confronted with the flip side of that coin.

What God has joined together as one flesh, let no man separate excludes also any man or woman to get inbetween them.
 
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#84
I've read the OT I have seen that.. my original point in posting to you was because you said you didn't know of scripture dealing with multiple wives.. whether God was for it or against it, I'm not interested in back and forth about it because He gave them and said I would have given more.. He was dealing with desire, one that David never spoke for or against.. it's not the same as moving because His hand was "forced" ..
Just because the Lord gives you something doesn't mean he wants you to have it. I already explained that to you. He gave Israel a king, not because he wanted Israel to have a king, but because Israel demanded one.
 
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Ephesians 8:11?

What crime are you speaking of? The penalty of adultery was death. You only have to go to the next chapter of Exodus, verse 10, to see that God commands that the marital rights are not to be withheld from the first wife of a man who marries another woman. If that is adultery, then we have to ask why God seemingly cannot remember His own commandments from a chapter back.


This is exactly the same argument Catholics use when defending Mary mother of Jesus' perpetual virginity though she was married.

And I think you have in one sentence destroyed the idea of God's sovereignty over His own people.
I know nothing of the Catholic's argument "defending Mary mother of Jesus' perpetual virginity though she was married." But I do know the Lord did not want Israel to have a king (have you read the Bible?) but he gave them one anyway when they demanded one.
 
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I've read the OT I have seen that.. my original point in posting to you was because you said you didn't know of scripture dealing with multiple wives.. whether God was for it or against it, I'm not interested in back and forth about it because He gave them and said I would have given more.. He was dealing with desire, one that David never spoke for or against.. it's not the same as moving because His hand was "forced" ..
I'm just saying polygamy was just as wrong then as it is now. The Lord gave Israel a king, even though he didn't want them to have a king, and he gave David numerous wives, even though he didn't want him to have numerous wives.
 
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I've read the OT I have seen that.. my original point in posting to you was because you said you didn't know of scripture dealing with multiple wives.. whether God was for it or against it, I'm not interested in back and forth about it because He gave them and said I would have given more.. He was dealing with desire, one that David never spoke for or against.. it's not the same as moving because His hand was "forced" ..
I'm just saying polygamy was just as wrong then as it is now. The Lord gave Israel a king, even though he didn't want them to have a king, and he gave David numerous wives, even though he didn't want him to have numerous wives.
Sometimes the Lord lets us learn things the hard way, be it about having a king, or be it about immoral lust.
 
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Have you read the Bible? Israel wanted a king, but the Lord didn't want them to have a king. Israel stubbornly demanded one, though, so the Lord gave them one. Things went badly after that.

And so it is with polygamy. We are told not to commit adultery. It was as true in the Old Testament as it is now. Just because David wanted to sleep with more than one woman didn't mean the Lord wanted him to. And what happened to David later? Do you remember that? He slept with another man's wife, got her pregnant, and then had her husband killed so he wouldn't find out. Is that really the way the Lord wanted David to conduct himself?
 
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Heh well as far as anyone knows
And from what I remember of the movie
E.T has one daddy and one mommy
I wouldn't know personally
But I guess it's out of this world, monogamy
 
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Heh well as far as anyone knows
And from what I remember of the movie
E.T has one daddy and one mommy
I wouldn't know personally
But I guess it's out of this world, monogamy
He was monogamous. He had a heart (Eph. 5:25–33). He loved his neighbor (Jer 5:8).

 
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He was monogamous. He had a heart (Eph. 5:25–33). He loved his neighbor--not everyone else's neighbor (Jer 5:8).

Ha ha you're funny I like you
But mindful E.T. was just a child young
We don't really know what his parents are like
But imagine them also to be all right

Though I can definitely see why many women are against polygamy
Heh it's that famous female jealousy
Doesn't want to share the man and always frightful that he might roam
Don't want a better wife there when you phone home
 
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#93
Where does it says He didn't want David to have multiple wives? Everyone who reads the account of Samuel and Saul can see that God didn't want them to have a King because He was their King... If that's what you got out of that account for David that's great because God deals with us all differently.. For myself I have not been led to see the specific error in him having all those wives.. Solomon? Yes but that was because they were not God's people and therefore led him astray..
Sometimes the Lord lets us learn things the hard way, be it about having a king, or be it about immoral lust.
 
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My PM is open or another thread can be started.. I'm not going to respond to anything further as this is not my OP
 
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You know I notice as it pertains to the Bible
The most cited example
Is that of David
And of course mostly looking at his marriage with Bathsheba
But Bathsheba is even a later wife
His first was Michal
The daughter of Saul
Whom sent her to another man
And David took back what was his again
But she despised him as he danced for before the ark of the testament
And he put her away like a nun in a convent
So where does David's polygamy really begin?
Married at once to multiple women
An oft overlooked chapter to consider

1 Samuel 25

1 And Samuel died; and all the Israelites were gathered together, and lamented him, and buried him in his house at Ramah. And David arose, and went down to the wilderness of Paran.[SUP]
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[/SUP]And there was a man in Maon, whose possessions were in Carmel; and the man was very great, and he had three thousand sheep, and a thousand goats: and he was shearing his sheep in Carmel.

[SUP]3 [/SUP]Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb.
[SUP]4 [/SUP]And David heard in the wilderness that Nabal did shear his sheep.
[SUP]5 [/SUP]And David sent out ten young men, and David said unto the young men, Get you up to Carmel, and go to Nabal, and greet him in my name:
[SUP]6 [/SUP]And thus shall ye say to him that liveth in prosperity, Peace be both to thee, and peace be to thine house, and peace be unto all that thou hast.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]And now I have heard that thou hast shearers: now thy shepherds which were with us, we hurt them not, neither was there ought missing unto them, all the while they were in Carmel.
[SUP]8 [/SUP]Ask thy young men, and they will shew thee. Wherefore let the young men find favour in thine eyes: for we come in a good day: give, I pray thee, whatsoever cometh to thine hand unto thy servants, and to thy son David.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And when David's young men came, they spake to Nabal according to all those words in the name of David, and ceased.
[SUP]10 [/SUP]And Nabal answered David's servants, and said, Who is David? and who is the son of Jesse? there be many servants now a days that break away every man from his master.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]Shall I then take my bread, and my water, and my flesh that I have killed for my shearers, and give it unto men, whom I know not whence they be?
[SUP]12 [/SUP]So David's young men turned their way, and went again, and came and told him all those sayings.
[SUP]13 [/SUP]And David said unto his men, Gird ye on every man his sword. And they girded on every man his sword; and David also girded on his sword: and there went up after David about four hundred men; and two hundred abode by the stuff.
[SUP]14 [/SUP]But one of the young men told Abigail, Nabal's wife, saying, Behold, David sent messengers out of the wilderness to salute our master; and he railed on them.
[SUP]15 [/SUP]But the men were very good unto us, and we were not hurt, neither missed we any thing, as long as we were conversant with them, when we were in the fields:
[SUP]16 [/SUP]They were a wall unto us both by night and day, all the while we were with them keeping the sheep.
[SUP]17 [/SUP]Now therefore know and consider what thou wilt do; for evil is determined against our master, and against all his household: for he is such a son of Belial, that a man cannot speak to him.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]Then Abigail made haste, and took two hundred loaves, and two bottles of wine, and five sheep ready dressed, and five measures of parched corn, and an hundred clusters of raisins, and two hundred cakes of figs, and laid them on asses.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]And she said unto her servants, Go on before me; behold, I come after you. But she told not her husband Nabal.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]And it was so, as she rode on the ass, that she came down by the covert on the hill, and, behold, David and his men came down against her; and she met them.
[SUP]21 [/SUP]Now David had said, Surely in vain have I kept all that this fellow hath in the wilderness, so that nothing was missed of all that pertained unto him: and he hath requited me evil for good.
[SUP]22 [/SUP]So and more also do God unto the enemies of David, if I leave of all that pertain to him by the morning light any that pisseth against the wall.
[SUP]23 [/SUP]And when Abigail saw David, she hasted, and lighted off the ass, and fell before David on her face, and bowed herself to the ground,
[SUP]24 [/SUP]And fell at his feet, and said, Upon me, my lord, upon me let this iniquity be: and let thine handmaid, I pray thee, speak in thine audience, and hear the words of thine handmaid.
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Let not my lord, I pray thee, regard this man of Belial, even Nabal: for as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, and folly is with him: but I thine handmaid saw not the young men of my lord, whom thou didst send.
[SUP]26 [/SUP]Now therefore, my lord, as the Lord liveth, and as thy soul liveth, seeing the Lord hath withholden thee from coming to shed blood, and from avenging thyself with thine own hand, now let thine enemies, and they that seek evil to my lord, be as Nabal.
[SUP]27 [/SUP]And now this blessing which thine handmaid hath brought unto my lord, let it even be given unto the young men that follow my lord.
[SUP]28 [/SUP]I pray thee, forgive the trespass of thine handmaid: for the Lord will certainly make my lord a sure house; because my lord fighteth the battles of the Lord, and evil hath not been found in thee all thy days.
[SUP]29 [/SUP]Yet a man is risen to pursue thee, and to seek thy soul: but the soul of my lord shall be bound in the bundle of life with the Lord thy God; and the souls of thine enemies, them shall he sling out, as out of the middle of a sling.
[SUP]30 [/SUP]And it shall come to pass, when the Lord shall have done to my lord according to all the good that he hath spoken concerning thee, and shall have appointed thee ruler over Israel;
[SUP]31 [/SUP]That this shall be no grief unto thee, nor offence of heart unto my lord, either that thou hast shed blood causeless, or that my lord hath avenged himself: but when the Lord shall have dealt well with my lord, then remember thine handmaid.
[SUP]32 [/SUP]And David said to Abigail, Blessed be the Lord God of Israel, which sent thee this day to meet me:
[SUP]33 [/SUP]And blessed be thy advice, and blessed be thou, which hast kept me this day from coming to shed blood, and from avenging myself with mine own hand.
[SUP]34 [/SUP]For in very deed, as the Lord God of Israel liveth, which hath kept me back from hurting thee, except thou hadst hasted and come to meet me, surely there had not been left unto Nabal by the morning light any that pisseth against the wall.
[SUP]35 [/SUP]So David received of her hand that which she had brought him, and said unto her, Go up in peace to thine house; see, I have hearkened to thy voice, and have accepted thy person.
[SUP]36 [/SUP]And Abigail came to Nabal; and, behold, he held a feast in his house, like the feast of a king; and Nabal's heart was merry within him, for he was very drunken: wherefore she told him nothing, less or more, until the morning light.
[SUP]37 [/SUP]But it came to pass in the morning, when the wine was gone out of Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became as a stone.
[SUP]38 [/SUP]And it came to pass about ten days after, that the Lord smote Nabal, that he died.
[SUP]39 [/SUP]And when David heard that Nabal was dead, he said, Blessed be the Lord, that hath pleaded the cause of my reproach from the hand of Nabal, and hath kept his servant from evil: for the Lord hath returned the wickedness of Nabal upon his own head. And David sent and communed with Abigail, to take her to him to wife.
[SUP]40 [/SUP]And when the servants of David were come to Abigail to Carmel, they spake unto her, saying, David sent us unto thee, to take thee to him to wife.
[SUP]41 [/SUP]And she arose, and bowed herself on her face to the earth, and said, Behold, let thine handmaid be a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord.
[SUP]42 [/SUP]And Abigail hasted, and arose and rode upon an ass, with five damsels of hers that went after her; and she went after the messengers of David, and became his wife.
[SUP]43 [/SUP]David also took Ahinoam of Jezreel; and they were also both of them his wives.
[SUP]44 [/SUP]But Saul had given Michal his daughter, David's wife, to Phalti the son of Laish, which was of Gallim.
 
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The best love story in the Bible involves a monogamous couple. Who wants anything less than a Boaz if you are a woman, or a Ruth if you are a man? Boaz was a wealthy man. He could have had a number of wives, but didn't. The book of Ruth is the Bible's "fairy tale". I personally wouldn't want a Jacob, David, or Solomon. Boaz is top notch when it comes to marriage material.

Every example of polygamy in the Bible entailed much heart ache and strife. It never made for a happy home. If a man thinks that women can be happy in a polygynous relationship, I think the man knows very little about the hearts of women. I can not imagine the women in this type of relationship as being happy. They might feel safe, but I doubt they feel very happy or satisfied. After all, it is like equating women to chattel. This ought not to be. The Bible says that in Christ, we are all equal. There is now neither Jew or Gentile, male or female.

Proverbs 5:18-19 "Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee AT ALL TIMES; and be thou ravished ALWAYS with her love."

Solomon is writing this to his son. He is telling his son that what he, Solomon did, was unwise. He gives his son words of wisdom.

Proverbs 31:3 "Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings."

Solomon had a lot of women, and he said in the final analysis, it gave him no lasting happiness.

Ecclesiastes 9:9 "Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of thy life of thy vanity, which He hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, an in thy labour which thou takest under the sun."

Ecclesiastes chapter nine is Solomon's advice about how to live in light of the world's values.
 
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One thing this particular forum has revealed are those who place their personal opinions or convictions on a par with the word of God, I like to call it, writing yourself into the bible. I have studied the bible for ages and I know what it says on this subject, and I also can see where folks are changing the word of God in order to make it conform to what they prefer to believe. I have zero interest in how many wives any man has, however I have great interest in being truthful with the word of God. In a few words, God did not introduce polygamy but neither did God EVER and I mean EVER call it a sin. People call polygamy a sin, I say people that twist the word of God and claim polygamy is a sin, have committed the sin of lying about what God has given us in His word. Abraham had two wives, Jacob four wives, father of Samuel two wives, all the kings of Israel both good and bad had several wives. Jesus gave a story where HE is going to marry 10 women...yes that is Christ in the story about to marry ten women. Most folks, including me, prefer one man to one woman, however I am not going to stoop to lying about the word of God in order to promote my personal belief.
 
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Where does it says He didn't want David to have multiple wives? Everyone who reads the account of Samuel and Saul can see that God didn't want them to have a King because He was their King... If that's what you got out of that account for David that's great because God deals with us all differently.. For myself I have not been led to see the specific error in him having all those wives.. Solomon? Yes but that was because they were not God's people and therefore led him astray..
Having multiple wives is a sin. The Lord doesn't want sin.
 
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Can the fact that for example David and Salomon had many wives suggest that polygamy is ok?
Many had many wives, so one must ask why did they make such a choice ? For the sake of becoming rich, that they may have plenty. The more wives they had, the more male and female children they, the males would work the fields, the females would prepare the harvest, to be sold in the market place, they what they believed was right, that the needs of many might be fulfilled and so it was but in the world today, there is no need to have many wives, many children, as it is now a land of plenty and each person themselves can become rich, even if you remain single.