I did end up marrying the man I first had sex with, and my "dream love". But it turned out to be full of abuse of every kind. I left him in 2000, knowing I could never divorce him. He came back last week end to talk, and ended up hurting me all over again. I know I can never divorce him. And anyway, even if I did, I could never re-marry. So I am destined to be alone for the rest of my life. Which saddens me a great deal. yet as Joseph Prince always says "live in Grace" and that God forgives all sin. As you can see, I am very confused about all this. I wish I could sit down and ask Jesus to eplain all this to me and to tell me what to do, or what I can do to fix all this.
Job answered his false accusers that gave him harsh advice as to what God requires, saying, Job 13:4 "But ye are forgers of lies, ye are all physicians of no value." And that fits well the advice of the many that see God as so insistent regards this matter.
You are turning God's love into self-abuse by applying Jesus' words away from the context in which they were spoken. I'll speak again of that context in a moment.
But first, think about this: On one hand Paul shows us that God's love does not require the letter of that Old law because as Paul said, Colossians 2:20 "Wherefore if ye be dead with Christ from the rudiments of the world, why, as though living in the world, are ye subject to ordinances,
21 (Touch not; taste not; handle not;
22 Which all are to perish with the using after the commandments and doctrines of men?
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Which things have indeed a shew of wisdom in will worship, and [mock] humility,
and neglecting of the body; not in any honour to the satisfying of the flesh."
God cares about our doing useless self punishing things of that Old Law but then you present him to not care about a bad marriage? No wonder the world thinks Christians are insane. Why can you not see that as Paul said, you have been called to peace? Divorcing is not what makes one's children unholy. Paul was specifically speaking of loose sexual conduct by those who had separated, and such loose conduct leads to having children with people to whom they are not married, thus making their children unholy. 1 Corinthians 7:7 "For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn."
Now read the rest of what Paul spoke there at 1 Corinthians 7, bearing that in mind.
As to the context of Jesus' words there about fornication and adultery, take the two verses together which higlight the setting of what Jesus was speaking concerning: Matthew 5:31 "
It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery."
Jesus was speaking about the practice that had developed by tradition of easily disposing of a wife due to any mere discontentment with her.
It is wrong to stretch Jesus words beyond that because it paints a lie about Jesus that stumbles many from seeing Jesus' true love and desiring a relationship with him.