How can Christians just stop caring about someone and act like they dont exist? If God is in someone how can they be so hurtful?
I left one friend cause she came on to me, gross! There was no mistake, I didn't misunderstand. It was homosexual flirting. I'm outta here!!!
Another friend interpreted kindness as flirting. I made it clear to him that those kind of feelings were not mutual. Still he stalked me at church. When I went to one side of the building, so did he. When I went downstairs so did he. During church service he would creep closer and closer to my pew, even be standing in the isle way during song, and still inch closer and closer to me. After church, whenever I went to hug someone, he would step in so I felt obligated to hug him. He really creeped me out, so I left that congregation.
I still accept him as my brother in Christ, but as strong as he is in coming onto me, that's how strong I have to be in telling him no. If anyone else there misses me, they should've called to ask why. If they are not involved in my life outside of church, I feel no obligation. I love them all, and plan on visiting sometime, but it's to be assumed that if they don't try to contact me, they are not hurt.
Another congregation I left once because they were pressuring me to give more than I can. At the time, I had less than two dollars left after I paid my monthly bills. One month I'd get toothpaste, one month I'd get dish soap, and I would just make it last. I literally had nothing to give in church unless I could babysit once in a while. But they never even knew my situation, or my life outside of church, so I left cause it felt like a business, not love. And again, some could be hurt assuming it's about them.
All these things can be cleared up by simply asking the friend "What went wrong here."