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  1. Sherril's Avatar
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    As Born-again Christians dear one when we look to Jesus knowing who we are in Christ seeing how God sees us we are transformed, our focus is on Him...He lifts us out of the miry clay...He puts our feet on solid ground...I pray your heart is submitted, surrendered, to where God has 1st place in your heart...I have found in life as God has 1st place in my life and heart...Abba my God can do His will in me and through me...look to Jesus dear one He is near...draw nigh to God and He will draw nigh...close to you...let not your heart be troubled neither let it be afraid....trust in the Lord and the Power of His might...Love in Christ Sherril....
    Updated 12 Hours Ago at 05:32 PM by Sherril
  2. loverofjesus27's Avatar
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    #1. Drink carrot juice 100% natural. Not sweetened. That will give you lots of energy believe me. And drink that as much as you can. That will also melt the pounds away you’re gonna feel the difference. Carrot juice. Also buy a dog or a cat. Or look for someone at church.
  3. Marshmellow's Avatar
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    You can always try to open your heart out more. Try to put all the things you like to do together and make it fun for you also add some spice. Even if your not working no more , find other ways to make it fun with the friends that you are closest to the most. Don't let your surroundings get the best of you. You can overcome darkness ..you can break free from the chains of darkness. You do not have to suffocate in despair any longer. Your life is worth more and your soul is more valuable to God. He truly does love you. Always pray even if your going through the toughests of time.
  4. GOP's Avatar
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    Great message. Thanks for sharing Ma'am.
  5. mcubed's Avatar
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    What a BUNCH OF CRAP!!! Your communication does not suck, he does not care what you say; you are obviously a talker. Destroy your life don't destroy with him. When your done G-d will be there. ANYONE OVER 3 YEARS OLD, who was not raped as a baby has baggage, so the question is not for us but you what kind of baggage do you want to have? You already sound damaged and if your thinking how wants you, if I was a guy I would not but G-d still does and He can fix....
  6. Ugly's Avatar
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    While i'm here i'll answer, though. This entire post is nothing but you stating your own answer. Your issue here isn't that you don't know what to do but that you feel trapped between guilt and doing what is right. That wording alone should make things more clear.

    An interesting thing i've learned recently is that often times when we react with guilt we are Not protecting other people, we are protecting ourselves. It's often a selfish act that we tell ourselves is selfless.
    The options here... tell him you want to break up, he suffers the pain of a breakup, recovers and is free to move on with his life, while you're able to live your life as well. And not have some idol destroying your future and your spiritual walk.
    Or don't tell him, marry him and ruin your life, ruin your walk with God. And when the inevitable divorce happens it'll be much worse for him than a breakup now.
    Which one is really protecting him and which one is hurting him worse?
    One option makes things hard on someone for a little while, the other option ruins two lives and kills someones spiritual walk.

    Be honest with yourself, to protect your own feelings (not his, like you tell yourself) right now you're setting God aside. People break up. People recover from breakups. I've been in some very close relationships that were ended on me. And i'm still here. I survived.

    The real question you have to ask yourself is whether or not your commitment to God is really as strong as you think. You abandon God and His ways for a man. And you stay away from God to stay with this man. In actuality you're choosing this man over God. No doubt you'll deny it, but that's exactly what your actions are doing whether you want to admit it or not.

    Also you say there's signs of potential abuse (a huge accusation, by the way), yet you still won't leave because it will 'devastate' him. How devastating will it be the first time he screams at you? Calls you names? Puts you down? Hits you? What about the second time? Third time? Twentieth time? What if you're married and feel obligated to stay? If you don't have the guts to end things now you won't have the guts to refuse him children either. What if he abuses them? Or you in front of them?

    This entire situation screams nothing but destroyed lives and your excuse is 'i don't want him to feel bad'. Is that really using any wisdom? Is that really the truth? There's more going on.

    You don't know what to do or say? Break up with him. Don't lie or make excuses. Sit down, talk with him like an adult. Avoid saying things that are accusing (such as the comments about potential abuse) and instead cover some basic reasons.

    The choice is easy. Doing what's right is often much harder. But not doing what's right is the REAL devastating part.
  7. Ugly's Avatar
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    You need to post in the forums, not the blogs. Blogs get few if any answers. Forums are where people interact.
    Also the second part of your post is a wall of text. Try breaking it up into paragraphs so it's easier for people to read.
  8. AuntieAnt's Avatar
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    Yes, I understand, Daniel and that's a terrible dilemma to be in. The thing is, most people go thru such a dark place so you definitely ain't alone in your struggle. Ya know what else, dear? You're young. You're so very young and have life ahead of you.

    If I was your mom, I'd want you to talk to me. Have you tried discussing with your parents that you feel in despair about your situation? Perhaps they can help steer you in a new direction. I know they don't mind you being with them.

    Don't let pride or even humility stand in your way of peace of mind. Let it all go to God and start making strides to change your thoughts. I'm telling you, negative talk makes your burdens like a living hell. Thoughts of light give you energy and joy and strength.

    I'm not telling you not to express your dark moods. I write poetry when I'm down, too. I'm saying don't let all your talk be dark. Because you'll lose more & more strength. Give your heart & mind a break sometimes and let God's light flow thru you and lift you back up, young man of God.

    The Lord bless you, dear Daniel. I'm sure there are a lot of people here praying for you, too. You're our precious important young brother. :hugs:

  9. dpecheur10's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by AuntieAnt
    My friend, I am concenred about you. You can't keep living with such dark, hopeless thoughts and feeling like you have no life in you. Perhaps you would benefit from immediate crisis counseling. Please contact someone to talk with about what options are available for you.

    https://www.crisissupport.org/programs/crisis-line/

    https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

    https://www.crisistextline.org/

    LA County Department of Public Health
    hi auntie ant, i appreciate your genuine concern for me... i am in a dark place-- and the crucial issue is because of my employment situation since quitting the teaching career about a year ago and trying to navigate forward-- finding an alternative career. finding my place n this world. im n a bleak place. broke. stuck. parents dont know what to make of me anymore. few people know me. i just dont know what direction to go in. i just feel lost. alone. desperate.
  10. dpecheur10's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tommy379
    Get a hobby. Take up a sport. Chicks dig athletes. God likes sports. He's a Green Bay Packers fan.
    Originally Posted by Tommy379Get a hobby. Take up a sport. Chicks dig athletes. God likes sports. He's a Green Bay Packers fan.



    my problem is far far away from not having a hobby. i have a passion. writing. i have other passions as well. there are plenty of things i enjoy doing. except depression sucks the soul out of u, as well as long term unemployment.
    so i dont really enjoy anything right now.

    and as for sports--- i detest them. I HATE SPORTS. i cannot play sports. as in-- i literally cannot play sports. i am dyspraxic. sports have done nothing but cause me a lot of humiliation and embarrassment-- p.e. classes did nothing but inflict a lot of damage on my self-esteem growing up. i recoil at the thought of sports. i have an extremely negative association with them to the point that i will never so much as throw a ball again. im serious. and yes-- you're right. chicks do dig athletes. and i'm not one and never will be. i'm a sensitive writer with few friends, an overactive imagination, intense passion, a problem with depression/mood disorders, a history of failure and total dissatisfaction in the way of relationships and careers and now im stuck at an impasse my life is a wreck im broke and have no flippin clue what to do... chicks don't like that kind of guy. and i dont like it either.

    so while i appreciate your advice and know it is well-intentioned-- seeking a hobby or trying to be something i can literally physically never be in order to be attractive- these just aren't solutions for me.
  11. dpecheur10's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tommy379
    Get a hobby. Take up a sport. Chicks dig athletes. God likes sports. He's a Green Bay Packers fan.
    my problem is far far away from not having a hobby. i have a passion. writing. i have other passions as well. there are plenty of things i enjoy doing. except depression sucks the soul out of u, as well as long term unemployment.
    so i dont really enjoy anything right now.

    and as for sports--- i detest them. I HATE SPORTS. i cannot play sports. as in-- i literally cannot play sports. i am dyspraxic. sports have done nothing but cause me a lot of humiliation and embarrassment-- p.e. classes did nothing but inflict a lot of damage on my self-esteem growing up. i recoil at the thought of sports. i have an extremely negative association with them to the point that i will never so much as throw a ball again. im serious. and yes-- you're right. chicks do dig athletes. and i'm not one and never will be. i'm a sensitive writer with few friends, an overactive imagination, intense passion, a problem with depression/mood disorders, a history of failure and total dissatisfaction in the way of relationships and careers and now im stuck at an impasse my life is a wreck im broke and have no flippin clue what to do... chicks don't like that kind of guy. and i dont like it either.

    so while i appreciate your advice and know it is well-intentioned-- seeking a hobby or trying to be something i can literally physically never be in order to be attractive- these just aren't solutions for me.
  12. tourist's Avatar
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    My first blog entry that was written shortly after I joined this site is very similar to yours. I pray for God to remove the cloud of depression that is hovering over you and to open the walls of the prison on your mind that you are currently in.
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    "I'd like to encourage that Jesus Christ can bring us back from the darkest despair because Jesus did it for me..."

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    esus did it for me too... Dpecheur, God's miracle is on its way! Keep on asking, seeking and praying, and we're with you on this. Daily, faithfully wait on the Lord, as He keeps His promises and He will take you out of that airless hole and give new life. In Jesus' mighty, holy Name.
    Updated 4 Days Ago at 07:11 PM by mar09
  14. Deror's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by tourist
    I believe that your friend needs to go out with another friend or acquaintance for safety and support.
    Hi Tourist, hope you're ok.... God bless your family :-)

    sorry I've not been around, I've been thinking a lot, had a few things to sort out and have been spring cleaning the house!!
    Hope to ketchup real soon Miss you guys !!

    I think you're right you know, I honestly believe Jesus was thinking of safety and support, like you said, when He sent His disciples out two by two... Thanks for your thoughts
  15. Deror's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tinuviel
    Like Ugly said, you'd get more responses in a thread instead of a blog. Honestly, it greatly depends upon SO many situations.

    I would do it in my hometown. It's small, and people tend to know about other people and be watching out for them. There are two houses I can think of right off the bat that I would NOT go to by myself. A bigger city or more hostile environment would be something totally different.

    Is she with a church? Isn't there a friend from there who could go with her, even just as backup?
    Thanks for your reply, I'll delete this and repost but just wanted to respond...

    Yes, I suppose the geographics are something to consider regarding whether to go alone... The more I've thought on it, I think Jesus had a good reason for sending out His disciples in two's...

    Shes not not attending a Church at the moment... She found her last Church, although very encouraging in engaging her with plenty to do, when she expressed wanting to evangelise, they avoided the issue and pointed her solely to the Churches activities and said she'd need a leader to supervise... She said this left her frustrated because they didn't evangelise directly but only through social activities and programmes...

    But the idea of just having someone as back-up sounds good... She's thinking she needs someone who wants to share The Gospel too, she doesn't want to be held back in telling people the Good news.. That's all she wants to do..

    Thanks for your ideas, Jesus bless
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ugly
    This is a blog, not a thread. Blogs receive few to no answers. You'll need to post in actual threads if you want responses.
    Thanks for pointing that out, sorry about that....

    Maybe blogs are just for posting out thoughts, or a journal type thingy...

    I'll just respond to people then delete and repost in the forum.. Thanks !!
  17. Deror's Avatar
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    https://www.aacc.net


    https://connect.aacc.net/?search_type=distance


    I'm concerned for dpecheur too and would like to add to the list of crisis signposting links, the association of Christian Counsellors too, the second link is where you can search in your area.

    (P.S, I'm not advocating solely Christian counsellors, I pray you find the right help for you personally)


    When things were really bad for me, I found a kind counsellor who, after learning more of my financial situation said to me, I'm offering you counselling for free.


    Dear Jesus, May dpecheur receive the right help, at the right time, with the right person, in Jesus name.


    ⚪️


    I'd like to encourage that Jesus Christ can bring us back from the darkest despair because Jesus did it for me...


    I pray dpecheur can believe Jesus can help him too. God is mighty to save... And can make athletes and writers, evangelists, administrators, treasurers (and much more) out of us all


    Please continue to ask for prayers... It's a privilege to pray for you and your needs...
    Praying offline for you and your life too - you're just as precious to Jesus as everyone else. He truly loves you.

    God Most High is so creative, He made us all the same yet different... You are unique, yet you're part of the rich tapestry of His creation.. Wonderfully made!!!


    God is able to do amazing things within you and in your life...
  18. Tommy379's Avatar
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    Get a hobby. Take up a sport. Chicks dig athletes. God likes sports. He's a Green Bay Packers fan.
  19. AuntieAnt's Avatar
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    My friend, I am concenred about you. You can't keep living with such dark, hopeless thoughts and feeling like you have no life in you. Perhaps you would benefit from immediate crisis counseling. Please contact someone to talk with about what options are available for you.

    https://www.crisissupport.org/programs/crisis-line/

    https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

    https://www.crisistextline.org/

    LA County Department of Public Health
  20. lightbearer's Avatar
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    Have Faith and move on. Forgetting those things that are behind and move forward to the high calling that is in Christ Jesus. The battle is of one and is one so in Faith when confronted with the woes of our minds and hearts we counter it with a get behind me Satan for it is finished. For we have entered into the Body of Christ through Baptism. The Life we now live in the Flesh we live by the Faith of the Son of GOD. We have entered into the joy of the LORD.
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