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Princess708

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Can a cristian gets married with someone whis not christian?
 

prove-all

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i believe you can, have to work together harder though
 

Timeline

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Can a cristian gets married with someone whis not christian?
Paul advises us not to get married at all, if we are not tempted (you know what he' talking about), even with a Christian. This, of course, was not a command, but Paul says that when we get married that our attention is divided because we have to please God and our spouse. He does say that if you do marry (I believe he is thinking of a Christian here) then you do not sin.

There is a verse that says not to be unequally yoked. Meaning, I believe, that we should not join ourselves to a non-Christian.
But he also says that if you are married to a non-believer, then do not seek to be separated. But if the non-believer wants to leave then let them leave. Now, I think that it would be very wise not to marry a non-Christian. Our struggles are hard enough without being bound to someone that does not believe in God.

Apparently you or someone you love is thinking about this. Pray. And consider seriously the grief that you or your loved may be subject to due to this decision. God does not like divorce and, quite frankly, we see enough instability among "Christians" these days.
 

Agricola

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Yes lets all stay single and let the human race die out.

Pauls advice on staying single is more to do with the persecution Christians faced. If someone went out spreading the gospel, chances are that person would end up dead or in prison. If married and with kids, it would then be easier to emotionally blackmail that person, especailly with threats made against the family.

God wants us to be happy with a spouse, as long as God is in the centre of the marriage then its no problem. Marrying a non-beleiver is not going to work out too good, even with an understanding spouse, there is already the problems of compromise and not being able to devote 100% to Christian life.
 

Billyd

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My answer to your question is yes, but Paul cautions against it. Read 2 Corinthians 6:14.
 

Timeline

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Yes lets all stay single and let the human race die out.

Pauls advice on staying single is more to do with the persecution Christians faced. If someone went out spreading the gospel, chances are that person would end up dead or in prison. If married and with kids, it would then be easier to emotionally blackmail that person, especailly with threats made against the family.

God wants us to be happy with a spouse, as long as God is in the centre of the marriage then its no problem. Marrying a non-beleiver is not going to work out too good, even with an understanding spouse, there is already the problems of compromise and not being able to devote 100% to Christian life.
Ahhh, but some are happy serving God completely, without distractions (not that family isn't a pleasant distraction). I just quoted Paul. You do bring up a good point in regard to persecution. But Paul does make it clear that we are more free to serve if we are not bound.

I do not suggest that people stop marrying, but don't you think we will all "die out" when the end comes :) (physically I hope, not being subject to the second death)
 
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Larry_Stotle

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Yes lets all stay single and let the human race die out.

Pauls advice on staying single is more to do with the persecution Christians faced. If someone went out spreading the gospel, chances are that person would end up dead or in prison. If married and with kids, it would then be easier to emotionally blackmail that person, especailly with threats made against the family.

God wants us to be happy with a spouse, as long as God is in the centre of the marriage then its no problem. Marrying a non-beleiver is not going to work out too good, even with an understanding spouse, there is already the problems of compromise and not being able to devote 100% to Christian life.
Give the monkey a banana.

He is quite right, Paul's advice was for the people living pre 70AD because the church was undergoing heavy persecution:

(1 Cor 7:26 KJV) I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

(1 Cor 7:27 KJV) Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
 

Timeline

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Give the monkey a banana.

He is quite right, Paul's advice was for the people living pre 70AD because the church was undergoing heavy persecution:

(1 Cor 7:26 KJV) I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

(1 Cor 7:27 KJV) Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
Actually, unless I missed something, all three of us are right:

I Corinthians 7
Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. [SUP]2[/SUP]But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. [SUP]3 [/SUP]The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. [SUP]4 [/SUP]The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. [SUP]5 [/SUP]Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. [SUP]6 [/SUP]But this I say by way of concession, not of command. [SUP]7 [/SUP]Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that.[SUP]8 [/SUP]But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. [SUP]9 [/SUP]But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
[SUP]10 [/SUP]But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband [SUP]11 [/SUP](but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife.
[SUP]12 [/SUP]But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. [SUP]13 [/SUP]And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. [SUP]14 [/SUP]For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. [SUP]15 [/SUP]Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

[SUP]17 [/SUP]Only, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each, in this manner let him walk. And so I direct in all the churches. [SUP]18 [/SUP]Was any man called when he was already circumcised? He is not to become uncircumcised. Has anyone been called in uncircumcision? He is not to be circumcised. [SUP]19 [/SUP]Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but what matters is the keeping of the commandments of God. [SUP]20 [/SUP]Each man must remain in that condition in which he was called.
[SUP]21 [/SUP]Were you called while a slave? Do not worry about it; but if you are able also to become free, rather do that. [SUP]22 [/SUP]For he who was called in the Lord while a slave, is the Lord’s freedman; likewise he who was called while free, is Christ’s slave. [SUP]23 [/SUP]You were bought with a price; do not become slaves of men. [SUP]24 [/SUP]Brethren, each one is to remain with God in that condition in which he was called.
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Now concerning virgins I have no command of the Lord, but I give an opinion as one who by the mercy of the Lord is trustworthy. [SUP]26 [/SUP]I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. [SUP]27 [/SUP]Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. [SUP]28 [/SUP]But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you. [SUP]29 [/SUP]But this I say, brethren, the time has been shortened, so that from now on those who have wives should be as though they had none; [SUP]30 [/SUP]and those who weep, as though they did not weep; and those who rejoice, as though they did not rejoice; and those who buy, as though they did not possess; [SUP]31 [/SUP]and those who use the world, as though they did not make full use of it; for the form of this world is passing away.
[SUP]32 [/SUP]But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; [SUP]33 [/SUP]but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, [SUP]34 [/SUP]and his interests are divided. The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband. [SUP]35 [/SUP]This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord.
 
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Larry_Stotle

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Interesting verse in what you posted there TM

(1 Cor 7:29 KJV) But this I say, brethren, the time is short -it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;

(Mat 24:22 KJV) And except those days should be shortened, there should no flesh be saved: but for the elect's sake those days shall be shortened.

(Rom 9:28 KJV) For he will finish the work, and cut it short in righteousness: because a short work will the Lord make upon the earth.

All points to a 70 AD eschaton.
 

Timeline

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Interesting verse in what you posted there TM

(1 Cor 7:29 KJV) But this I say, brethren, the time is short -it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;

(Mat 24:22 KJV) And except those days should be shortened, there should no flesh be saved: but for the elect's sake those days shall be shortened.

(Rom 9:28 KJV) For he will finish the work, and cut it short in righteousness: because a short work will the Lord make upon the earth.

All points to a 70 AD eschaton.
:) You didn't know? I already believe that (at least I'm pretty sure I do - I don't really know what "eschaton" means:p).

Not really a fan of big words. Especially, big words that I haven't found in the bible. I learn the definition of "big words" on a need-to-know basis. Is there a reason that I should add this one to "my personal dictionary"? :confused:
 

santuzza

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It is best if a Christian marry another Christian. Of course you CAN marry an unbeliever, but your life will be difficult. There are two women in my church who married unbelievers, and they both regret the decision.

The idea of being unequally yoked is quite valid. If you marry someone who does not have the same faith values that you have, you are bound to have conflict.
 
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phil112

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Can a cristian gets married with someone whis not christian?
Short answer: yes. Long answer: grief ahead. Not a sin to do so, but it is not smart to do it either. Timeline's initial response to quote Paul was good advice. Paul is THE man to confer with about such things. Study what Paul had to say in the 7th chapter of 1st Corinthians closely.
 
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Larry_Stotle

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:) You didn't know? I already believe that (at least I'm pretty sure I do - I don't really know what "eschaton" means:p).

Not really a fan of big words. Especially, big words that I haven't found in the bible. I learn the definition of "big words" on a need-to-know basis. Is there a reason that I should add this one to "my personal dictionary"? :confused:
I never really took notice of Paul's statement in 1 Cor 7:29 TM, but it surely is a statement of soon coming end or eschaton.


G2078 eschatos es'-khat-os

a superlative probably from G2192 (in the sense of contiguity);

farthest, final (of place or time):--ends of, last, latter end, lowest, uttermost.



 
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Larry_Stotle

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Equally yoked might have meant something in the time of Paul, but with all the different denominations out there one has to wonder.

My nightmare - married to a pentecostal sabbath keeping, bacon rejecting woman...:p
 

Timeline

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I never really took notice of Paul's statement in 1 Cor 7:29 TM, but it surely is a statement of soon coming end or eschaton.


G2078 eschatos es'-khat-os

a superlative probably from G2192 (in the sense of contiguity);

farthest, final (of place or time):--ends of, last, latter end, lowest, uttermost.



Yes, then eschaton it is:)

Now I just hope I don't hafta pronounce it.
 
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phil112

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Give the monkey a banana.

He is quite right, Paul's advice was for the people living pre 70AD because the church was undergoing heavy persecution:

(1 Cor 7:26 KJV) I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

(1 Cor 7:27 KJV) Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
Paul's advice was for all of us, not just those at that time. You are reading something into scripture that isn't there. The whole question/answer discussion was about relationships.
When he said "the present distress" he was speaking about the state of the relationship, not what people around them thought, or were doing. That had nothing to do with Paul's discourse.
He was giving instruction and advice that applied directly to the two people in the relationship. Period.
 
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Larry_Stotle

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Paul's advice was for all of us, not just those at that time. You are reading something into scripture that isn't there. The whole question/answer discussion was about relationships.
When he said "the present distress" he was speaking about the state of the relationship, not what people around them thought, or were doing. That had nothing to do with Paul's discourse.
He was giving instruction and advice that applied directly to the two people in the relationship. Period.
Some of it is applicable today - but Paul's states the present distress - to ignore that or the implications is to leave out context:

1 Cor 7:26 KJV) I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

(1 Cor 7:29 KJV) But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none

I'd doubt whether this advice today would go down well with the missus - "that both they that have wives be as though they had none"
 

crossnote

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Give the monkey a banana.

He is quite right, Paul's advice was for the people living pre 70AD because the church was undergoing heavy persecution:

(1 Cor 7:26 KJV) I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

(1 Cor 7:27 KJV) Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
I suppose 'be fruitful, multiply and fill the earth' was also fulfilled in 70AD? :confused:
 
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2Thewaters

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Getting married a few days before the plagues is a bad move.
 
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