Were You Bullied As A Child Or Made Fun Of ?

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I have had one experience that hurt my feelings so much I never did
forget. I was about a Sophomore in high school. I had to wait after
school for the bus to ride home.
I had a cousin whose mother would send me some of her clothes she
out grew. One particular one was a Red Gaberdine Coat. I did not
like it, but had to wear it anyway.

I was in the lunch room waiting for my school bus to come and in
walked two Senior guys. They went straight for that coat and held
it up and laughed and hung it back up. I wanted to cry I was so hurt.
That image still stays in my mind. And to the day I do not like gaberdine.
I suppose they were after their own jackets, and I assume they thought
it was ugly too.

Okay, I know.... I should have been grateful I had a coat. But, you let
2 school jocks pick your coat up and laugh holding it, I imagine some
would feel ashamed of it as I did.

Have I repented and forgiven them. Yes. It was school. I learned
we can forgive, but not forget. I am certain the Lord had a reason
for that experience. It is a part of life isn't it ? Not all is perfect.


You know I had to deal with a few idiots in school as well and at the end of the day I finally realized that who cares what someone thinks or thought concerning my clothes, what I look like etc. Today it seems that a lot of (ADULTS) still play games like they are still 15 and in high school....like I say...I graduated in 85 and I will not play stOOpid school games and or participate in immature foolishness...

Now I did break a few noses and blacked both eyes on a few of the idiots that I had to deal with in school...that is the big regret that I have as a servant of the Lord must not be a fighter!

That does not mean that I wont call it like it is and or make a few (sarcastic) comments every now and then ;)

Yeah I know how to spell (stupid)!
 
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J-Kay-2

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#22
You know I had to deal with a few idiots in school as well and at the end of the day I finally realized that who cares what someone thinks or thought concerning my clothes, what I look like etc. Today it seems that a lot of (ADULTS) still play games like they are still 15 and in high school....like I say...I graduated in 85 and I will not play stOOpid school games and or participate in immature foolishness...

Now I did break a few noses and blacked both eyes on a few of the idiots that I had to deal with in school...that is the big regret that I have as a servant of the Lord must not be a fighter!

That does not mean that I wont call it like it is and or make a few (sarcastic) comments every now and then ;)

Yeah I know how to spell (stupid)!

I am so glad I met my match... Stoopid.... Seriously I understand where you are
coming from regarding the off the cuff comments when we are riled enough.

Clothing, you have nothing to worry about because your Marine Uniform gives
you a leg up on some who won't show what they look like. I really understand
why, before Christ, the fighting those making comments you found unpleasant.

I never hit anyone, but... I sure did want too. However, I held it in and went
home and cried and to this day still become ill from stressful issues.

As far as anger, we know the Word tells us 'righteous indignation' is going
to occur. Oh, how relieved I am you know how to spell 'stupid.' LOL
 
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J-Kay-2

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#23
Would you consider being accused of doing something you did not do
as being bullied ? No matter how strongly you plead your innocence ?
Just the fact it was said to others, the classmates still look at you as
guilty ?
 
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I go to therapy every 2 weeks... most ppl say that our abuse wasn't bad...But are therapist who has delt with other abused kids say that ours is the worst..
I'm so sorry for what you must have went through, and at such a young age. I was bullied too, but I don't think I had it as bad as some others did. God bless you and I hope that you'll be able to heal completely from this. With God's help it is possible. God bless.
 
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preacha24_7

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I think everyone in the united states has been bullied at least one time in their life. Life for me has never been easy. My dad was in the Air Force so every 3 to 4 years I had to move somewhere else. It was nice to meet kids from different nationalities, but school was difficult for me. I wasn't very popular and kids made fun of me all the time. By the time I started middle school I made up my mind any kid that tried to bully me was gonna get punched in the face. I know that doesn't sound very christian like, but you'll never understand me unless you walked in my shoes. High school was pure hell. The teachers were mean and the kids were even meaner. I got into fights every week. WheniI tried to explain to my teachers that i tried to avoid fights but kids kept picking on me the teachers didn't even believe me. The strange thing is it was some of the popular kids who were doing the bullying. High school was a wake up call for me. I learned at the age of 14 that being a christian means that sometimes people will make fun of you and say very mean things to you. Some people are haunted by their past. God healed me from the bad memories of my past. I used to fight with my fists but now I fight with the Word of God. To God be all glory, honor, and praise. Thank you Jesus that I'm forgiven and my past sins and mistakes are covered by your blood. Time healsall wounds. So if you're haunted by your past ask the Lord to set you free. Believe he will do it. I gotta go. I've been mowing grass and washing clothes I'm tired. God bless Preacha24-7
 
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danalee

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I'm a teacher too (relief teacher, presently). I know how destructive bullying is, so I don't allow bullying. Not one iota of it!

Yay....I would've loved to have you as my teacher.
 
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danalee

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I go to therapy every 2 weeks... most ppl say that our abuse wasn't bad...But are therapist who has delt with other abused kids say that ours is the worst..
Oh good, good. I'm so glad you are being taken care of. Praise God.
 
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Some of us have had past experiences before Christ became
our Savior. I wonder if you were bullied and or maybe the bully.

How did you handle the situation ? How did it make you feel ?
Does anything in particular still haunt your memory that hurt you ?

I know I have some I never have forgotten.. All in high school days.


I was bullied. I was challenged by bigger kids daily, they were always in a group, until one day, when I was in ninth grade, one of the bullys called to me to come over, but he was alone, and thought since I was easy pickens before that it would be the same this time......Oh hell no! I laid into that S.O.B. with such a pent up fury that it scared my girlfriend. I knocked him to the ground and beat the tar out of him, till he cried like a baby. After that, I was never bothered again........ah, because I looked up every single one of the "gang" and told him I was waiting until he was alone, and then it was his turn. I was free of bullying after that, although I did have one fight after that, but that was his mistake and he knew it about ten seconds into the fight. Hurt initially? Yes , of course. I felt powerless, as there were always too many of them to deal with and I always succumbed to their whims and usually got a bloody nose or split lip for my trouble and always with my girlfriend in audience.
Till that one day, that wonderful hot sunny day in 1967, when I won my honor and my girlfriend's trust in my fortitude back.
True story.
 
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Ive never been repeatedly bullied. I feel like I have all the 'traits' of one who would get bullied. Im quiet and i dont have a lot of friends. ive never had a lot of friends, but people seem to like me. Every time my name was called in elementary school to do a class presentation people would chant my name. That carried on into middle school where i was at a different school.
the most bullying I have taken was bullying of myself, i would always be down on myself.

this one time when I was about 7, i was telling my teammates at baseball about this book we were reading in school. I was teaching them all about ants, and how strong they are and how they work as a team to lift things bigger than them. Then out of no where this kid says all loud, "ARE ANTS STRONG ENOUGH TO PICK UP THE WORLD!?" and he said it sarcastically and everyone laughed. That hurt me because I was so passionate and they didn't care.

Wow I havent thought of that in a while. God bless those kids. Jesus name
 

Toska

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Wow, what you said about befriending bully victims really touches my heart. God bless you for that. And for not allowing it in your classroom. I wish I had a friend like you when I was growing up.
Thank you. At the time, I honestly did not know I was doing something good. I only hated seeing others being picked on or not having any friends so I would befriend them. It is only looking back that I realize I was doing something that others would consider to be a positive thing.
 

Toska

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I do think our experiences shape our views and opinions, and help create the people we are. From what I've read of you J-Kay-2, I perceive you to be a kind and sensitive lady, and one quite aware of peoples feelings. The world would be a better place with more of that mindset.:)

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I couldn't agree more with your description of J~K. She is a very kind, caring person who seems to just know when someone else is hurting or in need of a friend.
 

Toska

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I'm a teacher too (relief teacher, presently). I know how destructive bullying is, so I don't allow bullying. Not one iota of it!
Good for you! I won't stand for it either and my students know it. At the first hint of any bullying, that student is gone from my room to the dean of students. I will not tolerate it EVER.
 

myfriendtiny

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I'm so sorry for what you must have went through, and at such a young age. I was bullied too, but I don't think I had it as bad as some others did. God bless you and I hope that you'll be able to heal completely from this. With God's help it is possible. God bless.
I am healing With God's help..Because everything is possible through him.. so i am trusting him with everything that i need help in...I am sure that my abuse wasn't as bad as other either...
 
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I am so sorry for being late reading all the replies about bullies, etc.
I know for the younger generation it is most difficult time in life ever.
The world is so full of hatred and anger. My husband and I notice this
a lot in the store or on TV. Seems people just get angry more easily.

I wanted to comment that I don't dwell on things that happened to me
in high school. One seemed to imply that maybe I do. No, I don't it just
came to mind. Seemed like a good topic to start. Now I just dwell on
the big bullies of today. God help us love everyone. It is said "we
always hurt the one we love." Well, sometimes I want to say... if this is
love, I am not sure I want it. That is for another time. ~ J~K~2
 
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To my regret I was the one making fun of people and part of the cool crowd. I regret every moment of it.
 
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To my regret I was the one making fun of people and part of the cool crowd. I regret every moment of it.
Ahhhh, Kerry, but you are forgiven and repentant, that is all that matters now.
Where you may have made fun of someone and live with regret to this day, some
of us have done some things far worse and like you, feel remorse.
Bless your heart, you do know you are forgiven don't you ? (( HUGS)) ~J~K~2

 
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I just lost a friend to death. We were friends from grade school
up to this past month. She died. We went through high school together
and it was there she 'bullied' me in her controlling way. She was leader
of the clique. I was a part of the clique. But, I could not mistreat anyone
nor did I care that she did not want the other girls not speak to someone
because she was mad at them. I was her 'chosen' one to be bullied more
than once. I went home sobbing many times. I dislike hurting people and
dislike being hurt. But, I have learned "Life Happens."

I was blessed to come from a good loving home, and even though I lived
on a farm, my father worked at jobs other than farming, so his income
was good. I never lacked for anything. I didn't get all I wanted, but
I was not poor. I had a heart for poor people. I was friends with them.
I would take a poor friend home to spend the night with me. I shared
here not long ago, my mother said she never knew who I was bringing
home. But, I am glad I could be friends with everyone no matter the
color of skin, or good clothing, or poorly dressed.

My friend as I said died 3 weeks ago. She still had a controlling
personality, but I grew up. I did not care anymore if she did not
call me for few months. I knew she would get over it. Sadly she
had a good heart when she wanted to be kind. The tongue does
tend to be forked as the old saying goes. He/She speaks with
forked tongue.

Forgiveness is most important lesson I have learned through all
these years and yes it was painful at times, but Jesus always has
a way of pouring His precious spirit of tender love over us and
carry us through life. Thank you Jesus. ~ J~K~2
 
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it makes me sad to see someone being bullied, and sad for the scars it left.
 

myfriendtiny

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I have lost a brother and a sister to abuse....before I was adopted that is.....
 

shrimp

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My whole life! when I was in kindergarten, There was a bot who was severely bullied by THE WHOLE SCHOOL because he pooped his pants daily. I was the only one who stood against the bullying and, in turn was bullied by the whole school. In the same time a girl in my class really had it in for me. when I built a pyramid with blocks, she'd come out of the blue and knock it down. That is just one of the many things she did. Then, because my mother couldn't keep away from having sex and drinking and doing drugs with other people, I was bullied by those people and their kids.

I moved to Alaska lived in a village and was bullied because I'm beige (white to most) and not a native american plus I was the cop's daughter. One boy slammed my face into the gym floor (I did instigate a little but mostly because he was making fun of me first), My nose didn't break but it did bleed. Moved to another village, they were a little more tolerant, but still made fun of me for being the cop's daughter.

Middle School, I moved back with my mother and my brother and others in school accused me of being a whore and a lesbian and really made fun of me and smeared me through the proverbial mud. As far as the whore accusations, I was not appropriate in my dress and behavior, However, the reason why they said that I was a lesbian was because my only friend, at the time, was a bi-sexual. Guilty by association, I suppose.

I tried to go to counseling and tell them what had been happening in my life, and my mother and brother got offended at what I told the counselor (my mother was present) and ganged up on me after I got home.

When I moved back to AK, because of the bad choices I made, my step mother verbally and emotionally abused me and my father allowed it, sometimes participating, and the left me at the house 5 miles out of the village all day without other human contact. I saw people (other than my dad and step-mom) twice, maybe three times a week. I washed dishes did schoolwork picked berries, walked, dug holes for my dad, worked with our 12 dogs, prayed, read my Bible and other books, contemplated how I could kill them and myself, decided that God would not be happy if I did that and He's my only true friend, dreaming of being a part of a community and doing something for God and others, hiding by the road to see people drive by on four wheelers, chasing squirrels (breaking my big toe in the process), etc.

When I could finally leave my parents, I did and I moved in with my grandparents. I got a better education, I made friends and hung out with them, and I grew to be more independent. Unfortunately, I lost touch with my true friend and did some things I'm not proud of. I was bullied in High School (this was where I had to be put because I was already 18/19 years old and had a 7th grade level understanding in academics). There was a girl in Art class, she was a senior and I was a junior, she was constantly complaining about a guy texting her all of the time and she had been making fun of how my hair and clothes were. So, one day, towards the end of the class after her complaining about this guy, she said "It's probably because I'm so beautiful." to which I then responded "It's probably because you look like a slut" I got held after class for that even though she called me the B-word. The teacher was very understanding of my position and told me that sometimes even if what is on our mind is correct, we can't always say what is on our mind and she and I picked a new seat for me to sit for the rest of the semester. However, the bullying from the girl and her cronies amplified, to which I just smiled and turned the other cheek, reminding myself that those girls are most likely to get pregnant by some doofus, miss out on life, end up in drugs, and live on welfare.

My senior year, there was another girl who was highly rude to myself and others, needless to say shrimp does not like to be disrespected or treated poorly, so I told her exactly what was on my mind and didn't hold back. I demanded the respect that I gave others. Graduation practices, I had to use the restroom I was smack dab in the middle of the row and on either side of me were vicious, rude girls. So, it didn't matter which direction I took, I was going to pay. I chose the end of the row closest to the bathroom. Makes sense, right? Well you remember that rude girl, she was on that end. Needless to say she was rude to me, I retorted, she told me to shut up, and I told her to make me.

The saga continues, as life drags on. Now I know better than to let them bother my mind and spirit. Let it roll of like water off a duck, I like to say. That doesn't mean that I don't fail sometimes, but I do try.