Why do we have to speak positive and encouraging words to others??

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Madisa

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Every word you say will have an affect on others. Positive words will encourage and strengthen other people, but negative words will tear down and harm them. You must decide whether to speak positively or negatively. Please understand that speaking positively requires a deliberate decision, whereas speaking negatively comes easilyfor it is human nature. Therefore, actively strive to speak positive and encouraging words to others.

It is no surprise that the Bible instructs us to say beneficial things about others: "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29). Furthermore, Colossians 4:6 says, "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt ..." Speaking positive, uplifting words is extremely important. Indeed, Proverbs 25:11 says, "A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver."

In Psalm 19:14, David prays, "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." David clearly knew the importance of words, and so he prayed that he would speak words that were pleasing to God.

We must deliberately choose to speak positive words; otherwise, we will instinctively complain and be negative for that is human nature. Thus, it is no surprise that Ecclesiastes 5:2 tells us, "Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few." Similarly, Proverbs 10:19 says, "When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise." Usually when you "hold" your tongue, you'll catch yourself before you say nasty things about others and cut them down with your words.

Lastly, it is important to understand that whatever you say is a reflection of your heart attitude. Matthew 12:34 says, "For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks" (also see Luke 6:45). In other words, your words are simply an overflow of what's in your heart. If you think poorly about others, you'll speak poorly about them. On the other hand, if you think positively about others, as the Bible instructs us to, then you'll speak positively about them.
Since words carry power, make a decision to use your words as building blocks not battering rams.
 

JaumeJ

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In response to the post title, we are supposed to keep our minds and conversation on things beautiful, and I am one of the first to drift away from this advice. Thank you for reminding me, and everyone else......... Please pray I, and all, keep this divine advice foremost in our minds, hearts, and from out of our mouths as we speak and act.
Yahweh bless you and hold you close always, amen. (Glad you are here again.)
 
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Madisa

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Thank you JaumeJ.I say Amen!!! God bless u more.And yes, i'll be praying for u and my self.May God help us all.
 
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squidget

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proverbs 18; 21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.its our words that will either exhort or crush a person
i will differ tho with you in regards to you reference to Mathew and Luke scripture with it being a generalized statement it lends itself to being on the destructive side of speech rather than the exhortation.
the full passage was one of rebuke to a people that were spiritually inept of being able to perform the will of GOD because they didnot apply GODs word out of love but out of their attempts at righteousbess through law.
it was because of this the hearts of those being rebuked had actually grown cold Micah 6;8 we see the purpose of the law
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to wal[SIZE=-1][/SIZE] humbly with thy God?

Mathew 12; 34 we see the whole reason for the statement is laid up
O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.

it was the ones being rebuked that received not only the rebuttal but the reason for this ; they were evil they knew nothing but placing conditions upon others that burdened them and earlier in the passage they denied that the Holy Spirit was with JESUS as they accused him of being poseesed with a spirit from Beelzebub.

its that use of using partial scripture that has been taught by traditions that is exactly the current reason why the words that come out of our mouths must be those that edify exhort or strengthen one .
 
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Every word you say will have an affect on others. Positive words will encourage and strengthen other people, but negative words will tear down and harm them. You must decide whether to speak positively or negatively. Please understand that speaking positively requires a deliberate decision, whereas speaking negatively comes easilyfor it is human nature. Therefore, actively strive to speak positive and encouraging words to others.

It is no surprise that the Bible instructs us to say beneficial things about others: "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29). Furthermore, Colossians 4:6 says, "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt ..." Speaking positive, uplifting words is extremely important. Indeed, Proverbs 25:11 says, "A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver."

In Psalm 19:14, David prays, "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." David clearly knew the importance of words, and so he prayed that he would speak words that were pleasing to God.

We must deliberately choose to speak positive words; otherwise, we will instinctively complain and be negative for that is human nature. Thus, it is no surprise that Ecclesiastes 5:2 tells us, "Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few." Similarly, Proverbs 10:19 says, "When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise." Usually when you "hold" your tongue, you'll catch yourself before you say nasty things about others and cut them down with your words.

Lastly, it is important to understand that whatever you say is a reflection of your heart attitude. Matthew 12:34 says, "For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks" (also see Luke 6:45). In other words, your words are simply an overflow of what's in your heart. If you think poorly about others, you'll speak poorly about them. On the other hand, if you think positively about others, as the Bible instructs us to, then you'll speak positively about them.
Since words carry power, make a decision to use your words as building blocks not battering rams.
I like your post and the truth it conveys. I want to ask you something about (Col 4:6) you mentioned. The word conversation pertains not only to the tongue but to the life we live. What would a conversation be like, in both tongue and lifestyle, that is full of grace and seasoned with salt?
 
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Madisa

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Hello Red33 ,

I think this verse Col 4 : 6 simply means that born again Christians are the salt of the earth. Salt is a preservative but it is also there to make things taste better.
It is saying whatever we say or do, we should do it with love. It is ok to be bold and uncompromising, but not ever to be mean, hateful, sarcastic, and out of the Spirit of Love and Truth, which we are commanded to be in at all times, just as Jesus was.It also has the idea of the Lord's influence upon our hearts, and its reflection in our life.

"The tongue of the just is as choice silver: the heart of the wicked is little worth. The lips of the righteous feed many: but fools die for want of wisdom." (Prov 10:20-21)
Behave yourselves wisely in your relations with those of the outside world making the very most of the time and seizing the opportunity. Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone. Be wise in your behavior towards non-Christians, and make the best possible use of your time.
Great question.
God bless. Thank you for asking.
 
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Hello Red33 ,

I think this verse Col 4 : 6 simply means that born again Christians are the salt of the earth. Salt is a preservative but it is also there to make things taste better.
It is saying whatever we say or do, we should do it with love. It is ok to be bold and uncompromising, but not ever to be mean, hateful, sarcastic, and out of the Spirit of Love and Truth, which we are commanded to be in at all times, just as Jesus was.It also has the idea of the Lord's influence upon our hearts, and its reflection in our life.
"The tongue of the just is as choice silver: the heart of the wicked is little worth. The lips of the righteous feed many: but fools die for want of wisdom." (Prov 10:20-21)
Behave yourselves wisely in your relations with those of the outside world making the very most of the time and seizing the opportunity. Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone. Be wise in your behavior towards non-Christians, and make the best possible use of your time.
Great question.
God bless. Thank you for asking.
Madisa, thank you for your honestly and truthfulness and for the maturity that you have in your heart in the love of God.
 
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Madisa

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U're welcome Red33... Thank you, be abundantely blessed in the mighty Name of Jesus!