Officiating at daughter's wedding and I need advice!

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lighthousejohn

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On the 28th of August, I will have the priveledge and honor of officiating at my daughters wedding. I want it to be a special ceremony for both of them as I know it will be for me so I want to write a special ceremony.

Here is my question; Does anyone have any experience in officiating at a daughter or son's wedding. If so, how did you make it special for them? Did you do anything different from a normal ceremony? How did you handle the role of the father along with the role of officiant? Do you have any special reading or passage that you like to include in your cermonies.

I would appreciate any advice that anyone might have, whether or not you have enjoyed this experience yourself.

In Christ,
John
 
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charisenexcelcis

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Congratulations. I helped officiate at both of my daughters' weddings. I always try to customiize the wedding ceremony for the particular couple.
 
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lighthousejohn

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Congratulations. I helped officiate at both of my daughters' weddings. I always try to customiize the wedding ceremony for the particular couple.
Char,

I have only officiated at 3 weddings. I willallow the kids to write their own vows if they want to but I really need some advice or ideas as to how to make it special for them. If you have anything to offer, I would appreciate it.

In Christ,
John
 
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Char,

I have only officiated at 3 weddings. I willallow the kids to write their own vows if they want to but I really need some advice or ideas as to how to make it special for them. If you have anything to offer, I would appreciate it.

In Christ,
John
Hi lighthousejohn,
I haven't done anything like what your taking on so I will send a prayer your way. However my two bits worth comes from my football days. A good referee is one that is not seen and not heard. The game is what the action is all about and the less you do while keeping the action flowing the better. Let the focus be on the kids.
love
edwin.
 
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lighthousejohn

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Hi lighthousejohn,
I haven't done anything like what your taking on so I will send a prayer your way. However my two bits worth comes from my football days. A good referee is one that is not seen and not heard. The game is what the action is all about and the less you do while keeping the action flowing the better. Let the focus be on the kids.
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edwin.[/quo

I in no way meant to infer that I was looking for something special for me. My joy comes from just being part of the ceremony. I am not a referee just a proud father who has learned when to speak and when to be silent. My focus will be on the kids and only on them.

John
 
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My sons getting married next week. I would tell them to write out their own vows using the bible as their guide. I've been trying to tell them to find out what the pastor has planned for fear he will make it long and boring. For them to tell them what they want. I would say ask your daughter what she wants. Its about her.
 
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christiancollegegirl

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My uncle wrote a special song for my cousins wedding. Maybe you can write a special poem for them or something.
 

pickles

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Ive no ideas myself, but do want to say congrats to you and loveschld as well.
I do so love weddings, they always feel like a celibration of a perfect one in Jesus is born!
God bless, pickles