damaged relationships

[just-me]

What does it take to salvage relationships in family, the work place, and community when you shed light on darkness?

Shedding the light on darkness is how to love others so the barrier between the individual and God can be taken down by Christ Jesus who is the light.

John 9:5 As long as I am in the world, I am the light of the world.

Today, we are the light. Can we expect to be a reject? Discussion of experiences will be helpful to all that read this thread, for we all have experienced this in one way or another.

Matthew 5:14-16
14 Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid .
15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.
16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

1 Thessalonians 5:5 Ye are all the children of light, and the children of the day: we are not of the night, nor of darkness.

 

[2Thewaters]

You cant for you caused the damage
everything you touch will make it worse

Just go to Jesus
forgive and forget
and ask Jesus how you can help the one you hurt

you need to go and say you are sorry for all your bad actions
and ask them how you can make things somewhat right.
and do that
then forever afterward
esteem them better than yourself and help them

sometimes it is a little late and they will leave.

but if you pray
God will make trials come on the other until they are forced to come to you for help

dont blow it again though.
be born again

how?

KNEEL DOWN
ask God to be your God
give him your whole life and tell him you want to be his forever and you will do whatever he says
then read your Bible to see what he says for you to do each day
mark it in read
and do what you can.
Be Jesus on earth
practice being Jesus on earth as much as you can.
b grace of course

and ALWAYS give credit to God

example

Thank you for doing that for me!
O, God helped me and gave me the idea.

praise God.

 

[2Thewaters]

Wherever you go always turn their minds to Jesus

unless you are a evil christian who lives lke the devil then please do not mention Jesus thank you.

 

[RedTent]

There are so many reasons for damaged relationships, so often there is nothing we can do to repair them. I have noticed that the base of most of them is someone not feeling loved. Strangers seldom become enemies, it is between those who love each other the most. It is hard to understand.

 

[secularhermit]

There are so many reasons for damaged relationships, so often there is nothing we can do to repair them. I have noticed that the base of most of them is someone not feeling loved. Strangers seldom become enemies, it is between those who love each other the most. It is hard to understand.

Well said, Mrs redtent!

Here and few minutes now, I tried to share my thought with someone who texted me things I don´t want to check from and outsider and, according to what I read, she felt despised just because I said: "I don´t want to listen" to a singer I think is singing something for her secularity... She felt hurt because I said I want nothing from the outside(8and it was a song she "dedicated" for me).

Goosh! If she was the singer I would listen, but I seldom listen to those who are not those I know as sound (acknowledging I´m not sound in all my ideas).

Strnagers seldom are enemies, except they want to rule or control our beings, our ways or things. They don´t know how to hurt us and, seldom, they want our attentions, and here is where we -as friends- failed, because we are in our minds, and we are not kind enough to tell people: "I want this from you" or, in the other hand, we are not smart enough to explain them: "I want nothing form outsiders"... We live inside our bubbles, and some are eager to come with a needle to hut it.

We can try to repair them! Things can be fixed, but few aren´t patient enough to see it well done.... Loving people is being responsible, even at the risk of being hurt (severely hurt, sometimes).

Yes! it´s hard to understand but each person knows his / her needs. Everything seems to be around on our emotional needs. What about the RESPECT of our peace of mind? Our spirituality and will?

Jesus said: Luk 11:33 "No one after lighting a lamp puts it in a cellar or under a basket, but on a stand, so that those who enter may see the light.

I think it very important to know who are those who entered... Those who left are free, but the light is for those WHO ENTERED, because these are those where light could be shared to see.

 

[RedTent]

We can try to repair them! Things can be fixed, but few aren´t patient enough to see it well done.... Loving people is being responsible, even at the risk of being hurt (severely hurt, sometimes).

Yes! it´s hard to understand but each person knows his / her needs. Everything seems to be around on our emotional needs. What about the RESPECT of our peace of mind? Our spirituality and will?

Jesus said: Luk 11:33 "No one after lighting a lamp puts it in a cellar or under a basket, but on a stand, so that those who enter may see the light.

I think it very important to know who are those who entered... Those who left are free, but the light is for those WHO ENTERED, because these are those where light could be shared to see.

Wouldn't you say, then, that with others we need to always be aware that our only responsibility to them is to build them up. God leaves them free to choose how they want to live, yet the closer we are, the more we love, the less we allow them that freedom that God gives them.

Another key is in the word "expectations". Often we want them to take the place of what only God can give, to have them meet our expectations for giving us love. Our thoughts against them are usually based on this. We are required to protect ourselves if someone harms us, to go away from them so they don't harm us again. What God requires of us if we must do that is to still love them and let them be free from our blame and anger. No one is to take away our light.

 

[Karraster]

"Expectations". Right you are Redtent. To an extent we all have expectations of relationships. Funny though, how poor our communication skills can be relating to this, and how so many things are taken so personally. Is it really "thoughtlessness" a deed either done or not done when a person was "expecting" something, and the other party had no idea this something (whatever it is) was expected of him/her?

About broken relationships, everything changes (except God). Sometimes it's better to find peace and forgiveness than try to mend things and strive to create the relationship as it was. It's not possible for it to be exactly as it was, because people are constantly changing themselves. If a relationship does not stand the test of time, perhaps it was not as good a relationship as once thought, but a mere illusion of what one wanted it to be.

 

[RedTent]

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QUOTE=Karraster;1581118
About broken relationships, everything changes (except God). Sometimes it's better to find peace and forgiveness than try to mend things and strive to create the relationship as it was. It's not possible for it to be exactly as it was, because people are constantly changing themselves. If a relationship does not stand the test of time, perhaps it was not as good a relationship as once thought, but a mere illusion of what one wanted it to be.[/QUOTE

]What a new and delightful idea to me. Repairing isn't in making it what it was for people change!! So repairing is in accepting others exactly as they are today.

A woman in our church family has been a lesbian and became a Christian. For several years, she obviously did not trust us to love her, there was a sort of hard crust around her. As she has grown in the Lord, now she sort of shines with love for others, reflecting the love of the Lord. I am struggling to accept the crusty person she was, and believe in the new person she is today in Christ. I need to grow!!

 

[just-me]

I like what has been posted by all. It always takes two to mend fences, or if you will, tear them down. If we are to shed light on darkness, as the Word says, we will be in this battle for as long as we live. I believe arbitrary forgiveness can be more detrimental in the long run than relating to all we love about the truth that is confirmed. Guilt that is hidden prolongs the schism because the hiding prohibits confession.

 

[secularhermit]

@ Red tent

As you said above, you self-protected because of her visceral "likes" THAT TIME... I would have felt, the same, if I was a woman but, I don´t feel "endangered" with a lesbian, because men are drawn to women. So, in may case, I had few problems on that matter, except the day I knew one of my friends had issues on that subject, and he asked me not to hug him (because I wasn´t aware of his problems). Since that time on, I stopped greeting him the way I was used, and I´m also happy GOD healed him to be married.

Thanks GOD for His healing grace.