Romans 9:13-23 Do we even have a choice?

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kevseek

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This passage of scripture has bothered me ever since I was a teenager.
It seems like Paul is saying that God decides beforehand whether
He is going to like us or hate us, and really makes everyone as they are.
Also that we can't question it because He is the one who decides.

True, it is fully His right to decide how to make us and what to use us for.
But where does it leave the person who isn't chosen, who God chooses to hate?

You may say "Well that person has chosen to be like that"
But can you honestly still say that when God has done the making?
Look at Pharoah, God even hardened his heart against the Israelites.

So, what do you do if you are one of those unlucky ones that God has chosen to hate (Pharoah, Essau etc)
Can you really do anything about it?

How do you know for sure that God hasn't intended you for destruction no matter what?

Please help me to understand this scripture better.
 
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John Wesley:

Rom 9:13 As it is written - With which word in Genesis, spoken so long before, that of Malachi agrees. I have loved Jacob - With a peculiar love; that is, the Israelites, the posterity of Jacob. And I have, comparatively, hated Esau - That is, the Edomites, the posterity of Esau. But observe, This does not relate to the person of Jacob or Esau Nor does it relate to the eternal state either of them or their posterity. Thus far the apostle has been proving his proposition, namely, that the exclusion of a great part of the seed of Abraham, yea, and of Isaac, from the special promises of God, was so far from being impossible, that, according to the scriptures themselves, it had actually happened. He now introduces and refutes an objection. Mal_1:2-3.


Barnes:


Have I hated - This does not mean any positive hatred; but that he had preferred Jacob, and had withheld from Esau those privileges and blessings which he had conferred on the posterity of Jacob. This is explained in
Mal_1:3," And I hated Esau, and laid his mountains and heritage waste for the dragons of the wilderness;" compare Jer_49:17-18; Eze_35:6. It was common among the Hebrews to use the terms "love" and "hatred" in this comparative sense, where the former implied strong positive attachment, and the latter, not positive hatred, but merely a less love, or the withholding of the expressions of affection; compare Gen_29:30-31; Pro_13:24, "He that spareth his rod hateth his son; but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes;" Mat_6:24, "No man can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other," etc.; Luk_14:26, "if any man come to me, and hate not his father and mother, etc."
 

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John Wesley:

Rom 9:13 As it is written - With which word in Genesis, spoken so long before, that of Malachi agrees. I have loved Jacob - With a peculiar love; that is, the Israelites, the posterity of Jacob. And I have, comparatively, hated Esau - That is, the Edomites, the posterity of Esau. But observe, This does not relate to the person of Jacob or Esau Nor does it relate to the eternal state either of them or their posterity. Thus far the apostle has been proving his proposition, namely, that the exclusion of a great part of the seed of Abraham, yea, and of Isaac, from the special promises of God, was so far from being impossible, that, according to the scriptures themselves, it had actually happened. He now introduces and refutes an objection. Mal_1:2-3.


Barnes:


Have I hated - This does not mean any positive hatred; but that he had preferred Jacob, and had withheld from Esau those privileges and blessings which he had conferred on the posterity of Jacob. This is explained in
Mal_1:3," And I hated Esau, and laid his mountains and heritage waste for the dragons of the wilderness;" compare Jer_49:17-18; Eze_35:6. It was common among the Hebrews to use the terms "love" and "hatred" in this comparative sense, where the former implied strong positive attachment, and the latter, not positive hatred, but merely a less love, or the withholding of the expressions of affection; compare Gen_29:30-31; Pro_13:24, "He that spareth his rod hateth his son; but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes;" Mat_6:24, "No man can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other," etc.; Luk_14:26, "if any man come to me, and hate not his father and mother, etc."
Very informative! That's how i interpret it.
 
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Definition_Christ

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It's logically impossible to force someone to do something freely.
 
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1pe 1:2Elect according to the FOREKNOWLEDGE of God the Father, through sanctification of the Spirit, unto obedience and sprinkling of the blood of Jesus Christ: Grace unto you, and peace, be multiplied.
 
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concernedguy

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This passage of scripture has bothered me ever since I was a teenager.
It seems like Paul is saying that God decides beforehand whether
He is going to like us or hate us, and really makes everyone as they are.
Also that we can't question it because He is the one who decides.

True, it is fully His right to decide how to make us and what to use us for.
But where does it leave the person who isn't chosen, who God chooses to hate?

You may say "Well that person has chosen to be like that"
But can you honestly still say that when God has done the making?
Look at Pharoah, God even hardened his heart against the Israelites.

So, what do you do if you are one of those unlucky ones that God has chosen to hate (Pharoah, Essau etc)
Can you really do anything about it?

How do you know for sure that God hasn't intended you for destruction no matter what?

Please help me to understand this scripture better.

God gives us the free will to decide if we will choose Him or not. In the Bible, God almost always sent
a messenger to those He may judge prior to judging them because God always wants to give us the
chance to choose Him or not.

Once God had revealed Himself to those He might judge if they decide not to turn from their evil ways,
He then judged them as God after seeing and knowing their disregard for God and His Statues. But God
only judged after offering an opportunity to repent.

Like the pharaoh in Egypt that would not let God's People go. God warned the pharaoh several times.
But He wouldn't listen. God could have done as He has done before and removed His Children and then
destroyed the nation of Egypt. The fact that God only punished them but did not destroy them
demonstrates God's tolerance but that He will only tolerate it to a point as the destruction of Sodom and
Gomorrah demonstrate God's judgment once a nation has proven their hatred of God's Statues.

God does create us but the reason for the flaws in our personalities is due to the influence of the sin
nature we all have. This is a form of judgment from God based on our fall from grace. God lets our
sin nature destroy us if we do not turn to Him for forgiveness.

I believe predestination just means that all of mankind was - before the fall - predestined to be in
heaven with God but our fall from grace robbed us of that automatic blessing. Now, due to our fall from
grace, only those that choose God can be forgiven and are able to regain their predestination as Sons
of God and the gift of heaven.
I don't get caught up in this discussion on a meaningless subject to me. Christ said, Repent, Believe on
Me and receive the gift of eternal life. If everyone was preordained to go to heaven or hell, it doesn't
make sense to create a creation that everything was already decided about. Since God misses His
relationship with us, why make Himself wait for us to live our lives just so we can be with Him when
there is no need because He already knows which of us will go to heaven. This is a confusing concept
and I believe the devil uses it to confuse many Christians so they are too confused to follow Christ.

Jesus commanded us to tell others about Him till we reach the entire world. Predestination or the lack
of it has nothing to do with our following Christ.

I focus on the saving message of Christ. It is very simple and easy to understand. But I can say that
the act of accepting or rejecting Christ predetermines your eternal existence. I suggest we focus on the
simplicity of Jesus and not those things we may not be able to understand till we have our spiritual
bodies in heaven. Don't give satan an opening to confuse you about something that is unimportant.

What is important is - Have you chosen Christ as your Lord and Saviour?

This is the only true question that everyone needs to answer. If the answer is yes, predestination
doesn't matter since you are in heaven any way.
 
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concernedguy

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It's logically impossible to force someone to do something freely.

This argument has been around for years. How can God say we are free to choose Him if in not choosing Him
we are punished?

I don't have an absolute answer. But I can say that God does own His creation regardless of its rejection
of Him. Perhaps this argument is best stated as:

I am God, your God. You belong to Me. If you do not, you deserve to be lost in hell for all eternity if you
reject Me and My Blessings of eternal life and heaven.

The main argument by man is that God doesn't have the right to give man the freedom to make a decision
that only has two answers - heaven or hell - which in most cases, man wants neither.

Like God said, My Ways are higher than yours.
 
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Definition_Christ

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This argument has been around for years. How can God say we are free to choose Him if in not choosing Him
we are punished?

I don't have an absolute answer. But I can say that God does own His creation regardless of its rejection
of Him. Perhaps this argument is best stated as:

I am God, your God. You belong to Me. If you do not, you deserve to be lost in hell for all eternity if you
reject Me and My Blessings of eternal life and heaven.

The main argument by man is that God doesn't have the right to give man the freedom to make a decision
that only has two answers - heaven or hell - which in most cases, man wants neither.

Like God said, My Ways are higher than yours.
You can't force someone to willingly[/U love somebody, otherwise it wouldn't be a willing act, which would be a salvation issue. God does not force Himself on us. He gives us the chance to choose to follow Him. Also I don't know how you see it as being used against your beliefs, it seems to agree with you. If it is an argument; it's arguing against predestination - the calvinist version.

Joshua 24:15
And if it seems evil to you to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”
 
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greatkraw

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2 Peter 3:9 (New King James Version)

9 The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us,not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.
 
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concernedguy

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You can't force someone to willingly[/U love somebody, otherwise it wouldn't be a willing act, which would be a salvation issue. God does not force Himself on us. He gives us the chance to choose to follow Him. Also I don't know how you see it as being used against your beliefs, it seems to agree with you. If it is an argument; it's arguing against predestination - the calvinist version.

Joshua 24:15
And if it seems evil to you to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”



I don't see this as against my beliefs. My point was that God only offers love Me or don't. Heaven or hell.
Neither of which most people want as an option to choose. No one wants hell but no one wants to have
God tell them what to do either.

The argument I mentioned is that some say being forced to choose only one of these isn't freedom when
they don't want either one. They want a third option. But there isn't one.

To me its pointless. God has made His decision and given the choices He chose as options. Our opinion
doesn't matter. Like it or not its Take it or Leave it.
 
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Phoenix

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This argument was not around for years it only started to happen when wesley came in and started all this mumbo jumbo of the "good in us"
Clearly we see contradictory to what scripture teaches about us
 
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Maddog

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This argument was not around for years it only started to happen when wesley came in and started all this mumbo jumbo of the "good in us"
Actually, Wesley taught prevenient grace, whereby God extends His grace to sinners to enable their will to choose Him - but they are still free to reject Him.

As far as I know, it's only Pelagians who believe we can be good in our own right, independent of God.
 
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Phoenix

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Which Wesley is making man as powerful as God. which is not taught in scripture.
 
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It isn't that God just decided one day I'm going to hate these that are here in this ine and I'm going to love these that are over there standing in the corner. What it is saying is that God knows our future. God knows the ones who are going to love him and he knows the ones who are going to love satan instead of him.
 
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Phoenix

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Wesley is basically saying (in a nutshell) that we can choose to resist God's will(which is saying we are as powerful as him) which is not taught in scripture.
Before anyone decides to throw out John 3:16 i'll already talk about it. you need to see it in it's context at how it was written. before Jesus came the Jews were God's Chosen people(they did not choose God) then Jesus came into the world. remember it is a translation from Greek so we have to look at the word that is closest to the meaning in Hebrew which at the time is world not meaning the whole world but the gentiles. for salvation was first for the jew than the gentile.
@loveschild what you are implying with that means that God just sits back and says "oh i see he will choose me later in life so ill just sit back and watch" no that is not how God is. he chose us before the foundation of the world to be Holy and Blameless before Him in love. read romans 9
Look at with Lazerus. Did lazerus walk out of the tomb and say i'll choose you Christ.
No. he commanded Lazerus to come forth.
 
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dee133

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This has been debated in philosophy studies and classes for a long, long time. We may never know the answer because we now see through a glass darkly, but then we will see face to face. We're not to have all the answers or understanding in this life. We can try, and it's good to use our minds to think, ask, question and contemplate because that's what God gave us a mind for. However, if we can't come to a conclusion, it might be better to put our energies into the things we DO know for sure and work on getting those thiings right, like loving as we should love, giving what we have, forgiving and learning what God has put in front of us. I agree with the earlier post that said, "God created everything and can lay claim to it." Deep down, I believe we have a choice (in the short-term) but I also believe if we make the wrong choice, God can use that to accomplish what His plan is, so there possibly may not be a right or wrong choice with God. I'm speaking from my own experience and not from God or scripture. I have seen in my own life that even my wrong choices served a purpose in my life that otherwise would not have taught me or brought me to be who I am today in God. I'll leave the complicated things up to God and let Him choose.
 
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Maddog

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Wesley is basically saying (in a nutshell) that we can choose to resist God's will(which is saying we are as powerful as him)
He is saying that that without this extension of grace, no one can choose God. But with grace, they have the capacity to choose Him.

If it is God's will that men should be capable of a genuine choice in this matter, then I don't see at all how it makes man as powerful as Him.
 
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Phoenix

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Um really. i don't see anywhere in scripture where wesley is pulling that from.
Well let's use a scenario.
Lets say bob is not saved but God wants Him saved but Bob does not want to be saved so he is rejecting God's Grace. wesley's Teaching.

Where as what Scripture teaches is that if Bob was chosen before the foundation of the world he cannot resist God's Will. He will be saved.
 
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Where as what Scripture teaches is that if Bob was chosen before the foundation of the world he cannot resist God's Will. He will be saved.
Sorry friend, but scripture does not teach this, if this were true then universalem would be the truth not calvinism.

1st Timothy 2
3 For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour;
4 Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth.
 
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