Polygamy

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newton3003

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[FONT=Calibri, sans-serif]Isit a sin to have more than one wife? [/FONT]


[FONT=Calibri, sans-serif]Thereis no law in the Old Testament against it, and there are manycharacters in the Old Testament who have more than one wife. Gideonin Judges 8:30 “had many wives.” Abijah in 2 Chronicles 13:21“took fourteen wives .” Rehoboam in 2 Chronicles 11:21 “tookeighteen wives.” The list can go on. [/FONT]


[FONT=Calibri, sans-serif]Theclosest that the Pentateuch comes to it is Deuteronomy 21:15-17 whichsays, “If a man has two wives, the one loved and the other unloved,and both the loved and the unloved have borne him children, and ifthe firstborn son belongs to the unloved, then on the day when heassigns his possessions as an inheritance to his sons, he may nottreat the son of the loved as the firstborn in preference to the sonof the unloved, who is the firstborn, but he shall acknowledge thefirstborn, the son of the unloved, by giving him a double portion ofall that he has, for he is the firstfruits of his strength...” [/FONT]


[FONT=Calibri, sans-serif]Wealso know that there is no law in the Old Testament against divorce,and in fact allows it by Deuteronomy 24:1-4 which says, “When a mantakes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyesbecause he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her acertificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out ofhis house, and she departs out of his house and if she goes andbecomes another man's wife, and the latter man hates her and writesher a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends herout of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be hiswife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take heragain to be his wife,...” But Jesus told the Pharisees whoquestioned him about it in Matthew 19:4-8, ““Have you not readthat he who created them from the beginning made them male andfemale, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and hismother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become oneflesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore Godhas joined together, let not man separate.”[/FONT]


[FONT=Calibri, sans-serif]WhileJesus did not address the question of polygamy, it is easy to see howthe same reasoning he used against divorce, could also be usedagainst polygamy. To wit, Genesis 2:24, the passage Jesus referredto in discussing divorce, so says “Therefore a man shall leave hisfather and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall becomeone flesh.” It doesn't say 'Therefore a man shall leave his fatherand mother and hold fast to his WIVES, and THEY ALL shall become oneflesh' ![/FONT]


[FONT=Calibri, sans-serif]Jesussaid he came to fulfill the Law and the prophets, so it might leadone to ask, 'Which Law is he fulfilling?' Because clearly, inby-passing what Moses said in Deuteronomy 24:1-4, Jesus is abiding bythe true law of God as it is introduced in Genesis and refined inExodus, Numbers and Leviticus, where everything that God says becomespart of the Law. [/FONT]


[FONT=Calibri, sans-serif]So,the Law referred to in Genesis 2:24 could just as easily apply topolygamy as it does to divorce. And as there is no direct Law aboutit, did not God in Isaiah 1:18 say, “Come now, let us reasontogether...”? [/FONT]
 
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NoNameMcgee

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Yes, it is a sin to have more than one wife.

Deuteronomy 17:17 - Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold.

1 Timothy 3:2 - A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;

1 Corinthians 7:2 - Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.


1 Timothy 3:12 - Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.


Ephesians 5:31 - For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.



Titus 1:6 - If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.
 

Nehemiah6

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Isit a sin to have more than one wife? There is no law in the Old Testament against it, and there are many characters in the Old Testament who have more than one wife.
Many things were TOLERATED in the Old Testament and Old Covenant, but cannot be tolerated in the New Covenant. Divorce for any reason (as in the OT) is a good example, and Christ laid down the strict stipulations for divorce.

1. Regarding polygamy, the Lord reminded His listeners that at the time of creation, God decreed one woman for one man, and they both would be considered "one flesh". The woman was taken out of the man in order to be reunited to him.

2. Christian marriage is symbolic of the marriage of the Divine Husband (Christ) to His spotless Wife (the Church). Since the Church is also His Body, that further reinforces what was taught in Genesis.

3. The stipulation for elders is that they be the husbands of one wife. Since they are to be example to the flock, it follows that Christian marriages must be monogamous.
 
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I believe the Quran promoted it was fine to have multiple wives & we all know how false that book is. As the scriptures says love your "wife" as christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
 

tourist

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Don't really know if it's a sin but who in their right mind would want to have two or more wives at the same time. Would you want to be married to a woman who had more than one husband besides you?
 
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Galatea

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You know what I have come to believe? I believe one of the marks of Christianity as being the real deal and not made up by men is the fact that polygamy is prohibited and monogamy is the only option. Think about it, if men made up Christianity on their own, polygamy would be acceptable. Since it is in no wise acceptable, it does appear that our Bible is inspired.
 

loveme1

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Don't really know if it's a sin but who in their right mind would want to have two or more wives at the same time. Would you want to be married to a woman who had more than one husband besides you?
Nice to see you reverse that..

Obviously many had more than one wife in past times.. and like you I know not for definite but believe a man and woman should be faithful to one and other.. no concubines...
 

Tommy379

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I had enough trouble with the one wife I had.
 

trofimus

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The best way is to stay single.

If you cant sexually hold yourself, even one spouse can be too much trouble, I think. Why to double it? :)
 

Dino246

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Where's the "Facepalm, Shake my head" button?
 

Huckleberry

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Is it a sin to have more than one wife?
There is no law in the Old Testament against it.......
There is a law in your state against polygamy.
Just like there is no law in the Old Testament against DUI, however
there is a law in your state against it, therefore to do it is sinful.
Use common sense, man.
 

Locutus

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A restaurant in Indonesia served up parrot (among other bush tucker) it was quite gamy..:p
 

Magenta

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Isit a sin to have more than one wife?
Man is exhorted to be faithful to the wife of his youth.

That does not include going out and bedding other women.


 

trofimus

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Man is exhorted to be faithful to the wife of his youth.

That does not include going out and bedding other women.


It meant something different in the OT times than today. David, who was according to the heart of God and Jesus is called his son, would be a mass adulterer.

Similarly with Abraham.
 

Magenta

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It meant something different in the OT times than today. David, who was according to the heart of God and Jesus is called his son, would be a mass adulterer.

Similarly with Abraham.
David was an adulterer, and a murderer. He was seen to do evil in the eyes of God. Both the OT that exhorts men to be faithful to the wife of their youth, and the NT. Why would that change?
 

loveme1

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David was an adulterer, and a murderer. He was seen to do evil in the eyes of God. Both the OT that exhorts men to be faithful to the wife of their youth, and the NT. Why would that change?
Are you sure?
 

trofimus

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David was an adulterer, and a murderer. He was seen to do evil in the eyes of God. Both the OT that exhorts men to be faithful to the wife of their youth, and the NT. Why would that change?
He was, but only because of the one woman who was married to another man. God immediately stepped in and judged him for that by the death of his child. David knew that it was a sin and repented.

Not so with other women.

If you apply the NT rules, neither David nor Abraham nor Moses were saved, because:

"Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers...will inherit the kingdom of God."
1 Cor 6:9

But God, on many occasions, testified that Abraham, Moses, David etc are His faithful men, even though they had more than one wife. God did not say a word about it to them. If it was a real adultery, He was just silent and let them die unsaved?
 
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loveme1

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You could have more than one wife if you had sufficient means to provide for her.
 

loveme1

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I can't believe David is being slated like that....