Non-christian friends. What IF your BEST friends in life are non-christians?

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Is it OK for a believer to have non-christian friends that are real good friends?

  • Yes

    Votes: 56 78.9%
  • No

    Votes: 5 7.0%
  • Maybe

    Votes: 8 11.3%
  • I dont' know

    Votes: 2 2.8%

  • Total voters
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freeman4

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As long as they do not let them influence you it is no problem. You have your life and they have theirs. Who knows, you may be an example to them.
 

homwardbound

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Yes, we are to be a witness to our nonchristian friends, but let's be careful as well. I know several young men and women who tried to be a light to their unbelieving friends, and instead of them becoming a light to them, the unbelieving through the work of Satan, tempted these young men and women to go out into the world more. So, we still must be careful and never let our guard down. I remember my father many years ago telling me that he trusted me, but he didn't trust the Devil. So yes, we can be a light, but we should associate with believers and God's children who are like minded, lest Satan try to tempt and destroy the very elect, and pull Christians back into the world. I have seen it too many times, so I am just very cautious.
Yes be cautious and be sure it is you that are called by God to be with the worst sort of sinner or the least, either way sin is sin, no matter how big or small.
People stay away from people that are out partying, carousing and all that sort. Why? Is it because of fear that we might not join in? Or when one joins in and saying they do not fear and are not called to be in that bar, yet are there, consequences do occur.
I think each of us first and foremost need to know our election is sure. As in taking care of the board in our own eye.
Would this not be study to know God, between God and you first, so that God can show you first what God has done for you personally, through his Son and thus respond to God with thanksgiving and praises unending.
I think is this not why we are here to learn from one another and at the same time sift everything through our new Hearts in the Spirit of God, to teach us truth over error(s) that we all make being in flesh body that is unredeemed.
Learning to listen to God, in the Spirit of God, and not the world, or the self we were originally born with, that is selfish
 

homwardbound

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I have seen big destruction to Christian men and women by associating themselves with unbelievers, WHO THEY HAD TO KNOW had a different lifestyle than theirs. The power of Satan is strong, and we are strong in numbers if we with friends who have the same faith as us.
And if we are called by God these things you are saying that have happened will not. So I think it be very important to listen to the hidden man of our new hearts that God placed in us that believe God. This would be the Holy Ghost, who tell us what Father wants, just as Father did tell Christ through this same Holy Ghost of Father.
What a great example to be dependent on one and one only and that is Father of Christ, the creator of this entire universe, and through Christ we are made one with Christ, Father and all believers through his death then resurrection.
Colossians 1:22 in the body of his flesh through death, to present you holy and unblameable and unreproveable in his sight:
Romans 6:5 For if we have been planted together in the likeness of his death, we shall be also in the likeness of his resurrection:
Philippians 3:10 that I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death;

So maybe we need to look to see to be co-crucified with Christ each day, and maybe see the new life, and be in that new life daily, and while others see this joy in you, well maybe they will repent and believe in God to. All I know is to trust God to do through me whatever God needs done through me, to bring in the sheep.
 
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freeman4

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#44
Thanks' I believe we can all learn for each other.
 

homwardbound

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I have learned much being here causing me to study deeper and deeper
1 Jn 2:27
27 But the anointing which ye have received ofhim abideth in you, and ye need not that any man teach you: but as the sameanointing teacheth you of all things, and is truth, and is no lie, and even asit hath taught you, ye shall abide in him.
 
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Seeker0114

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great question. i am married to a non-believer, we strayed from the christian path together, and i am returning alone! :(
 
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Is it OK for a believer to have non-christian friends that are real good friends?[endquote]

Yes, Of course. I think it would be better worded as is it ok to have friends that don't believe what you do. No one knows anothers heart and no sinner can judge righteously and we are to love all.
 

p_rehbein

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#48
Just my thoughts, but if your best friends are unbelievers, Scripture says you are to come out of them, so, I would say you need to find new friends..............elsewise they may end up dragging you back into a sinful life apart from God.
 
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GreenNnice

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Just my thoughts, but if your best friends are unbelievers, Scripture says you are to come out of them, so, I would say you need to find new friends..............elsewise they may end up dragging you back into a sinful life apart from God.
The Lord leads. As I've said, I've had a 'best friend' since I was 5 and it's a situation that constantly allows God around them, because I often say to them, 'The Lord leads,' and that my life is after Him. My friends I want in heaven, and, God knows that, I don't think we are to leave friends unless God takes them away, especially when God's used them to help you in life in a lot of different ways, like my 1.5 year older best friend has done in my life, not to mention, his kids and wife are in my life too and have been for many years now.

But, yes, we are to follow the Lord and IF your best friends are taking you off of God's path for your life, having you compromise your values then that is not good. My best friends are good to me, they are a model family of love that I pray daily can see His Love in their lives . :)
 

p_rehbein

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The Lord leads. As I've said, I've had a 'best friend' since I was 5 and it's a situation that constantly allows God around them, because I often say to them, 'The Lord leads,' and that my life is after Him. My friends I want in heaven, and, God knows that, I don't think we are to leave friends unless God takes them away, especially when God's used them to help you in life in a lot of different ways, like my 1.5 year older best friend has done in my life, not to mention, his kids and wife are in my life too and have been for many years now.

But, yes, we are to follow the Lord and IF your best friends are taking you off of God's path for your life, having you compromise your values then that is not good. My best friends are good to me, they are a model family of love that I pray daily can see His Love in their lives . :)
I do agree that it is quite possible that God has placed you in this person's life to "STAND IN THE GAP."

But we do have to be careful to FIX OUR EYES ON JESUS........and not be led back into our former lives........

God bless, and stay true to your calling.....

:)
 

homwardbound

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Just my thoughts, but if your best friends are unbelievers, Scripture says you are to come out of them, so, I would say you need to find new friends..............elsewise they may end up dragging you back into a sinful life apart from God.
or visa versa too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God leads
 
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Bryancampbell

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I think we should follow Jesus' example.

Be in the world with sinners living and teaching the word of God, but not partake with their sins.
Jesus hung out with tax collectors and sinners but always kept Himself true to the Father.
And yes be around those who also believe the word of God.
 

Hizikyah

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IMO if one will hear about the Scriptures than I can still be around them, but if they will not hear about the Scriptures than I can not be around them.
 

p_rehbein

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I think we should follow Jesus' example.

Be in the world with sinners living and teaching the word of God, but not partake with their sins.
Jesus hung out with tax collectors and sinners but always kept Himself true to the Father.
And yes be around those who also believe the word of God.
Certainly true that Jesus came to save.............and of course those who are in need of salvation are sinners.......and He did give us the Great Commission..............."Go ye into all the world........."

Yet we ARE cautioned to be very careful when "fellowshipping" with unbelievers...........I just wanted to point that out......it goes back to our being "in the world," and not "of the world" I suppose........

Anyway, I also believe that we are to "stand in the gap" for those who are in need of salvation, and pray earnestly for their salvation.............
 
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Bryancampbell

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Certainly true that Jesus came to save.............and of course those who are in need of salvation are sinners.......and He did give us the Great Commission..............."Go ye into all the world........."

Yet we ARE cautioned to be very careful when "fellowshipping" with unbelievers...........I just wanted to point that out......it goes back to our being "in the world," and not "of the world" I suppose........

Anyway, I also believe that we are to "stand in the gap" for those who are in need of salvation, and pray earnestly for their salvation.............
True. Two of my closest friends, aren't even believers. Matter of fact one is a definite atheist, the other Muslim Shiite. But somehow they are better people to be around than most "Christians" I know I think.
 

KohenMatt

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I voted maybe. I think it's contingent on who else you have in your life. A best friend implies that you share some pretty deep aspects of your lives with each other. I think this is fine as long as you're not being exposed to things that could defile you. But I think more importantly, you need to have believing-friends to balance that out and keep you grounded in your faith. Again, "best friends" implies that you share some pretty deep aspects of your lives with each other. That should especially include your faith, and you need friends that will share that with you.

If you have non-Christian "best friends", that's OK. You need Christian "best friends" more so.
If you don't have any.........

Go get some.
 
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GreenNnice

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I voted maybe. I think it's contingent on who else you have in your life. A best friend implies that you share some pretty deep aspects of your lives with each other. I think this is fine as long as you're not being exposed to things that could defile you. But I think more importantly, you need to have believing-friends to balance that out and keep you grounded in your faith. Again, "best friends" implies that you share some pretty deep aspects of your lives with each other. That should especially include your faith, and you need friends that will share that with you.

If you have non-Christian "best friends", that's OK. You need Christian "best friends" more so.
If you don't have any.........

Go get some.
Good post and I've shared my faith with my BEST FRIEND and his family, hence , in title, 'BEST FRIENDS,' time and time again, and, they accept me .
This is important, this acceptance, this is something that God uses inside you, His Spirit in us at work, showing them Him :)

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The Lord could have all your 'best friends' be non-Chrisitans, like Bryan Campbell says that his Christian friends are more tough on him, sometimes, than his non-Christian friends. I don't think this is without form, and, it's God's form for BRYAN'S LIFE :) The Lord leads.

He is being put into TOUGH situations because his inner spirit is filled wtih Him in it , at work. Gee, I sound like I'm repeating myself :)

I AM ;)

The Lord leads :)
 
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homwardbound

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[h=3]2 Timothy 4:2[/h]Authorized (King James) Version (AKJV)


[SUP]2 [/SUP]preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine

Please see the verse carefully, as in when rebuke, reprove, are many times taken out of context. Reason because without Love led by God through Holy Ghost we are no more than.

1 Corinthians 13:1
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
 

santuzza

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In my experience, I have found that deep friendships with people of other faith (or no faith) eventually erode and die away. When I came to the Lord, I had a lot of good non-Christian friends, but as the years went on, those friendships faded for one reason or another. Usually it had nothing to do with faith differences, but we were taking different paths in life which were leading us apart. As this was happening, a very good Christian friend told me that God was removing my non-Christian friends to replace them with Christian friends. He was right. I don't think there is anything WRONG with having non-Christian friends, but I do think your differences in lifestyle will eventually tamp down the friendship and you'll find it harder and harder to reveal your most intimate feelings with someone who does not share your faith.
 

p_rehbein

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True. Two of my closest friends, aren't even believers. Matter of fact one is a definite atheist, the other Muslim Shiite. But somehow they are better people to be around than most "Christians" I know I think.
Brother Bryan, if this statement is true, then you really gotta get out more among the Church and "FELLOWSHIP."

I am always bothered by statements like this.........the idea that unbelievers are "better people to be around" than believers? Either there is a real problem with your circle of believers that you need to investigate, or you just need to find a NEW circle of believers/church to attend/whatever........

Another point is this...................we don't "share our faith" with unbelievers, we witness of the Good News.....To "share" implies that they are returning our "fellowship" in Christ, and this can not be done with an unbeliever.......just my thought there........it is GREAT to witness.........but if we are looking to "share," we need to look to the Church, and dedicate ourselves to doing as Scriptures say, and that is the edification of the Church.......ok, God bless.........