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I'm sorry to break the rules I really didn't know where else post this. How does the Catholic Church feel about S&M? I'm being serious when I ask this. I'm too afraid to talk to my priest being that I'm female. Truth be told I used to be really into it for about 5 years and my last boyfriend was borderline mentally abusive about it. He would constantly talk down to me and degrade me and what I always talk being with other women right in front of me. So I left the lifestyle 2 years ago. I haven't had a relationship since then. I feel better with my relationship with God but deep down I'm hurting with guilt over wanting to do this again. I've only had two relationships and both had this in them. I was the dominant one who controlled my boyfriends and they loved it. Now I feel anxious and vulnerable when I think about being in a relationship without it. It made me feel safe to be in control. Picture of the exact opposite of Jill Duggar's marriage. What should I do?
 

Desdichado

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Uhhhhh. Marry a dude and take it up with him.
 
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Ariel82

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Inside the bonds of marriage it's between you and your husband.

Sex of any kind is against church (and bible) teaching outside of marriage.
 

Lafftur

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I'm sorry to break the rules I really didn't know where else post this. How does the Catholic Church feel about S&M? I'm being serious when I ask this. I'm too afraid to talk to my priest being that I'm female. Truth be told I used to be really into it for about 5 years and my last boyfriend was borderline mentally abusive about it. He would constantly talk down to me and degrade me and what I always talk being with other women right in front of me. So I left the lifestyle 2 years ago. I haven't had a relationship since then. I feel better with my relationship with God but deep down I'm hurting with guilt over wanting to do this again. I've only had two relationships and both had this in them. I was the dominant one who controlled my boyfriends and they loved it. Now I feel anxious and vulnerable when I think about being in a relationship without it. It made me feel safe to be in control. Picture of the exact opposite of Jill Duggar's marriage. What should I do?
This is 1 of 2 videos that will help you TREMENDOUSLY!!! Enjoy! :)


[video=youtube;29JPnJSmDs0]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=29JPnJSmDs0[/video]
 

Lafftur

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This is the other video that will help you TREMENDOUSLY!

[video=youtube;a9BJ7I33dqs]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9BJ7I33dqs[/video]
 

Desdichado

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Pretty much. And it's nnnnnnnone of our business. Praise be to God

Inside the bonds of marriage it's between you and your husband.

Sex of any kind is against church (and bible) teaching outside of marriage.
 

PennEd

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I'm sorry to break the rules I really didn't know where else post this. How does the Catholic Church feel about S&M? I'm being serious when I ask this. I'm too afraid to talk to my priest being that I'm female. Truth be told I used to be really into it for about 5 years and my last boyfriend was borderline mentally abusive about it. He would constantly talk down to me and degrade me and what I always talk being with other women right in front of me. So I left the lifestyle 2 years ago. I haven't had a relationship since then. I feel better with my relationship with God but deep down I'm hurting with guilt over wanting to do this again. I've only had two relationships and both had this in them. I was the dominant one who controlled my boyfriends and they loved it. Now I feel anxious and vulnerable when I think about being in a relationship without it. It made me feel safe to be in control. Picture of the exact opposite of Jill Duggar's marriage. What should I do?
Please don't take this the wrong way, but I grew up catholic, school and all, and aside from the VAST doctrinal problems it has , I found it offers very little in the way of support. It is important to find a Church that teaches from the Bible, and offers groups to get you "plugged in" to Christian life.

I agree with the others that said what you do with your husband in your bed is fine with God, except for bringing OTHERS into your love life, including porn.
 
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Please don't take this the wrong way, but I grew up catholic, school and all, and aside from the VAST doctrinal problems it has , I found it offers very little in the way of support. It is important to find a Church that teaches from the Bible, and offers groups to get you "plugged in" to Christian life.

I agree with the others that said what you do with your husband in your bed is fine with God, except for bringing OTHERS into your love life, including porn.
That's all I need to know. If its between a man and woman who are married is it a sin to do whipping and spanking ?
 

PennEd

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That's all I need to know. If its between a man and woman who are married is it a sin to do whipping and spanking ?
I don't believe it is, but Scripture says if you think something is a sin, then to YOU it IS a sin.
 

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That's all I need to know. If its between a man and woman who are married is it a sin to do whipping and spanking ?
Perhaps not a sin, but really, why do those bizarre things unless you enjoy physically abused. Sounds sick to me.
 
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Ugly

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Firstly this is not a Catholic site. And the sites Official position is that "Catholic is not Christian". So coming here seeking help about Catholicism may be ineffective. That's why Catholic sites exist.
Next I know the "that's between you and God" attitude is prevalent about marital sex, and to a degree I think that's right. But some elements of sex are nothing more than corrupted notions taking away from what sex is intended to be.
If you have such a need to be in control there's a safe bet that's true in all aspects of your life. If you have such a need for control that means you are not giving that control to God.
Secondly anyone that thinks sex involving pain, humiliation, degradation, fear, control, etc... could ever be right and what god finds acceptable is missing a lot. The intention to hurt, humiliate and control another of God's creation in the name of intimacy is a mockery to what God intended.
 

maxwel

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Inside the bonds of marriage it's between you and your husband.

Sex of any kind is against church (and bible) teaching outside of marriage.

Inside the "bonds" of marriage...


yeah...

exactly...

hahaha....

hahahaha....

hahahahahaha...


:D
 

tourist

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I'm sorry to break the rules I really didn't know where else post this. How does the Catholic Church feel about S&M? I'm being serious when I ask this. I'm too afraid to talk to my priest being that I'm female. Truth be told I used to be really into it for about 5 years and my last boyfriend was borderline mentally abusive about it. He would constantly talk down to me and degrade me and what I always talk being with other women right in front of me. So I left the lifestyle 2 years ago. I haven't had a relationship since then. I feel better with my relationship with God but deep down I'm hurting with guilt over wanting to do this again. I've only had two relationships and both had this in them. I was the dominant one who controlled my boyfriends and they loved it. Now I feel anxious and vulnerable when I think about being in a relationship without it. It made me feel safe to be in control. Picture of the exact opposite of Jill Duggar's marriage. What should I do?
Perhaps consider becoming a nun.
 
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Ariel82

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Anyway I refer to this bible verse concerning this topic...

1 Corinthians 7:4 ►
New International Version
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.

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It's about mutual respect and love.
 
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The bible calls it sin (fornication) not being married. And if you do get married the bible calls it sin. You must not defile the marriage bed with sexual worldliness (works of the flesh). This is called bondage through demons (Eph. 4:27).
 
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Lewiz

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Before anyone says within the confines of marriage that S&M is ok, imagine God walking in the garden in the cool of the day & discover Adam & Eve having S&M instead of procreation like He commanded them to.

I kinda get the idea mankind would be in the same condition today If they did that instead of eating the forbidden fruit, jus' saying.

I simply can't imagine beating our mates for pleasure being acceptable with God.