To Marry or Not to Marry
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L
To remain single or to marry are both blessings and to each their own.
Some married people would be better off if they remained single, while a few singles would be a really great spouse.
Whatever a person chooses, the main downfall is when their life is not God-centered, but if it is, then they are blessed.
FYI: some people don't get married because they don't want to or the "right" person hasn't come into their life or they're spiritually immature and they're not homosexual (I know, shocking right?)
Some married people would be better off if they remained single, while a few singles would be a really great spouse.
Whatever a person chooses, the main downfall is when their life is not God-centered, but if it is, then they are blessed.
FYI: some people don't get married because they don't want to or the "right" person hasn't come into their life or they're spiritually immature and they're not homosexual (I know, shocking right?)
S
It is good we don't know the future. Had I known that God would challenge me with a disabled child, I would NOT have gotten married, as I catch myself secretly wishing sometimes "if only I had stayed single".. but I know that is just selfish thinking because "when I am weak, THEN am I strong". My challenges have changed me, have matured me, have taught me complete dependence on God and His will.
I find that most people often wonder if the 'opposite' would've been a better decision. If I had remained single (willfully) I think I would find myself lonely and cooped up.
I find that most people often wonder if the 'opposite' would've been a better decision. If I had remained single (willfully) I think I would find myself lonely and cooped up.
T
Well I think of it this way. When you are married there are limitations to what you can do. You can't travel by yourself long distance without seeing your spouse every so often, you also have to think about your spouse if you want to do anything, even more so you have to make sure to be devoted and commited to your spouse and in loving them. Now when you are single you don't have to share your time with your spouse, you don't have to be sure to be home and to keep a family life. When you are single you may do anything. There are no limitations. Now there are blessings to both sides yes, however if you are single what this is saying is that you can be even more sold out for God. He can use you even more because there are no limitations for you. There is no one you have to watch after or spend time with you can be fully devoted to the ministry. Now if you are married there is a limitation. You can't do things that those who are single can. You have to be sure to watch out for your family too, and if you want to keep a strong marrage to always stay in touch and you have to compromise with them and honor them with your time and desires. But when you are single you don't have to do all this. The blessing of being married is that you are not humanly alone, and you can have a family. So it all depends. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with family. And there is nothing wrong with being single. God can still use you if you are married..... the decision is yours.
L
It would appear that Paul was giving a mixed message as far as marriage is concerned. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul states that it is best if a person not be married if possibe yet in 1 Timothy 3:2 Paul says that an overseer (deacon) can be married but of only one wife. Paul was not confused or causing confusion. He was speaking to believers and felt that if they stayed single, they would be able to dedicate themselve to the spreading of the gospel without concern for a family at home. (He fully knew and understood the hardships that came with his burden for the gospel. He also knew that not every man or woman can restrain their bodies so for them it was good that they be married.
In Christ,
John
In Christ,
John
Hi Resurrection
Another place where Paul got it all wrong. We just need to look at the catholic priests to see the dangers of staying single. These people are believers and wanted to dedicate themselves to the church yet a percentage of them visibly could not control their sexual desires indefinitely.
Another place where Paul got it all wrong. We just need to look at the catholic priests to see the dangers of staying single. These people are believers and wanted to dedicate themselves to the church yet a percentage of them visibly could not control their sexual desires indefinitely.