What are the grounds of unequal yoking as mentioned in 2 Corinthians 6:14

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faithisthyvictory

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I'm a Baptist and our elders are discouraging us to be ina relationship unless itd be with a fundamentalist who is already growing in faith. Currently i have a bf and he's a pentecostal, when my churchmates found out about our relationship, they told me that its not good for me to continue the relationship because we have different stands we might have a problem if we pursue it until marriage.
" be not unequally yoke with unbelievers, for what fellowship has believers with unbelievers and what communion has light with darkness"-2Cor.6:14. In this verse, apostle Paul discouraged Christians to equally yoke with unbelievers but he didn't say that Baptist should only be married to a Baptist. A Pentecostal is also a believer of Christ, a Christian, believes that the Bible has the final and absolute authority, believes about salvation by grace. So i don't understand why my churchmates and even my family are against our relationship and what am i afraid about is, if our Pastor will know about it my qualification as a sunday school teacher will be questioned and i might be put on a hot seat. I need an enlightenment and a clear biblical principle about this. Please do share. Thank you
 
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faithisthyvictory said:
I'm a Baptist and our elders are discouraging us to be ina relationship unless itd be with a fundamentalist who is already growing in faith. Currently i have a bf and he's a pentecostal, when my churchmates found out about our relationship, they told me that its not good for me to continue the relationship because we have different stands we might have a problem if we pursue it until marriage.
" be not unequally yoke with unbelievers, for what fellowship has believers with unbelievers and what communion has light with darkness"-2Cor.6:14. In this verse, apostle Paul discouraged Christians to equally yoke with unbelievers but he didn't say that Baptist should only be married to a Baptist. A Pentecostal is also a believer of Christ, a Christian, believes that the Bible has the final and absolute authority, believes about salvation by grace. So i don't understand why my churchmates and even my family are against our relationship and what am i afraid about is, if our Pastor will know about it my qualification as a sunday school teacher will be questioned and i might be put on a hot seat. I need an enlightenment and a clear biblical principle about this. Please do share. Thank you
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You are correct in your understanding of 2 Cor 6:14. The only problem with different denominations would be in doctrinal issues. I am married to a Catholic [granted not a very "devout" Catholic] and I am not Catholic . . . discussions get heated at times . . . but we love each other and the differences do not interfere with our relationship. Bottom line we both love Christ.
 
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2 Cor 6:14 is not talking about marriage, although this same principle is to be extended to the marriage union. Christian are encouraged to avoid joining themselves to any kind of partnership with unbelievers including marriage. This is the same thing God commanded Israel in Deut. 7 when Israel was preparing to enter Canaan.
1“When the LORD your God brings you into the land where you are entering to possess it, and clears away many nations before you, the Hittites and the Girgashites and the Amorites and the Canaanites and the Perizzites and the Hivites and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and stronger than you, 2and when the LORD your God delivers them before you and you defeat them, then you shall utterly destroy them. You shall make no covenant with them and show no favor to them. 3“Furthermore, you shall not intermarry with them; you shall not give your daughters to their sons, nor shall you take their daughters for your sons. 4“For they will turn your sons away from following Me to serve other gods; then the anger of the LORD will be kindled against you and He will quickly destroy you."
 
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faithisthyvictory,
If you and your best friend truly love God and you find one day that you really love one another as more than friends and want to marry, then do it. If others wish to separate themselves from your Godly happiness, say goodbye to them.
 
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Believers are not to marry unbelievers. Not wise to marry an unbeliever if you know they are unbelievers and you are a believer.

For the cause of Christ
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notuptome said:
Believers are not to marry unbelievers. Not wise to marry an unbeliever if you know they are unbelievers and you are a believer.

For the cause of Christ
Roger
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They're both believers of different denominations.
 
JesusLives

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I am currently in love with a man from a different denomination. Main thing we have in common is an understanding of salvation in Jesus. I believe that any other issues we have will be worked out as we both request and long for indwelling of Holy Spirit who leads us into truth. I don't feel we are unequally yoked at all and look forward to a happy life together, worshiping God together and praying together....
 
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Certainly conflict can come when deciding how to raise your children in the faith, we are all christians and it sad that we would be divided so much as to have it effect our relationships. Very sad indeed.
 
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As long as he loves Jesus and God's Word, everything else being equal...go for it.
The two of you will compliment each other, adding to what the other lacks.
 
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This means spiritually speaking- not physically speaking. For example, you might spend more time with your coworkers at work than you do with Christians. But it means being yoked in heart- David and his best friend Johnathon are a good example of being spiritually yoked. I had a bf once who started getting into reading a satanic bible- not to follow it but to laugh at it. And I realized he doesn't take God as seriously as I do- therefore we are not on the same page. I broke up with him. But you are talking about two people who do believe and follow God to the best of their understanding. And because of this you feel you are both going the same way. But going to two different religions is not going the same way. If you tied two people together and the were both going the same way it wouldn't matter that they were tied. But what if you tied two people together who are going opposite ways? That wouldn't work. I've seen kids feel like they have to take sides- "Do we go to mom's church or to dad's church?" How confusing and unfair to a child. I don't feel you should date someone unless there is a possibility of marriage- it is not fair to string someone along. And marriage is the only relationship where you share absolutely everything- physically, emotionally, financially, your hopes and dreams, etc. If you don't share the same religious beliefs you will miss out on a marriage that is completely whole and shares absolutely everything. It may not seem like a problem now, but it will be a big problem later.
 
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Vernon said:
Certainly conflict can come when deciding how to raise your children in the faith, we are all christians and it sad that we would be divided so much as to have it effect our relationships. Very sad indeed.
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If you were speaking to me - children won't be an issue as they would say in Gone With The Wind - I ain't birthin no more babies as I am too old. We may have different doctrinal beliefs but I believe we could agree to disagree if it were necessary.
 
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A Christian is a Christian and I don't really believe much in denominations. I enjoy worship at a Pentecostal church - doesn't mean I feel loyal to any of their doctrines nor to I consider that is my denomination and would feel free to change my church if I so wished. I don't think Baptists and Pentecostals are that far apart anyway. A Roman Catholic is further removed though still a Christian.
 
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