Why are Christians so nasty to each other when they have different views?

[hpesoj]

it does not hurt to just tell people even from the pulpit why it is very nice to be kind to each other in that church or fellowship ..To try to inspire them with a picture of why it's better to truly, rightly get along there. To try to be meek enough or patient with others .To have empathy ..And to look at people in life IF even on TV wherein you did see them be very kind or open to one another is one idea to do..Anything that inspires good thought. Not to ignore using scriptures. But the world does have example to use from often if we just look around.Put thought into it sometimes..

 

[zone]

it does not hurt to just tell people even from the pulpit why it is very nice to be kind to each other in that church or fellowship ..To try to inspire them with a picture of why it's better to truly, rightly get along there. To try to be meek enough or patient with others .To have empathy ..And to look at people in life IF even on TV wherein you did see them be very kind or open to one another is one idea to do..Anything that inspires good thought. Not to ignore using scriptures. But the world does have example to use from often if we just look around.Put thought into it sometimes..

very true. well said.

 

[selenah]

I've come to a conclusion about this.

I think it all comes down to talking too much.

Everyone seems to have different views on the Bible. Each person is fairly confident that his interpretation is correct. And to tell you the truth, most of the time, both sides of the argument are equally convincing. Arguments are not good because they tend to lead to degrading comments and personal attacks. Talking too often usually leads to arguments. Giving opinions also leads to arguments.


I've spent my entire life talking too much and have made myself into an idiot because of that. Even humor tends to get out of hand. I don't know how many people I've seen hurt "harmless jokes." I think the best thing to do is to be silent, be serious, be caring, and keep my opinions to myself.


Proverbs 10:19
In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.


1 Peter 3:10
For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:

 

[AnandaHya]

yeah we all talk way too much and listen way too little I think we should remember what the Bible teaches about contention. I like discussion that edifies and builds up learning and wisdom but you are right too often it goes into personal attacks and no one really listens to what the other is saying because they are so sure they are right, when truly the only person who is perfect in this world is GOD.

Anyways, I hope you have a blessed night

Ecclesiastes 9:17
Words of the wise, spoken quietly, should be heard Rather than the shout of a ruler of fools.

Proverbs 15:18
A wrathful man stirs up strife, But he who is slow to anger allays contention.

Proverbs 17:14
The beginning of strife is like releasing water; Therefore stop contention before a quarrel starts.

Proverbs 18:6
A fool’s lips enter into contention, And his mouth calls for blows.

Proverbs 18:18
Casting lots causes contentions to cease, And keeps the mighty apart.

Proverbs 18:19
A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city, And contentions are like the bars of a castle.

Proverbs 19:13
A foolish son is the ruin of his father, And the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping.

Proverbs 22:10
Cast out the scoffer, and contention will leave; Yes, strife and reproach will cease.

Titus 3:8-11
New King James Version (NKJV)
8 This is a faithful saying, and these things I want you to affirm constantly, that those who have believed in God should be careful to maintain good works. These things are good and profitable to men.

9 But avoid foolish disputes, genealogies, contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and useless. 10 Reject a divisive man after the first and second admonition, 11 knowing that such a person is warped and sinning, being self-condemned.

 

[FireOnTheAltar]

Because many place more value on knowledge and being right over having compassion on others and caring for the eternal souls. It's just another form of self righteousness.

 

[Hethr]

It's interesting how some are giving advice when they ought to be taking it.
Anyway, remember Selenah even though it's a Christian site, not everyone is a Christian. Some are here to investigate the faith and that's awesome. We need to treat everyone with respect here regardless if they have Jesus or the maturity level of thier faith. And the Christians? Yes I'd hope to expect better but everybody has thier weaknessess and that includes rudeness, etc. Best thing for any of us to do is to pray for them instead of adding flame to the fire.

 

[pickles]

Selenah, many responces here, many good ones as well.
I liked your word on talking too much, it is said in scripture that the mouth brings forth evil.
Jesus said we should honor each other above ones self, this would be a good action for all of us to consider.
One wonders if it is aslo that we forget, that our battles are against the powers and principalities of evil, not each other.
Better said by Jesus when He gaive us the greatest comandment..
That we should love the Lord Our God with all our mind, heart soul and streangth.
That we are to love our neighbor as ones self.
On this all the laws are based.

In Jesus, God bless.
pickles

 

[CrimsonFlames]

Because far to many are trying to live under the law and the law has a tendency to make people self righteous and nasty., judgmental and all to willing to throw stones at each other like pharisees. They have not yet come to completely accept Christs work at the cross and think that they can somehow gain favor through self righteousness..., much like the pharisees did.

 

[Hobie]

Some people say they are Christians but their heart is not connected to God

 

[Abiding]

Alot of recent studies have determined that too much french roast can cause nastyness and there have been suggestions from recent experts that combining other blends such as samatra or italian with a bagal seems to calm things down.

 

[gb9]

let me toss out a differant idea.the Bible has clear principels but differant methods to reach them. we tend to argue and divide over the methods.if we could ever get to the point of not insisting our way was the only way then we could start being the Church that Jesus wants us to be.

 

[Jullianna]

Good post, selenah. We aren't all going to agree on everything and, as has been said, not everyone here is a child of God. I'm always interested in reading what others have to say whether I agree with them or not, but when the personal attacks and intentional thread derailments begin, I tend to stop reading and move on to the next thread. Sometimes it seems as though it becomes more important to some to score points than to share Christ and it's just not worth spending time on.

You are a very mature young lady and it's a blessing to see your spiritual growth here.

 

[rainacorn]

I think I agree with Ramon here.

The title of this thread is part of the problem. We're so concerned with how Christians, in general, should behave. We're annoyed with how others are not living up to Christ's example and it upsets us. We're so bothered by flawed and sinful people because Christians shouldn't be that way!!

Why are YOU that way?

If you're not that way then why be so upset? You can't control how other people behave or what they say- only how you respond and deal with it.

Your relationship with God is a personal one and you're the only person who can be absolutely sure that you are a Christian and you are right with God. Similarly, you can't know if someone else is or isn't. I think that's why we have the instruction to love both our neighbors and our enemies- everyone should be treated equally by a Christian, regardless of where they're coming from and how ridiculous they may act.

 

[Dude653]

we should just respectfuly disagree........

 

[selenah]

I think I agree with Ramon here.

The title of this thread is part of the problem. We're so concerned with how Christians, in general, should behave. We're annoyed with how others are not living up to Christ's example and it upsets us. We're so bothered by flawed and sinful people because Christians shouldn't be that way!!

Why are YOU that way?

If you're not that way then why be so upset? You can't control how other people behave or what they say- only how you respond and deal with it.

Your relationship with God is a personal one and you're the only person who can be absolutely sure that you are a Christian and you are right with God. Similarly, you can't know if someone else is or isn't. I think that's why we have the instruction to love both our neighbors and our enemies- everyone should be treated equally by a Christian, regardless of where they're coming from and how ridiculous they may act.

I'm sorry, I guess you're right.

 

[David_1]

People should read the Gospels. Put aside the other sections for now, and read about our Hero Jesus in the flesh, living and teaching.

Take you teachings directly from Jesus as he is most profoundly represented in those Gospels, and not from your pastors or Priests or local politician. From Jesus.

 

[TDWP22]

some of them can get on your deepest nerves

 

[kiwiMERT]

You know, that's something I've always asked, and when I was at bible college I asked that very question and the lecturer could never find the answer to that one...

It seems so simple to me, as the church is the church right? One unified group serving the same purpose... but it's not so simple... the pastor I worked for when I was an intern (we're going back a wee while now) said to me that there are different flavours of God and that some flavours just plainly don't mix... I'm guessing because he didn't particularly like some of the other churches in the area and refused to work with them (they were really neat people I did a bit of community work with them and I'm still friends with them to this day)... goodness knows what he was so hung up about...

We all have differing opinions, but there are three parts to what makes up our spiritual identity in the christian church there is Dogma (the really important stuff, like knowing and believing that Jesus died on the cross and that he rose again,the triune God as in Father, Spirit, Son etc the bare essential teachings), there is Doctrine (whether or not church is on a saturday or sunday, or whether or not somebody is a member of the church when they are christened as a child or fully emersed baptised as an adult) and then there is Opinion (prayers should be freeform and shared in the form of prayer books, only King James bibles shold be used to write a sermon on and all christians should dress fancy when they go to church etc)

You see it's very easy to get so hung up about our opinions because we're all so unique, our opinions become almost like our prejudices (and I'm not talking rascism or sexism etc) I'm talking about our automatic view of how things should be (whether that be a positive thing or a negative thing), so we enforce it on others. Truth be said it's such a human thing to do... we argue and bicker until the cows come home!

That's how I'd explain it...

The bible does say something about 'judging a tree by the fruit that it bares' (or something along those lines) in other words, if something doesn't feel quite right or if you think something is wrong, check it out in the bible and measure how accurate it is...

I hope that answers your question...

Aroha Nui (much love)

*E-J*

 

[See_KING_Truth]

One word.....pride

 

[selenah]

I think we (myself included) tend to get mad at the wrong things. We're supposed to be angry at sin, not the sinner.

Arguing is bad. The thing that separates an argument from a discussion is that arguing is venting anger. When one person is angry, the other person automatically gets angry in response. I've found that just listening to an angry person makes me angry, even if the anger wasn't directed at me. I get soooo angry in response to my mom's anger when she starts picking on people and says stuff like "They're wicked. They're one of those type of Christians. They're going to be judged for that. " It makes me angry when I hear her talk sarcastically about other Christians like they're a bunch of heathens because they do this or that. I try not to be angry, but it's really really hard when someone is like that.