I am one of those people who are "in a knot about it". After my kids were grown and I became elderly I found that after a day's work a glass of deep red wine, a rocking chair, and a good uplifting book was wonderful. I checked scripture, it agreed. My church said that if you do that, you may not be a member, we will just let you come to church. I decided I belong to God, first, God said OK, so I enjoy my glass of wine.
A young friend of mine is very upset because her elderly mother who has never drank before is over indulging every evening.
My Father could not have a glass of wine, he lost control and would have more so he couldn't have the first one. My son had too many glasses of wine, and smoked a pipe on top of it. He will soon be dead, cancer. I found that alcoholics can not have any alcohol, it is part of the disease that they can't have the first drink. What does scripture say about these things?
Wine is mentioned 257 times in the NRSV, and some of those scripture do talk about wine to relax and express joy.
I am completely bewildered!