Is it better to be kind or right?

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Canadian36

Canadian36

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I was listening to the popular author Wayne dyer. That guy is brilliant. Some of his stuff leads me to believe he's a christian. While other stuff he talks about makes me think he's just a new ager. He's definitely a spiritual or knowledgeable fellow that's for sure.

But he said this....

In any interaction when the choice is to be right or to be kind, always choose kind.

So I guess what he's saying here is that when interacting with another person and you believe they might be incorrect on some matter, if it's not a major thing then best to just be kind and supportive, rather than needing to prove them wrong and show them what the logic correct way is.

I tend to agree with this. And even when I know someone is wrong about something, I don't bother correcting them, telling them there wrong, or disproving them. I'd rather just agree and be kind and supportive of them, as long as it's not a major thing that will also effect me.

Do you think this is the right way to conduct yourself in a social interaction as a christian or not?
 
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SpaceCowboy

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For the most part yeah I agree...So much easier to just be laid back about things and don't let things ruffle your feathers. Agreeing for the sake of conversation and fellowship is the best way to go usually.
 
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Crossfire

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If we are truly being led by the Spirit then it is possible to both simultaneously. :)

If not, it's better to be kind and allow your actions to speak for you. If you speak about love without expressing love then in their eyes you are a hypocrite and you have done far more damage in single a moment than a lifetime of kindness afterward might not be able to repair. :(
 
jonathanbchristian

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jesus was always right and he was kind. we should do the same to the best of our ability. follow peace with all men.
 
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Relena7

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The bible says to turn the other cheek when your enemies are mean, it doesn't say to win the argument. So I vote kindness. ^_^
 
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mori

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As a math teacher, one of the things I try to keep in mind is that even if

- I know the truth
- I've proven my case
- most reasonable people agree
- they've paid me to teach them

it doesn't mean that everybody will agree or even understand. If someone disagrees, it's usually not because they're stubborn or don't want to know the truth. Usually, they just don't see it my way. They may have had experiences that taught them otherwise, their understanding of the vocabulary might be different, etc.

The absolute worst thing I could do is to be unkind. Some students have been turned off forever because of an unkind word from a teacher.
 
Elizabeth619

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You can respectfully disagree with someone. I disagree with many, but I dont by any means call them a pharisee like I was compared to on here. So I have been told.

Even if you are RIGHT about somethig when your delivery is harsh and volitile it is a natural thing for the opposing person to be defensive and in time to turn away. Even if your preach the word in truth a mean and offensive delivery shows spiritual immaturity.
 
Elizabeth619

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Relena7 said:
The bible says to turn the other cheek when your enemies are mean, it doesn't say to win the argument. So I vote kindness. ^_^
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OH OH OH OH OH OH OH !!! MAY I PLEASE QUOTE YOU AND USE THIS IN MY SIGNATURE?????? ohhhhhhhh girl...you are not new bestest internet friend!!!!
 
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Relena7

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^ Sure you may! :D
 
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AnandaHya

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Canadian36 said:
I was listening to the popular author Wayne dyer. That guy is brilliant. Some of his stuff leads me to believe he's a christian. While other stuff he talks about makes me think he's just a new ager. He's definitely a spiritual or knowledgeable fellow that's for sure.

But he said this....

In any interaction when the choice is to be right or to be kind, always choose kind.

So I guess what he's saying here is that when interacting with another person and you believe they might be incorrect on some matter, if it's not a major thing then best to just be kind and supportive, rather than needing to prove them wrong and show them what the logic correct way is.

I tend to agree with this. And even when I know someone is wrong about something, I don't bother correcting them, telling them there wrong, or disproving them. I'd rather just agree and be kind and supportive of them, as long as it's not a major thing that will also effect me.

Do you think this is the right way to conduct yourself in a social interaction as a christian or not?
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I think you can still be kind without agreeing with them if they are wrong.

Most of the time I just change the topic if it is an issue I know we disagree upon unless they want to talk about it.

If I believe they are wrong I express my beliefs and listen to theirs and pray that God show us what is "right" in the situation. I believe it is better to be "right" according to GOD then to be kind and accommodating.

If God tells you that something is WRONG, you should not be wish-washy and say "its ok" just to be "kind" because that is not really a kindness to keep them in sin and have them punished for their sins.

It would be "kinder" to show them through scripture what God wills in certain situations. You have to pray about it.

I don't think its ever right to LIE and pretend its because you are being "kind"

In those situations I believe its better to say nothing then to say a lie.

Its not if YOU are right or if THEY are right but if you BOTH are seeking the wisdom from Above from God with contrite and humble hearts.

otherwise "kindness" is just surface level

James 3:16-18
New King James Version (NKJV)
16 For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. 17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. 18 Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace
 
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RachelBibleStudent

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some people given the false choice between being kind and being right...choose to be 'kinda right'

but we can be nice without compromising the truth...
 
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Crossfire

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Elizabeth619 said:
You can respectfully disagree with someone. I disagree with many, but I dont by any means call them a pharisee like I was compared to on here. So I have been told.

Even if you are RIGHT about somethig when your delivery is harsh and volitile it is a natural thing for the opposing person to be defensive and in time to turn away. Even if your preach the word in truth a mean and offensive delivery shows spiritual immaturity.
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Exactly. :)
 
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Lamby

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I think you have to pick your battles.

Some things are worth fighting for, other things are just differences of opinion. If you are right, but say it at the the wrong time... then you can be the one in the wrong.
 
pickles

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I have wondered about this alot.
As sometimes I question should I or shouldnt I ?
As a parent, I often had to be firm about many things in order to keep my children from bringing great harm to themselves.
I look at the many times God Our Father has chastized me, even though I was humbled to my knees, I knew as well that God Our Fathers love was holding me the whole time, and the moment I repented, His lifted me up right away, filling my heart with His love and delight.
I believe this is the example we need to follow.
But I know Ive read scripture that says God will bring them to correction.
Simply, if in faith we trust God to bring His will and rightousness through Jesus to our own hearts.
Maby we would serve better in faith, knowing He will do the same for another.
Jesus has never failed us, so Im sure He will not fail others. :)

God bless
pickles
 
cronjecj

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both, it's possible to be right and kind simultaneously
however you should never sacrifice
truth\righteousness in order to keep the peace but
speak truth and let your actions follow.

i find it really hard to be kind to those who teach
falsely, we must rebuke them for the sake of
righteousness because it's they that leads many
to error.

we should be kind and truthful to the lost and rebuke
the false teachers.
 
2knowhim

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Man can speak a 1,000 words to another man and never change anything,
God can speak ONE Word to your Heart and Change everything.
 
Avinu

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I was listening to the popular author Wayne dyer. That guy is brilliant. Some of his stuff leads me to believe he's a christian. While other stuff he talks about makes me think he's just a new ager. He's definitely a spiritual or knowledgeable fellow that's for sure.

But he said this....

In any interaction when the choice is to be right or to be kind, always choose kind.

So I guess what he's saying here is that when interacting with another person and you believe they might be incorrect on some matter, if it's not a major thing then best to just be kind and supportive, rather than needing to prove them wrong and show them what the logic correct way is.

I tend to agree with this. And even when I know someone is wrong about something, I don't bother correcting them, telling them there wrong, or disproving them. I'd rather just agree and be kind and supportive of them, as long as it's not a major thing that will also effect me.

Do you think this is the right way to conduct yourself in a social interaction as a christian or not?
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I would just interject that scripture tells us we can do both. " Correct and exhort each other daily with love"
 
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I think that sometimes the most kind thing you can do for someone is to be right. Indeed I would argue that truth and charity are never opponent of one another. It's all about the way you go about professing the Truth. You can't force it.
 
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Study the scriptures and RIGHTLY divide the word of truth and be KIND when you present biblical truths to others :eek:
 
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