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Thank God for time, and a the never ending kingdom of Christ Jesus, and His Father.

Reasons for leaving? I couldnt give one. Maybe there are a lot of people with out the belief in God or Jesus Christ, but there is time, for them to have a change if mind about them at anytime in life.
 
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There is only ONE reason people "walk" away from Christianity.

They were NEVER born again!
Untrue. I've walked away three times. And I was still a Christian.

Came back for obvious reasons. God doesn't really let his people walk away for good. As hard as I tried, (and I really am bullheaded, so gave full effort in trying), I could not deny God is. And that God deserves to be glorified. So, I walked, but he Prodigal Fathered my return. And I Prodigal Sonned while I was gone.
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Look at this way Lucy

When God does good to us it still hurts us, this is because of the unavoidable fact that we stole the knowledge of Good and Evil and the penalty of death still hangs over us.
Nope. When God does good to us, it feels great.

This world sucks! Pain sucks! Bad backs suck! Death sucks! Debt sucks! Rape sucks! Addiction sucks! Alzheimer sucks! Kidnapped sucks! Cancer sucks! Hep C sucks! Heart attacks suck! The government sucks!

But God feels great, and does good for me.
 
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A bit like going to the dentist? You know it's going to hurt but it's for your own good ;)
Nope! Because the teeth are going to rot even after going to the dentist.



 
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1. The proper term is probably false Christians. False doctrines like the 70week still being in the future is one of their promotions.
2. The inconsistency is in the way we understand the book rather than the book is flawed. Quick solution Take Ge:1-3 as being about v who God is and what this earth is about. The rest of the book is about the two bruises in Ge:3:15. Moses was the start of the group called the 'seed of Eve' and the cross was the completion of all things associated with the bruise to the heel. The 7 trumps will nark the end of the other bruise, that would be the last verse in Re:19.
3. The false Clergy uses hell as a way to extort people out of money as they promote that being a member of their group will save you from going there no matter how much you sin. If you die before the last verse in Re:19 you go to sleep until Judgment Day. If that last verse in Re:19 kills you you go to hell until Judgment Day and death covers all sins so you are clean when you are resurrected. That group is the 2nd group mentioned in Re:7
4. There is not supposed to be any proof that God exists. The book is the only gathering tool in the period of time knows as 'the time of the Gentiles' that started in 70AD (Luke:21:24) and ends the day the two witnesses start their testimony 1230 days before the return. 1260 days is also how long it was between the time John the Baptist was called by God and the day of the cross.
5. Perhaps the people who have that opinion are in delusion about who God is. Take the grief He felt in Ge:6. The general view is He hated mankind from that moment on. Believers would see that grief being there because of what the fallen angels were doing to humans. It was an extermination program to prevent there being a seed of Eve to fulfill the Ge:3:15 prophecy. God let it go on until Noah and his wife and 3 sons were the only 5 fingered people left alive. The 3 wives were female giants and the son that moved to Canaan is where the giants in the exodus wars came from.
That promotion has lot more points in it. God killed many of the 12 Tribes after they left Egypt. In the end that increases the size of them when they are resurrected. The whole nation that had girls taken away and married into the are included as being part of the 12 Tribes.
The hatred for the OT God is because the message is freedom rather than control. The Clergy is not interested in the freedom of 'their flock' at the moment, they work for the bankers and their religion is satanic.
If anything about 70 weeks is so high up on your doctrinal list that that is the first "doctrine" you can think of, you have problems.

And given the amount of other malarkey you managed to jam into this, you really do have another god.
 

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#46
This is my opinion and only based on limited experience.

I find that those that "walk away" are mostly those raised in churchianity (for want of a better word), they know the scriptures to some degree but have not experienced saving grace and the change that being "born again" gives.
 
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#47
No, I just haven't worked out why I have not seen one documented case of a real miracle. This has nothing to do with me demanding for one from God.
[video=youtube;RRoAcfzytCA]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RRoAcfzytCA[/video]

Soooo, let me guess. Now you want more "proof?" That's what usually happens when someone demands "one documented case of a real miracle." One really doesn't do it for him. (Which is also another excuse.)
 

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It's because people believe the false doctrine that God tempts people to do evil and don't know the Bible verse that clearly refutes that lie.

People suffer because there is evil in the world and because of sin.

What people don't realize is that it might not be THEIR son that makes that person suffer...

JESUS was sinless yet he diedd a hoRRIBLE death on the cross.

Do people truly know WHY?

James 1:13-17
13 Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man:
14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
16 Do not err, my beloved brethren.
17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
KJV
 

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Sometimes it feels like im losing faith or that I want to walk awaya but then God does something that sweeps me off my feet. Just now I questioned the Lord while reading through this and he moved me to tears. I am now singing his praise. Why demand a miracle when life itself is a miracle
 

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Where in the Bible does it say God is a raging drunk?

What are your opinion on cannibals and child molester?

I admit mine is not so compassionate and I wonder why God allows them to live in the Earth among us at all.

The Bible says that the Enemy plants thorns among God's wheat. But eventually Judgment day will come.
I believe that God created mankind because He wanted a creature who was able to receive and return His love.

The price God paid for a creature with the capacity to love is that He got a creature with the capacity to reject love and to sin.

Love is inherently volitional; it can not be programmed.

God rarely intervenes to prevent sin. He prefers to give believers strength and grace to endure hardships resulting from sin and turns the consequences of sin to the advantage of the believer who has to endure them.
 
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What would you say if I told you that after I walked away from God (For 2-3 years) I joined in with many ex-Christians online and atheists, and non believers. That I found that their testimonies and reasons for leaving Christianity were very good reasons.

Here are the top reasons people leave Christianity

Number 1. Christians
Number 2. Biblical inconsistencies
Number 3. Hell theology
Number 4. Lack of miracles
Number 5. Gods character

Of course there are many other reasons people leave their beliefs, but lets stick to these 5.

In my entire history with Christianity and the church, I have never heard any plausible reasoning in defense of these problems Christianity faces today. Oh there are so called answers, but they fall totally flat under careful scrutiny.

So how does one give a reasoned and sound answer to these things that make people leave God.



Hummm,let me take a crack at it...


1. Christians- I hear this one often. A couple points here,Christians are forgiven,not perfect. Everyone in a church is growing,all at different levels. But whether a Christian follows Christ is between them and God,and you will answer if YOU don't follow Him. You won't be able to say "brother so and so wasn't a good example,so I gave up on God". Last point, Christianity is about following Christ,not other Christians.He is the only one that has ever been perfect. If you take your eyes off your example,you're wrong. The priest,preacher,Sunday school teacher,deacon are not your example,your job is to follow Him!

2. Most,if not all "inconsistencies" have been answered. There are books and books on the subject yet the same five points keep being passed around by atheists. God's intelligence is probably slightly higher than ours,I don't believe we can know every mystery in the Bible,but inconsistencies have been answered,its just that unbelievers do not want to accept the answer.

3. Some Christians believe in a literal hell,others do not. I personally do,but you'd have to expound on what hell theology means to you and why that is an issue.

4. The answer to lack of miracles is the same reason as it was in Jesus day. It was said He could do no good works because the people would not believe. You want to hear about miracles,find a missionary.I know many and grew up with a missionary family in my church. They could tell you stories that would curl your hair about both miracles and demonic activity they have to face.

5. You'd have to expand on what you mean by God's character.

I've read the first page here so maybe you've already explained further what you mean. I'll read on and see what you have to say.
 

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If anything about 70 weeks is so high up on your doctrinal list that that is the first "doctrine" you can think of, you have problems.

And given the amount of other malarkey you managed to jam into this, you really do have another god.
It is the biggest false doctrine floating around so why not mention it? My mental facilities are working quite fine, it is the on3es that are splitting 7 years off the 70 weeks that are the ones that are insane. The 'little horn' verse are about Rome's 500 year rule over Jerusalem. In there you will fine the cross and the destruction of the temple and a few other goodies.
When John was called that is the day the 70th week started, 3 1/2 years later the cross happened and 3 1/2 years after that peter started teaching the Gentiles that Jesus sent to him. That means Jesus was talking to those Gentiles like God talked to Jesus in the time before the cross. You get that part I hope.

I'm quite fine with God being a loving character that loves all He created, after all Jesus is the splitting image of Him and you love Jesus right?? Nothing before it's time and all that. Look how He treats the ones who are in the biggest danger of ending up in the fiery lake.

Re:7:9-17:
After this I beheld,
and,
lo,
a great multitude,
which no man could number,
of all nations,
and kindreds,
and people,
and tongues,
stood before the throne,
and before the Lamb,
clothed with white robes,
and palms in their hands;
And cried with a loud voice,
saying,
Salvation to our God which sitteth upon the throne,
and unto the Lamb.
And all the angels stood round about the throne,
and about the elders and the four beasts,
and fell before the throne on their faces,
and worshipped God,
Saying,
Amen:
Blessing,
and glory,
and wisdom,
and thanksgiving,
and honour,
and power,
and might,
be unto our God for ever and ever.
Amen.
And one of the elders answered,
saying unto me,
What are these which are arrayed in white robes?
and whence came they?
And I said unto him,
Sir,
thou knowest.
And he said to me,
These are they which came out of great tribulation,
and have washed their robes, and made them white in the blood of the Lamb.
Therefore are they before the throne of God,
and serve him day and night in his temple:
and he that sitteth on the throne shall dwell among them.
They shall hunger no more,
neither thirst any more;
neither shall the sun light on them,
nor any heat.
For the Lamb which is in the midst of the throne shall feed them,
and shall lead them unto living fountains of waters:
and God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes.

Zec:1:14:
So the angel that communed with me said unto me,
Cry thou,
saying,
Thus saith the LORD of hosts;
I am jealous for Jerusalem and for Zion with a great jealousy.

Isa:65:16-19:
That he who blesseth himself in the earth shall bless himself in the God of truth;
and he that sweareth in the earth shall swear by the God of truth;
because the former troubles are forgotten,
and because they are hid from mine eyes.
For,
behold,
I create new heavens and a new earth:
and the former shall not be remembered,
nor come into mind.
But be ye glad and rejoice for ever in that which I create:
for,
behold,
I create Jerusalem a rejoicing,
and her people a joy.
And I will rejoice in Jerusalem,
and joy in my people:
and the voice of weeping shall be no more heard in her,
nor the voice of crying.
 
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When Jesus raised the dead he did not need to shock them to get their heart pumping again.......a a matter of fact all he did was say....Lazarus come forth and I say unto the young maid arise.........just pointing out the obvious......the power was in the word.......
 
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No, I just haven't worked out why I have not seen one documented case of a real miracle. This has nothing to do with me demanding for one from God.
Just because you haven't seen a miracle doesn't mean it doesn't exist. As the blind man said "this much I know,once I was lost but now I see" when he was questioned about miracles. Documented? Probably not since we are a society of science,miracles simply don't happen. If it can't be explained we know it couldn't be a miracle. So if you refuse to believe a miracle could happen how can it be proven?
 
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2. Most,if not all "inconsistencies" have been answered. There are books and books on the subject yet the same five points keep being passed around by atheists. God's intelligence is probably slightly higher than ours,I don't believe we can know every mystery in the Bible,but inconsistencies have been answered,its just that unbelievers do not want to accept the answer.
Just so you know, all!

(Before hubby was born-again, he was That Guy. You know the type. The ones who taunted Christians about "inconsistencies." And he collected them all, just in case. And then he met That Gal! You know the type. The middle-aged woman who knows here Bible so well, she can sweep right to any given verse and show you the all-of-it. Three weeks of running down his list 3-4 hours per night with her, and he went to bed one night a very angry non-believer, and woke up born again.)
 
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It is the biggest false doctrine floating around so why not mention it? My mental facilities are working quite fine, it is the on3es that are splitting 7 years off the 70 weeks that are the ones that are insane. The 'little horn' verse are about Rome's 500 year rule over Jerusalem. In there you will fine the cross and the destruction of the temple and a few other goodies.
When John was called that is the day the 70th week started, 3 1/2 years later the cross happened and 3 1/2 years after that peter started teaching the Gentiles that Jesus sent to him. That means Jesus was talking to those Gentiles like God talked to Jesus in the time before the cross. You get that part I hope.

I'm quite fine with God being a loving character that loves all He created, after all Jesus is the splitting image of Him and you love Jesus right?? Nothing before it's time and all that. Look how He treats the ones who are in the biggest danger of ending up in the fiery lake.

Re:7:9-17:
After this I beheld,
and,
lo,
a great multitude,
which no man could number,
of all nations,
and kindreds,
and people,
and tongues,
stood before the throne,
and before the Lamb,
clothed with white robes,
and palms in their hands;
And cried with a loud voice,
saying,
Salvation to our God which sitteth upon the throne,
and unto the Lamb.
And all the angels stood round about the throne,
and about the elders and the four beasts,
and fell before the throne on their faces,
and worshipped God,
Saying,
Amen:
Blessing,
and glory,
and wisdom,
and thanksgiving,
and honour,
and power,
and might,
be unto our God for ever and ever.
Amen.
And one of the elders answered,
saying unto me,
What are these which are arrayed in white robes?
and whence came they?
And I said unto him,
Sir,
thou knowest.
And he said to me,
These are they which came out of great tribulation,
and have washed their robes, and made them white in the blood of the Lamb.
Therefore are they before the throne of God,
and serve him day and night in his temple:
and he that sitteth on the throne shall dwell among them.
They shall hunger no more,
neither thirst any more;
neither shall the sun light on them,
nor any heat.
For the Lamb which is in the midst of the throne shall feed them,
and shall lead them unto living fountains of waters:
and God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes.

Zec:1:14:
So the angel that communed with me said unto me,
Cry thou,
saying,
Thus saith the LORD of hosts;
I am jealous for Jerusalem and for Zion with a great jealousy.

Isa:65:16-19:
That he who blesseth himself in the earth shall bless himself in the God of truth;
and he that sweareth in the earth shall swear by the God of truth;
because the former troubles are forgotten,
and because they are hid from mine eyes.
For,
behold,
I create new heavens and a new earth:
and the former shall not be remembered,
nor come into mind.
But be ye glad and rejoice for ever in that which I create:
for,
behold,
I create Jerusalem a rejoicing,
and her people a joy.
And I will rejoice in Jerusalem,
and joy in my people:
and the voice of weeping shall be no more heard in her,
nor the voice of crying.
You're preaching End Time Conspiracy Theories, not God.

Sorry. Wrong audience. This is a Christian chat, not a conspiracy-theory chat.
 

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What would you say if I told you that after I walked away from God (For 2-3 years) I joined in with many ex-Christians online and atheists, and non believers. That I found that their testimonies and reasons for leaving Christianity were very good reasons.

Here are the top reasons people leave Christianity

Number 1. Christians
Number 2. Biblical inconsistencies
Number 3. Hell theology
Number 4. Lack of miracles
Number 5. Gods character

Of course there are many other reasons people leave their beliefs, but lets stick to these 5.

In my entire history with Christianity and the church, I have never heard any plausible reasoning in defense of these problems Christianity faces today. Oh there are so called answers, but they fall totally flat under careful scrutiny.

So how does one give a reasoned and sound answer to these things that make people leave God.
Ok here is my 2 cents .
#1 Jesus Christ was the only perfect man. All Christians are to aspire to that perfection but in this life we all will fall short our works are not what saves us . It is faith that saves . That and they should spend more time looking at them selves than others . A better understanding of scripture is what is needed.
#2 Again a better understanding of scripture is needed . Definitely studying the Bible with mature ,firmly rooted brother or sister in Christ will help . Lone wolf types are at a disadvantage.
#3 Things they don’t like are sometimes true . Still a better understanding of scripture is needed ,along with a sense of maturity that is willing to set aside touchy-feely theology. See #2’ answer .
#4 see #2’s answer .
#5 Just because God’s will may seem unfair or hurts someone’s feelings dose not mean they are incorrect. They need to grow up . They are not always going to get their way . See #3’s answer .
Too me it comes down to the lack of understanding scripture. With a large dose of touchy-feely immaturity .
They are to conform to God’s will as expressed in scripture,and not some me or self centered beliefs.
Blessings
Bill
 
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What would you say if I told you that after I walked away from God (For 2-3 years) I joined in with many ex-Christians online and atheists, and non believers. That I found that their testimonies and reasons for leaving Christianity were very good reasons.

Here are the top reasons people leave Christianity

Number 1. Christians
Number 2. Biblical inconsistencies
Number 3. Hell theology
Number 4. Lack of miracles
Number 5. Gods character

Of course there are many other reasons people leave their beliefs, but lets stick to these 5.

In my entire history with Christianity and the church, I have never heard any plausible reasoning in defense of these problems Christianity faces today. Oh there are so called answers, but they fall totally flat under careful scrutiny.

So how does one give a reasoned and sound answer to these things that make people leave God.
"None of these things move me, neither do I count my life dear to myself that I might finish my course with Joy."
Those reasons could apply to the son of perdition, a French word that means losted, but lusted would be a better translation.
(There are a few words that were not translated properly to avoid arguments, likely the case here, another is Baptise: a Greek word that means immersed, left in Greek not to cause arguments with the church at the time: "believe and be immersed in the name (identity of the fullness of the Godhead bodily): Jesus," was not practiced.
Back to the son of lust: he would not give up his own life,
was inconsistent (double minded),
would not consider the consequences of being nothing: "Without love I am nothing."
(The miracles may have made the difference for us who believe, and God's character: that His mercy endures for ever)
but for the sun of lust its contrary to him to believe in the grace of God:
God would have to be a reflection of his powerless character, since he took after the enemy who wanted to be God.
 
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When Jesus raised the dead he did not need to shock them to get their heart pumping again.......a a matter of fact all he did was say....Lazarus come forth and I say unto the young maid arise.........just pointing out the obvious......the power was in the word.......
And, unless you're frozen or your temperatures drop dramatically, you don't come back from the dead after an hour. Jesus healed some blind people with mud and others with nothing but his word. Methods aren't important. He is.
 

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You're preaching End Time Conspiracy Theories, not God.

Sorry. Wrong audience. This is a Christian chat, not a conspiracy-theory chat.
I don't preach as I'm not in the conversion business. The business I am involved is showing that you can believe in a literal god and not be an idiot like most wannabe Christian arewho swallow what other feet them without question.

1Th:5:21:
Prove all things;
hold fast that which is good.

What are you doing here that a few referenced from God's book has you calling me a heretic. The ones afraid of the verses usually turn out to be trolls or false christian or both.

By 'end times' do you mean like this reference??

De:4:30:
When thou art in tribulation,
and all these things are come upon thee,
even in the latter days,
if thou turn to the LORD thy God,
and shalt be obedient unto his voice;
De:4:31:
(For the LORD thy God is a merciful God;)
he will not forsake thee,
neither destroy thee,
nor forget the covenant of thy fathers which he sware unto them.