How do you react to other people?

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Anna1

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"The way your react to the things that you meet in life will determine the degree of your happiness or unhappiness. Your reaction and only your reaction, is the determining factor.

Whatever happens to you in life, whatever others say or do, these things in themselves have no bearing on your happiness or unhappiness; they neither add to it nor detract from it. There is hardly anything more foolish than making excuses for yourself and putting the blame on others.

Only your reaction to what happens or to what others say or do (their conduct or their treatment of you or yours) can, in any way, affect your happiness or unhappiness. Your own sin causes you to react to things in a way that is harmful to you.

The following example illustrates the mistake that most people make: Someone does something evil to you. You aren't able to bear it, and so you, too, become evil. Then you rationalize that if the person hadn't said or done this evil thing to you, you wouldn't have become evil. In other words, it is the other person's fault. On the surface this would seem to be right, but it isn't. In fact, it is wrong, very wrong."

For the rest of this article, click on the link below:

http://www.brunstad.org/en/Edification/Reactions.aspx
 
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I didn't click the link, but I just wanted to thank you for your words. I really needed to hear those today.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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well, you can tell them nicely to stop :p :)
but yeah, doing evil back will never work. ever
 
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I also really needed to hear this today, so thanks.

May the peace of God help us to be calm in all situations.
 
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Sharp said:
May the peace of God help us to be calm in all situations.
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Amen! When I was first saved, it seems like it was so easy to forgive. I think I lost some of the love of Christ through me along the way. I pray God humbles us with his love and forgiveness so that His light can be seen in us through our interactions with other people.
 
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tnx for the encouragement..that is exactly what i needed to hear..very well said!

God bless
 
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Oh really? ok, so say there is a girl who gets raped and abused by her father. your saying that if she doesnt just, buck up, grin and bear it, that she is evil? that her father bears no responsibility for the pain experienced in the girls life? That no matter what horrible things he does to this girl, it neither adds to nor detracts from her happiness? that its only her reactions that are the problem? what a foolish sinful girl, huh?
 
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wait a minute, now I think this thread is too much about us and the flesh, our response to any given situation is determined if we are walking in the Spirit or walking in the Flesh this will also determine our amount of happiness we experience. I mean a thread in a christian forum and not once was God , Jesus or the Holy Spirit mentioned or given any credit for us that walk in the flesh, to be able to raise above our evil reactions and do good instead of evil and everyone else is no better by praising such a thread that gives the individual credit for doing Good, Now I wonder how you respond to the truth, with good or evil!!!!!!!!!!


Ga 5:22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,Ga 5:23Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.Ga 5:24And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.Ga 5:25If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.


Ga 5:16This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.


Give God the Glory!!!!!!!!!
 
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Lauren

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Well, I for one have not been walking the spirit much these days. Although the OP didn't mention scriptures, it spoke to me, reminding me of days when I did walk in the spirit and how I would have reacted when wronged (by God's grace and the working of the Holy Spirit in me).

So, yeah, it made me strive in the flesh to react in a better manner, but I still benefited in the spiritual realm from it....by reminding me of what once was and giving me hope for the future in terms of my walk with God. And.....hmmm, how do I put this....it was like when I remembered, God blessed me for a moment and gave me a touch of a supernatural healing of the anger that I had been harboring.

Hope some of that made sense. My language skills seemed to have been impaired by my walking more in the flesh....LOL. When you are truly in the Spirit, it (and everything) flows smoothly....not so much when you revert back to walking in the flesh.
 
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Hey, thanks for all the replies everyone. In response to your post Thaddeus, I'd just like to remind you that this article was an excerpt of an excerpt. It was published on a public christian website, so I didn't think it was wrong to post it here, but I'm pretty sure that the entire article is protected by copyright.

I also thought that the fact I was posting it on a Christian forum on a Christian website meant that people would understand that to react in the way described requires the Holy Spirit, we can't do so in our own strength as humans, it's not possible.

And to respond to Asmodeus, sometimes it's hard to know what to say to such situations. That's not exactly the norm though is it. However I do believe that it is true for everything, there's actually another example from the same website. You guys might have heard about a guy called Marc Woerlen - five years ago he lost his wife, 7 children (and one unborn child) in a terrible house fire in Canada. It was international news at the time. You might think that such a situation would give a man an excuse to become clinically depressed, irate, start blaming people, lose his faith in God etc, but Marc did none of these things. He gave an interview here, if anyone is interested in reading it.

http://www.brunstad.org/en/Worth-Reading/Marc-Woerlen-A-Living-Example-of-Faith.aspx?v=103

I'm glad that some people were positively affected by the excerpt though - I assure you I meant no offence to anyone.
 
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cornerstone

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Abigail's approach to David, how Esther approached the King are great examples of how we are to approach other people; great studies both
 
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LuvzJesus

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Hey thanks for the post. I think it's so true that it all comes down to how you take things yourself. After all, you can spend a long time waiting for other people to change, so if your happiness depends on them you're in a sorry state. I'm so glad I've learned that I can always be happy, no matter what other people do to me! :)
 
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