Has God ever told you anything, no matter how difficult, did you listen to him?

[ManiaStar]

I’m just wondering if God has ever told you anything audibly or inaudibly but u knew it was from him. And if you listened to him no matter how hard it was?

Here’s my story. I had been posting this in prayer requests and everyone was telling me to let go and find someone else. Well last week, after having a terrible text argument with this person, I felt I had nothing left to give or left to try. So I went to bed that night, saying I relinquish all control. I’m ready to let go of him now and give him to you. Now, mind you, about 2-3 months ago, I had felt God telling me to just be friends with him, but last week, I couldn’t deal with it anymore. So, as I was praying, God was filling me with relaxation and peace and I asked God if he really did want me to let him go. After I stopped praying, inwardly I felt God was telling me to continue being friends with him. I continued praying the same way for 5 days to see if Hod really meant that and he never told me anything else so he gave me his answer. To continue being friends with him, but I honestly don’t know how to. He’s not treating me nicely at all or respecting my feelings towards this new girl he’s seeing. How am I to continue being friends with him? I’ve prayed about this and not gotten an answer. If he doesn’t start to respect my wishes, I am going to have to take a step back. So for me, this is something extremely difficult that God is asking me to do. It’s hurtful and painful so why would God call me to still be his friend in all this? My one friend thinks that God wants me to rise above and still be the positive influence in his life. That God may still want to use me in his life down the road which is why God is keeping the door open. I still believe all God has shared with and told me the last several years about this guy but I feel what he’s asking me, I don’t know if I’ll be able to follow through on. Everyone is telling me to give space and let him go as that would be best, yet God is saying stay friends. I’d just like to know, How...??

 

[John146]

Test all "voices" with the word of God. If it's not in the word of God, it's not God's voice speaking.

 

[ManiaStar]

But if it was first the peace/relaxation feeling before getting that reply, I believe it was God. I know the false peace that Satan can give and this wasn’t anything like that.

God has been speaking to me like this, though usually audibly over the last 7 years and normally he follows that with peace. What Satan has been doing here and there is trying to stop me from being friends with him. I’ll give 1 example. A year ago, I was helping this guy out at a job site. Out of nowhere, I had this negative sensation come over me telling me that I can’t trust him, I shouldn’t be friends with him and should leave him. But finally after 3 hours of feeding into those lies, I said a short prayer, and God removed those negative feelings and he gave me the deepest peace you can ever imagine. That peace stayed with me for several hours. Now, when I get negative feelings like that, I tell Satan to go away and stop tempting me. It always works. And then it goes back to normal. Satan doesn’t “tell” me anything audibly or via words in my mind. He tempts me through inaudibly through things I’m struggling with. God often speaks to me audibly and inaudibly.

 

[HeRoseFromTheDead]

Maybe the way to deal with the situation is to not cut him off, but don't seek his company either. In other words be available if/when he ever turns from his disrespectful ways and seeks your company. Let him know through your actions that you love him as a friend, but on your terms (i.e., that he respects you).

 

[ManiaStar]

Maybe the way to deal with the situation is to not cut him off, but don't seek his company either. In other words be available if/when he ever turns from his disrespectful ways and seeks your company. Let him know through your actions that you love him as a friend, but on your terms (i.e., that he respects you).

i see what you’re saying. That makes complete sense actually.

I’ve been trying to figure out How to do that. Because so far, he hasn’t been respecting my feelings at all. I’ve been praying about it but to me, the only way I’ve ever been friends with him is we always had been texting or talking every day. We also saw each other all the time too so when God told me to still be there for him and be friends with him, I was thinking how can I be a friend to him when all he’s doing is disrespecting me?

I’m going to have to think over what you said bc with him, I truly don’t know how to do just that.

I had txt him yesterday and told him I’m nearly at my breaking point with this whole situation. I went into more detail but his reply to me was, that he misses doing all our sports and activities with me, that he wants to see me and he loves talking to me about everything.

If I was smarter, I should’ve said to him prove it. Bc that’s something he has been saying to me yet no matter how much I say to him about how I’m feeling about this girl, he still doesn’t respect my feelings. I told him if he ever brings her with “us” to any of our activities, I’m not going to do it bc I can’t take it anymore.

I think if he does bring her, my next move will have to be to say to him until you can respect my feelings with her, I’m done.

 

[OneFaith]

God speaks to me all day long eveveryday- through the Word I have memorised and through my conscience- which I pray for Him to guide. If you think God is telling you something that does not match what the bible says, then it is not God speaking to you. This guy does not seem like a Christian, and God says (in His Word) "Do not be yoked with unbelievers."

 

[ManiaStar]

God speaks to me all day long eveveryday- through the Word I have memorised and through my conscience- which I pray for Him to guide. If you think God is telling you something that does not match what the bible says, then it is not God speaking to you. This guy does not seem like a Christian, and God says (in His Word) "Do not be yoked with unbelievers."

not be yoked — yes but it doesn’t say not to be in communion or be friends with them. How else can you be of good witness if you don’t hang out with them?

 

[HeRoseFromTheDead]

not be yoked — yes but it doesn’t say not to be in communion or be friends with them. How else can you be of good witness if you don’t hang out with them?

I used to have a couple of lesbian friends who lived on a farm together. I would help them out and they would cut my hair. They eventually broke up. I went to visit the one who moved away (I didn't really care for the other one), and saw a bible on her bed stand. I have no idea what was up with that, and I didn't get to ask. I lost track of her because I moved away.

 

[KelbyofGod]

no matter how much I say to him about how I’m feeling about this girl, he still doesn’t respect my feelings. I told him if he ever brings her with “us” to any of our activities, I’m not going to do it bc I can’t take it anymore.

ManiaStar,

Please forgive that I only quoted a portion. And I'm glad to hear that you take things to prayer and allow God to lead you in your life.

The quoted portion is the second time you mentioned his disrespect of your feelings toward his new girlfriend. Unless your feelings are that of being drawn towards her sexually (or some other inappropriate way) perhaps your feelings about her aren't the ones that need to be considered.

Being a friend doesn't mean we have to make sure the person always makes perfect choices. It may just mean that we support the person where we can, and silently pray for them where we feel they are in error. (and let God work it all out)

That doesn't mean you have to hang around the girlfriend. If you feel you shouldn't be there when she is, then politely excuse yourself. It would even give you more time to read, and to pray for him, or her, or both.

Love in Jesus,
Kelby

 

[Angela53510]

I think you are relying on "feelings" rather than the Word, or even the rhema word! You talk of a "peaceful/relaxing" feeling. How does that have anything to do with God?

God has made me anxious and upset at times, with his direction. But, it was the same voice that called me when I was saved. And told me He was the Saviour of the world. And it came to pass!

I won't deny that God brings peace. But, to equate God's voice and direction, with a generic "be friends" really does not seem like a direction from God.

My thought is that you are still attached to this young man and probably holding onto him, in your thoughts. I am not saying be an enemy, but if he is disrespecting you, it is a sign he is just not interested. You need to walk away, treat him politely if you meet him, but write him off as a "friend." He is no more than an acquaintance, and one you don't want to do anything with, at this point.

 

[Blain]

Honestly I don't think God is telling you to be friends with this person I think rather you should take a break from him while still praying for God to help him and to help you as well. Sometimes the best way to love someone and be friends with them is to not be around them or even interact with them until God leads you both to do so again. This person seems to be a constant poison to your well being and I don't see the fruits of the spirit from your interactions with him I see stress worry doubt and anxiety and I can tell he is wearing you down inside.

The voice of God will lead us to grow in him and become closer to him, tell me have you felt yourself growing closer to god through this ordeal? Be wary of the company you surround yourself with because certain people can be like a poison and slowly drain you and bring your down, you already sound exhausted from all this and trust me that is not God's will

 

[OneFaith]

not be yoked — yes but it doesn’t say not to be in communion or be friends with them. How else can you be of good witness if you don’t hang out with them?

I know the difference. Some people spend more time with coworkers than family. The yoke is not physically spending time together, it is close in your heart- which seemed to be the case to me. Yes, we are to witness, but if they don't listen we are to dust off our shoes, leave, and find someone who will listen.

 

[Dino246]

Test all "voices" with the word of God. If it's not in the word of God, it's not God's voice speaking.

So God can't speak anything that's not already recorded in Scripture? Um, no.

The key is whether what is received is in accordance with Scripture, as in "consistent with" and "not contrary to" rather than "in Scripture".

 

[ManiaStar]

ManiaStar,

Please forgive that I only quoted a portion. And I'm glad to hear that you take things to prayer and allow God to lead you in your life.

The quoted portion is the second time you mentioned his disrespect of your feelings toward his new girlfriend. Unless your feelings are that of being drawn towards her sexually (or some other inappropriate way) perhaps your feelings about her aren't the ones that need to be considered.

Being a friend doesn't mean we have to make sure the person always makes perfect choices. It may just mean that we support the person where we can, and silently pray for them where we feel they are in error. (and let God work it all out)

That doesn't mean you have to hang around the girlfriend. If you feel you shouldn't be there when she is, then politely excuse yourself. It would even give you more time to read, and to pray for him, or her, or both.



Love in Jesus,
Kelby

Hi Kelby, thanks for your reply. The only way I’ve ever been friends with him is by texting him everyday, talking to him everyday, and we always shared everything and hung out. That’s the only friendship I’ve ever known with him. So when I felt God tell me to continue being his friend, I asked him How. How do I go back to doing what I’ve done with him in the past with the way he’s treating me? I haven’t gotten an answer yet. I do see what you’re saying though and it makes sense but since he and I don’t even know how to do that btwn us, it’s difficult. I pray for him often usually asking God for his will to be done in this guy’s life. God has told me so much in the past 7 years about thieves guy, I can’t and won’t throw all that away. I know God has a plan. I just need to learn to trust him.

 

[ManiaStar]

I think you are relying on "feelings" rather than the Word, or even the rhema word! You talk of a "peaceful/relaxing" feeling. How does that have anything to do with God?

God has made me anxious and upset at times, with his direction. But, it was the same voice that called me when I was saved. And told me He was the Saviour of the world. And it came to pass!

I won't deny that God brings peace. But, to equate God's voice and direction, with a generic "be friends" really does not seem like a direction from God.

My thought is that you are still attached to this young man and probably holding onto him, in your thoughts. I am not saying be an enemy, but if he is disrespecting you, it is a sign he is just not interested. You need to walk away, treat him politely if you meet him, but write him off as a "friend." He is no more than an acquaintance, and one you don't want to do anything with, at this point.

It has everything to do with God. Because in the past, whether God has told me something difficult or telling me that something is going to be ok, he has Always followed it with peace and often times this peaceful relaxation feeling. As a pastor once told me, I’m very sensitive to the spirit and can feel/sense things that many Christians can’t. I fully believe that answer was from God. For 1. I was praying ready to let this guy go completely bc of his lack of respect. 2. After I had said I fully give him to you, I give up control, and asked for his will to be done in his life, while I was still praying, I felt that internal peace/relaxation feeling where it felt like God was keeping the door open and telling me to be his friend. I can’t deny what I felt bc God has not only audibly spoken to me about him several times but also internally spoken to me and sometimes, he’ll give me a word through others.
I’ll give you a small example. About a month ago, I was extremely angry with him. I wrote out this very angry/harsh text that i wanted to send him but before I did, I began to pray. I said if this text in any way goes against your will or will somehow negatively affect my future relationship with him, I won’t send it. In about 5 min, Hod clearly told me not to send it, so I didn’t. PLus, God completely took away All the anger and depression I was feeling and filled me with peace.

 

[ManiaStar]

I think you are relying on "feelings" rather than the Word, or even the rhema word! You talk of a "peaceful/relaxing" feeling. How does that have anything to do with God?

God has made me anxious and upset at times, with his direction. But, it was the same voice that called me when I was saved. And told me He was the Saviour of the world. And it came to pass!

I won't deny that God brings peace. But, to equate God's voice and direction, with a generic "be friends" really does not seem like a direction from God.

My thought is that you are still attached to this young man and probably holding onto him, in your thoughts. I am not saying be an enemy, but if he is disrespecting you, it is a sign he is just not interested. You need to walk away, treat him politely if you meet him, but write him off as a "friend." He is no more than an acquaintance, and one you don't want to do anything with, at this point.

how else would u describe everything I felt and experienced? After I felt like God was telling me to be his friend, I continued praying about that for 5 days. God didn’t tell me anything else bc I felt like he was telling me, I already told u what I wanted you to do.

I’m over him. Everything he’s done and showed me these last 4 months doesn’t make me like him like that anymore. I do still love him as a friend but I hate how he’s treating me.

 

[ManiaStar]

Honestly I don't think God is telling you to be friends with this person I think rather you should take a break from him while still praying for God to help him and to help you as well. Sometimes the best way to love someone and be friends with them is to not be around them or even interact with them until God leads you both to do so again. This person seems to be a constant poison to your well being and I don't see the fruits of the spirit from your interactions with him I see stress worry doubt and anxiety and I can tell he is wearing you down inside.

The voice of God will lead us to grow in him and become closer to him, tell me have you felt yourself growing closer to god through this ordeal? Be wary of the company you surround yourself with because certain people can be like a poison and slowly drain you and bring your down, you already sound exhausted from all this and trust me that is not God's will

Ok.. I gotcha. Yes.. he is wearing me down completely. Last time I saw him, he didn’t seem himself. And actually, he hasn’t seemed himself. I can tell something is bothering him but idk what it is. I know him so well, I can usually tell when something is bothering him and yes something is bothering him.

Yes.. I have felt like I’m growing a lot closer to God throughout this ordeal. He’s leading me, teaching me and he’s wanting me to trust him. Trust, I’m still struggling with. I Should trust him bc he’s already brought me through several difficult situations with this situation in the past. The only difference is that this is the toughest situation I’ve been in.