Need Advice and answers

[rw44]

Hello everyone, this is my first post, and it's about to get serious real fast

So here it goes, I don't know what type of language is allowed on here so I'll be careful. Anyway I have a problem with looking at "explicit" things on the internet. I usually can resist for long periods of time (my longest being a year) but I want to be done forever. I feel so guilty about it, and sometimes I wonder if I keep falling into the same sin over and over again, if I'm not a true christian. This is killing me inside. I already struggle with depression and this is putting me over the top. I just want to die before I sin again. I feel like such a dissapointment to God
I guess what I'm asking is how have YOU overcame this sin in your life? I'm a even saved? Also, will God not allow me to marry if i continue in this? Please help. Thank you!

 

[nathan3]

Hey, if you feel, your a disappointment your not alone. Because all have fallen short of God's perfection. What we can do is Repent, of our sins and ask for forgiveness.


Ask as many times as necessary : remember its through belief upon Christ, and His precious blood He shed for us, that we have forgiveness of those sins. And that's it, your clean.

But, it dose sound like you have a habitual sin going. A year is a long time to go without that sin, compared to how far others have gone without sinning.

Just, don't make promises to God you can't keep, Instead; ask for strength through Christ to overcome the sin. If your studying God's words, and around fellow believers, your not in a place were you can readily commit sins. So try to change your environment.

Maybe move your computer to a more public place, like your living room; where you have your family there watching out for you.

Consider even talking to some one you can trust, who is against that sin, and will help you get over whatever it is.

And ultimately, you might want to get married and help you to stay away from that too.


Your no less a Christian then anyone here. Because No one is perfect, save Christ. It is the reason Christ came here and did what He did.

 

[nathan3]

When at first we don't succeed, try , try again. Asking God for strength to overcome those obstacles , and staying in His word everyday.

 

[dcontroversal]

Hello everyone, this is my first post, and it's about to get serious real fast

So here it goes, I don't know what type of language is allowed on here so I'll be careful. Anyway I have a problem with looking at "explicit" things on the internet. I usually can resist for long periods of time (my longest being a year) but I want to be done forever. I feel so guilty about it, and sometimes I wonder if I keep falling into the same sin over and over again, if I'm not a true christian. This is killing me inside. I already struggle with depression and this is putting me over the top. I just want to die before I sin again. I feel like such a dissapointment to God
I guess what I'm asking is how have YOU overcame this sin in your life? I'm a even saved? Also, will God not allow me to marry if i continue in this? Please help. Thank you!

The fact that you are convicted and want to change shows promise and divine spark. In the past when I tried to do things by my self without Christ I always failed. When I surrender to God's will and spend my time in prayer and studying the word of God 30 to 50 hours a week and let God lead my life it gets easy to say no to my own temptations and yes to what is right. Sex is a very powerful (thing) and the draw to a particular lifestyle involving sex is even more powerful, but you know what...Jesus is the God of power and greater is He that is in us than he that is in the world. we can do all things (biblical and godly) thru Christ which strengthens us. Don't give up and (keep giving her beans captain) set your face like flint and one day, one hour, one minute and yea even one second at a time keep the faith mi amigo.

 

[Laodicea]

Romans 6:16 KJV
(16) Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?


Overcoming is about surrender. When temptation comes none of us have power to overcome. If we surrender to God when tempted He will work in us.


Philippians 2:13 KJV
(13) For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.

 

[Simiel]

You have such a pure heart my friend.. There was a time when you did things and didn't blink a eye but now you do things and your heart convicts you. Your a new creation dead to sin and alive in Christ but we forget to renew our mind to our new man. Thinking that well we all fall short of the glory of God no that is deception. You fell short but when you came to Christ he put off your sin nature and gave you a new nature. God is never disappointed with you He loves you and is proud of you. The deceiver will always make you question yourself but know who you are a Son of God and every time you have those thoughts or temptation in your mind. Say thank your Farther from freeing me from sin and making me like you . Restoring me back to your image and dead to sin. Love you and hope this help. I know it will because I was in your shoes and I'm married 25 years old now got married at age 22

 

[Vernon]

we are all sinners who have failed God, the fact that you mourn because you have let God down is a sign that he is with you. If you didn't care that you sinned, then you could have reason to worry about your salvation. We are all struggling to keep our minds set on God and not stumble in the flesh. I would recommend reading Romans 4-8, St Paul understands what you are going through and so does The Lord.
Keep your mind constantly on God and his Son, Jesus Christ would be my best advice to keep away from sin.

 

[Karraster]

We all fall short of the glory of Yah.

Read the parable of the prodigal son. Note how the Father, seeing His son afar off, runs to greet him.

Repent, and turn from sin. (that's what repent means, it's not a feeling or thought, rather action)

We will be judged by Divine Law, not man's.

And no, He is not always pleased with us that's ridiculous! but oh how happy He is when we repent, and turn back to Him[SUP]. . Ecclesiastes 12: [/SUP][SUP]13 [/SUP]Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.
John 14:
If ye had known me, ye should have known my Father also: and from henceforth ye know him, and have seen him. 10.Believest thou not that I am in the Father, and the Father in me? 15. If ye love me, keep my commandments. 16And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever;

 

[38miles]

Type out James 4:7-10 on an index card. Read it and pray it multiple times each day. When you drive to school/work, when you sit down at a computer, take it out and put it right in front of you. You press into him in humility and He will lift you up out of this.

One way to humble yourself in the sight of The Lord is to tell others, as you are doing here. But even still, if you confess to another person in the flesh this will make you vulnerable, honest, and the act of confession will literally communicate to that sin that's found a dark place to hide, "Your day is done." Seek The light of Christ and He'll slay the dragon.


7 Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.
8 Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.
9 Lament and mourn and weep! Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom.
10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.

Praying for you brother...

 

[Hizikyah]

Hello everyone, this is my first post, and it's about to get serious real fast

So here it goes, I don't know what type of language is allowed on here so I'll be careful. Anyway I have a problem with looking at "explicit" things on the internet. I usually can resist for long periods of time (my longest being a year) but I want to be done forever. I feel so guilty about it, and sometimes I wonder if I keep falling into the same sin over and over again, if I'm not a true christian. This is killing me inside. I already struggle with depression and this is putting me over the top. I just want to die before I sin again. I feel like such a dissapointment to God
I guess what I'm asking is how have YOU overcame this sin in your life? I'm a even saved? Also, will God not allow me to marry if i continue in this? Please help. Thank you!

It is a right thing that we feel grieved when we sin, you and I both need to give our weaknesses to our Father and His Messiah, and then with the strength they give us cultivate righteousness until we are walking in the proper manner! Not making an excuse but nearly all men in the Scriptures had many problems, yet we can overcome it with the Spirit of Yahweh! Just remember walking with the Messiah is a life long journey and PROCESS! Stay in prayer and keep your head up!

 

[Angela53510]

May I suggest you find a male accountability partner? You can discuss and find out what motivates you to go back to this sin. And how you are still saved, because you are so aware that what you are doing is wrong, even if it tempts you back.

"There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." Romans 8:1

I would also like to remind you, that if Christ died while we were yet sinners, he is not going to lose you now, when you have committed your life to him.

"but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8

 

[ChosenbyHim]

Hello everyone, this is my first post, and it's about to get serious real fast

So here it goes, I don't know what type of language is allowed on here so I'll be careful. Anyway I have a problem with looking at "explicit" things on the internet. I usually can resist for long periods of time (my longest being a year) but I want to be done forever. I feel so guilty about it, and sometimes I wonder if I keep falling into the same sin over and over again, if I'm not a true christian. This is killing me inside. I already struggle with depression and this is putting me over the top. I just want to die before I sin again. I feel like such a dissapointment to God
I guess what I'm asking is how have YOU overcame this sin in your life? I'm a even saved? Also, will God not allow me to marry if i continue in this? Please help. Thank you!

Hello there RW44,

This may help. I recommend that you take the time to listen to the sermon where I share a link below:

The Pornography Epidemic - SermonAudio.com

 

[ChosenbyHim]

Also RW44, I see that you also asked whether you were saved or not. And the thing is this: was there a time in your life where you came to God as a sinner and asked Him to save you? Have you trusted in The Lord Jesus Christ for your salvation?


There are Christians out there who struggle with sin more than others.


Just because a person gets saved, that does not mean that he no longer has to deal with his old sin nature. In fact, his old sin nature still remains in his flesh. And at salvation; while a person's soul gets redeemed, also understand that that same person's flesh does not get redeemed. That's why we must crucify the old man. And we must do it daily.


Furthermore, one way a person can know that he is saved is by the fact that when he sins, he does not get away with it. If you are a genuine child of God; then when you sin, the Lord Will scourge and chasten you for it:



Hebrews 12:5-11 KJV
And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: [6] Forwhom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. [7] If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? [8] But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. [9] Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us , and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? [10] For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness. [11] Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.


And yes there is a great, great chance that you will not be given a wife if you continue in this sin. Why? Well because it will only hurt you and it would also hurt your future spouse as well. If you want to be blessed with a prudent wife from the Lord, well then you need to overcome this issue and sin of lust that right now has you under its control.

 

[Cobus]

rw44, I was in the same boat you are in now. I will share how God removed the sin from me and me from the sin. But I will start with how this came into my life.

When I was coming into puberty I was molested by a gay man. The moment it started God told me to wake my mother and tell her that the man is doing wrong to me. I was to ashamed and from school I learned ALL BOYS DO THIS.... FALSE!!!! Any way I did not listen to God and the man did this wrong to me, a few times in that year.


I was now sexually awakened, but NEVER liked men. I became obsessed with "sexy" women and how to get them to bed. ALL ungodly sex is evil. And Satan has many kinds of evil spirits in the sexual department... adultery, sodomy, whoring, wrong dressing, mind-sex, masterbation etc etc. ALL these sin is against GODLY SEX between one man and one woman in marriage.


So I was "posessed" by this flesh lust to want sex with all "sexy" women. And I LOVED the naked girls in x-rated movies. I chreated on my wife MANY times and I had almost no control over my sex-drive. Then one evening God decided to step in and show me a few things....

First let me tell you... God know ALL about you. Even as you sit there reading this now, there are thousands of eyes on you. God and His angels can see you even when you are in a dark room on a bed in a lonely Motel. If you think of a sexy woman lieing on a bed in a dark room, God and His angels know ALL ABOUT IT! We CANNOT hide from God. We cannot lust after a woman and think God would not know. God and His angels know every thought we have. God can show the angles our thoughts. And if we repent, they are joyouss with God in heaven. So they also know when we repent from the sin.


One evening when I was lusting for a beautiful woman on RED SHOE DIARIES, I felt the eayes of the angels on me. and I knew God can see my lust all over me.... Oh boy was that a shock! I said... God so you SAW ME ALL THE TIME... WOW! Was I ashamed, but then God can wash even the conscience, and that has NEVER to come up again. Not only HE would think about it again.... Now that is RELEASE and MADE FREE from that part of my life....


An so came one Sunday after church, when I prayed with a friend who had the same problem. God said, IF YOU PRAY NOW I WILL SEVERE THE HOLD OF SATAN ON YOU BOTH.... It is now 15 years later and we are BOTH STILL free from wnating ungodly sex....


If you need more from me, you may ask and I will share how God truly MAKE FREE!

here is my prayer for you.... Lord Jesus you are the Lord of Truth and God's will, Lord help us to be in Your will. Let THOU will be done in us, Amen!

 

[4enlightment]

Hello everyone, this is my first post, and it's about to get serious real fast

So here it goes, I don't know what type of language is allowed on here so I'll be careful. Anyway I have a problem with looking at "explicit" things on the internet. I usually can resist for long periods of time (my longest being a year) but I want to be done forever. I feel so guilty about it, and sometimes I wonder if I keep falling into the same sin over and over again, if I'm not a true christian. This is killing me inside. I already struggle with depression and this is putting me over the top. I just want to die before I sin again. I feel like such a dissapointment to God
I guess what I'm asking is how have YOU overcame this sin in your life? I'm a even saved? Also, will God not allow me to marry if i continue in this? Please help. Thank you!

The foods that we eat, plays a major role in our lives. So you should eat Natural organic kosher foods and stay away from faucet water, and do a lot of walking; and read the scriptures daily and workout. That should help.

 

[jag1977]

Hello everyone, this is my first post, and it's about to get serious real fast

So here it goes, I don't know what type of language is allowed on here so I'll be careful. Anyway I have a problem with looking at "explicit" things on the internet. I usually can resist for long periods of time (my longest being a year) but I want to be done forever. I feel so guilty about it, and sometimes I wonder if I keep falling into the same sin over and over again, if I'm not a true christian. This is killing me inside. I already struggle with depression and this is putting me over the top. I just want to die before I sin again. I feel like such a dissapointment to God
I guess what I'm asking is how have YOU overcame this sin in your life? I'm a even saved? Also, will God not allow me to marry if i continue in this? Please help. Thank you!

Free from gravity! You have not been tethered by the Lord! That is them trying to draw you back to bondage. Go and remain free. God gives you meat. Nourish your spirit. Refrain from being drawn back to the world. Marry and stay free from the Lord's wrath.