Does God want me to be Happy?

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lil-rush

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Taken from my blog (it's a rather long blog post, just so you know. 2 pages, single-spaced on Word):

[Note: unless otherwise stated, the translation I used for this blog was KJV. This is important if you wish to look up the scriptures and find the word “happy” in them. Many other translations switch out the word for “blessed,” “faithful” etc.]

Quite often I have noticed people defending their behavior by saying “God wants me to be happy, and doing this makes me happy.” When I see that argument I want to simply respond “God could care less about your happiness if it means you are sinning” (I might have said that before. I can’t rightly recall), but that really isn’t the best response in the world. So I decided to research the matter.

First, before anything else is said, the question should be asked if God does want us to be happy. So, does God want us to be happy? Yes, He does. Scriptures bear this out in passages such as Ecclesiastes 2:24-25, 3:12-13 and 5:18-19 which tells us that God wants us to be happy on earth as we work hard and enjoy the fruits of our labor.

Now that it is established that God wants you to be happy, a distinction needs to be made on what sort of happiness is of God. Happiness is a fleeting emotion, here today and gone tomorrow. It is, of course, rather silly to try and live a life focused on being forever happy. It isn’t going to happen, because we live in a corrupt world where our happiness will eventually be crushed by some mishap or another, and we will have to deal with those unhappy emotions for a time before we can be happy once more. (As a side note to myself, I do believe I will have to make a thread on the difference between joy and happiness now)

Roget’s II New Thesaurus defines happiness as “A condition of supreme well-being and good spirits: felt great happiness on her wedding day” and gives the following words as synonyms: beatitude, blessedness, cheer, cheerfulness, gladness, joy.

Three words of note are “beatitude,” “blessedness,” and “joy.” In Matthew, during the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus gives us a list of 9 beatitudes. One should note that none of these beatitudes are tied up in what society traditionally tells us will bring happiness. Blessed are the poor in spirit, those who mourn, the meek, those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, the merciful, the pure in heart, the peacemakers, those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, you when they revile and persecute you and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake. Here we learn that happiness comes from abstract circumstances tied up in the betterment of one’s spiritual life.

Interesting note, when comparing the use of the word “happy” between the KJV and the NIV, the word “happy” is often replaced with “blessed” in the NIV. Just to name a very few, Job 5:17, Psalm 127:5, Psalm 128:2, Proverb 14:21. Here we see, then, that happiness is usually a blessing from God. Psalm 146:5, for example reads “Happy is he who has the God of Jacob for his help…” in the KVJ, whereas the NIV states “Blessed is he whose help is the God of Jacob...”

Quite often, it is displayed in the Bible that true happiness comes from a life centered around God by serving God, relying on God, living for God, correction handed down from God, etc (Deut 33:29, Job 5:17, Psalm 127:5, Psalm 128:2, Psalm 144:15, Psalm 146:5, Proverb 3:13, Proverb 14:24, Proverb 16:20, Proverb 28:14, Proverb 19:18, John 13:17, James 5:11, 1 Peter 3:14, 1 Peter 4:14).

In contrast, Genesis 30:13 gives us an example of how selfish motives to try and bring about happiness will fail. Leah named her son “Asher,” meaning “happy.” Leah was happy because she had a 2nd son and was sure this would make Jacob love her finally. She was looking for happiness in the wrong place, though, because Jacob didn’t love her, and she ended up unhappy once more. Instead of focusing on the fact that God had blessed her with two sons, she was too concerned with something she would be unable to change.

The best way to achieve happiness is to focus on what God has blessed you with, and to focus on pleasing God. Happiness is a choice. As my friend’s mom once said “I choose each morning to be happy.” Whether things go the way you want or not, you can be happy if you want (in general).

Now, after looking at happiness that is in line with God’s will for our life, let us look at forms of happiness that have nothing to do with God’s desire for your well-being (yes, we are finally getting to my opinionated part of the blog). Quite often, Christians will say the rather asinine line “God wants me to be happy, so I can [insert sin here] because it makes me happy.”

As already covered, God allows your happiness when it is in line with His word, and you can achieve Godly happiness by studying God’s word and applying it to your life. God does not care for sin (understatement of the month?), and, more than our happiness, God’s desire is for us to be holy. Holiness is what God wants from His children (just like any good parent, He cares more about your character than about your personal happiness).

It is important to note that God never once states in the Bible anything along the lines of “Be happy always, My children.” In fact, in Leviticus 19:1 God states “…You shall be holy, for I, the ETERNAL your GOD, am holy”(The Margolin Edition Torah). We can also find this command from God backed up in 1 Peter 1:15-16 (among other verses).

God requires many things of us –holiness, obedience, love, etc- but in no passage of the Bible does it say God requires happiness from us. In fact, it would appear that happiness might quite often be in direct contrast to the requirements of a Godly life. We are told by God that we will experience persecution for His name’s sake (Matthew 24:9 NIV); we are told to take up our cross and follow Him (Luke 9:23); we are told to not be conformed to this world (Romans 12:2). Any type of happiness you get from partaking in sin will not line up with these scripture verses. So, any time you do something that contradicts scripture, it is not the type of happiness God wants you to experience.

Frankly, if you have to use the excuse “God wants me to be happy, so [insert sin here] is okay” in order to do something, you should know what you are doing is wrong.

So basically, “To the man who pleases Him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness, but to the sinner he gives the task of gathering and storing up wealth to hand it over to the one who pleases God.” (Ecclesiastes 2:26 NIV)


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Mich223

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I think according to Ecclesiastes 2:26 that we all are sinners, but we all try to please God. So yes, I think God wants us to be happy. Look what he did for Solomon and the early Christians that remained faithful. We can expect ups and downs, but ultimately I think we are to be happy.
 
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Does the Lord want you to be happy? Yes.
 
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charisenexcelcis

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There are two kinds of happiness. The one, as the word itself, is connected to the happenings that go on around us. If the Seahawks win, I am happy. If they lose, I am not. (Hopefully, I am not a Mariners fan.) God wants us to have a different kind of happiness. I will call this, for the purpose of this post, joy. God's joy is the place I always return to. Sad things happen and I am saddened, but if I have the joy of the Lord, I will always return to this kind of happiness. "Weeping may go on throughout a night, but joy comes in the morning."
 
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MaggieMye

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THere is no verse in the Bible that indicates God want's us to be happy. He wants us to be RIGHTEOUS AND OBEDIENT. IF we do so, THEN He will give us the desires of our hearts. But we must also ask ourselves...what is the desire of my heart? Does it line up with His will for my life?
If not, then the answer for that 'heart's desire is 'NO". Our will shoudl be that His will be done in and through and for us as it is in heaven.

Maggie
 
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lil-rush

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THere is no verse in the Bible that indicates God want's us to be happy. He wants us to be RIGHTEOUS AND OBEDIENT. IF we do so, THEN He will give us the desires of our hearts. But we must also ask ourselves...what is the desire of my heart? Does it line up with His will for my life?
If not, then the answer for that 'heart's desire is 'NO". Our will shoudl be that His will be done in and through and for us as it is in heaven.

Maggie
:D I agree that the desires of our heart when we are not living for God are totally different than what the desires of our hearts would be if we lived for Him.
 

pickles

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The problem with the God wants me to be happy is that too often it is applied to worldly needs. In Jesus, God Our Father wants us to know the true happyness , which is better said as peace, contentment, and hearts desire, and His love. That is not found in worldly needs, but in His perfect love.
If one seeks true happyness, it is in what God Our Father wants, in serving Him. Because it is by doing His will that true happyness is found because Gods will is for our happyness. Simply put, God Our Father knows exactly all that will bring us eternal happyness, so trust His directions and you will get where you need to go. God Our Father is the perfect gps.
In Jesus, God bless. pickles
 
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thefightinglamb

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I think I just pondered your post and discovered the reason some people get confused about this.

Many Christians believe that since they became a Christian, every desire they have is either good or God-given. Once they have made this conclusion, whatever makes them happy=good, God-ordained.

Instead of understanding that one must often fight the flesh and sin, these people often see salvation as a completed act at the precise moment of salvation. And now, since God has made them 'holy', everything that makes them happy must be 'good' and 'holy' as well.

It makes NO ONE happy to fight the flesh or their own desires. If your body is telling you one thing, and your mind/or God is telling you another, it can feel, quite frankly, insane.

So, as Paul says we must FIGHT ourselves--and take the cross and follow Jesus. And though I seriously doubt Jesus was smiling as he groaned in agony on the cross, I do believe there is both a transcendent peace and love above transient pain.

God bless
tony
 

jangel

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I remember your post about guilt while reading this , kind alike.:)
I agree happiness is a decision… as the verse goes, This is the day that the Lord has made I will rejoice and be glad in it. It doesn’t say he is already happy but he made a decision to be happy. Whatever situation we are into, bad or good , it’s still our decision if we want to be happy or not. Does God want us to be happy?...yes, definitely! Including sinning? ...of course not! Only ignorant people will consider that.
But how can we say we are happy and God wants us to be happy?
If you have a good life, good career or whatever good you can think of , I’m sure you will say God loves you so much that He let you to be happy but how about if it’s the opposite, then you will say God hates you? Happiness from God is different from how we define happiness with our puny minds. God wants us to make Him the source of everything… only through Him we can be satisfied even if we only have less…only through Him we can say we are happy even if the environment or the situation wants us to grief. But how about those who just want to have fun and don’t really think of sinning… I don’t want to judge anyone as how they define fun for them as 1Corinthians 6:12 says,
"Everything is permissible for me"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"—but I will not be mastered by anything.
If you are someone who wanted only to please God and not your self and had made your commitment to Him then you know where your stand is but if you’re someone who wanted to please God and yourself then we (including myself ) still need to be push and need help :) . One thing I’m lacking now is I tend to forget to consecrate myself to God every single day of my life that’s why sometimes I can say I’m not doing anything wrong God, I’m just having fun…but as the verse says , “not everything is beneficial” I need to be watchful on this, if the things I’m saying fun is making me closer to God or not.
 
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lil-rush

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Like three of the verses I posted, happiness can be there in times of trial (James 5:11, 1 Peter 3:14, 1 Pet 4:14 KJV) if our focus is on God.

We are not living on earth for ourselves, but for God, so we shouldn't base our happiness off of what the world can do for us or what we can do for ourselves, but what God has done for us or what we can do for God.
 
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He wants you to love to obey him. Or be happy to obey him and if you do then you are happy.